Is my boyfriend a mama's boy?
Ok, so my boyfriend is 28 and has been married before, he was with his ex wife for 6 years and has been divorced for 2 years. He owns his own house, and after his divorce he brought his mom,dad, and little brother from Mexico to come live with him (not sure if this was after the divorce or late stages of his marriage). His dad has since fleed back to Mexico and abandoned his mom and brother...and they have been living in his house since. His mom is constantly doing his laundry, ironing his clothes, and making his lunch. We already had a discussion on this, because I once had a bad experience with an ex who put his mother first. I told him I wouldnt be second, and he explained to me that he loves his mom and the love he has for me is different etc...that his mom and bro wont be in his house forever, hes just not settled, he's single, etc. But.......heres the thing, he got drunk one night about a week ago. And he started crying and getting emotional. He was hugging his mom and telling her how he loved her and that she was his girl. I was so mad that I huffed around and ignored him when he came up to hug me, and refused to stay with him that night. But guess who stayed with him in his room holding him as he convulsed from puking? Yep his mother. How do I bring this up to him. I feel like he puts me second, yet I dont feel like I have a right to say anything...we've been together for 8 months and i'm just his girlfriend. I understand that him and his mom went through alot together. They had alot of bad times...but I think she does too much for him. How do I tell him that he needs to become more independant? And do you think he is truly a mama's boy? Is he hopeless?
How can I help my boyfriend get over with Mama's boy syndrome?
Well, you should probably try and make sure your desire to change him isn’t the problem first. Because, once you get started down this path, it is a hard thing to stop. And, what’s worse than a mama’s boy is one whose whipped on his gf/wife.After that, you should probably encourage him to be his own man and build up his self-trust. Self-trust is the thing that helps us be less dependent on others and solely pleasing them.Just, caution….don’t try and replace his mama with yourself. Not as an ultimatum. Not as a goal. Not as a reality. You will not succeed. You also shouldn’t want to.
What should I do? My boyfriend is a mommas boy, he gives priority to his mother more than me even if she is wrong.
In India a boy love towards his mother is unconditional and a daughter loves towards her father is unconditional, it's quite natural phenomenon. Not only mother and son relationship Whenever you feel the other person he/she could be blood relative or a friend who is close to you, even though they do wrong things our emotion attached with them dominates our judging in most of the cases. If you are feeling that her mother is doing wrong try to explain him only to a certain limit. If you cross the limit, it may not be good for you.
Is it normal for my boyfriend to sleep in the same bed with his mother?
My almost fiance, who is 25 years old, still sleeps in the same bed as his mother. She lives in a different country, so he only sees her about once or twice a year. He lives with his dad and his dad allows the mom to come and stay at the house for long periods of time (between 2-4 weeks usually). But when she is out to visit, they sleep in the same room. Yet she doesn't sleep with my fiances brother when she visits the brother. Is this normal? Am I being blinded by love that something may be going on behind closed doors? When I spend the night, he sleeps in the room with me, but when I'm not at the house, he sleeps with her. He also has a picture of her in his room, when he has no other pictures in his room, including none of me. I need answers. Google hasn't helped!
What are some signs a man is a "momma's boy"?
ugh been there done that. They are getting sneakier but here some signs: 1. speak to their mother several times a day. Not normal. I dont really think everday is normal. 2. he has ANYTHING in her name. Car insurance, a car, a loan, anything. with a few exceptions, not a good sign 3. she has all his information. his birth cert., social security card, etc. ur a man u should have all ur information. 4. he introduces you to her VERY early in the relationship. Women once considered this sweet. This is actually a ploy to see how u compare to her and to let her judge you. 5. She does his normal adult tasks prepares his taxes, washes his clothes, buys his groceries, sets up his medical appointments, stops by and cleans up his place-not good. Men do their own stuff. 6. if she EVER picks up/answers/replies to texts on his cell. MAMA's BOY 7. cancels plans with you to do something trivial for mother. Outside of medical issues, or something he should have taken care of but didnt. A regular mother can wait until sunday, shes not gonna demand her son do something for her on a friday or sat nite when he has a date. My friends date just cancelled on her because he was building a shelf or something random home improvement wise. It was nothing that couldnt wait. Shes no longer seeing him. It can be hard, these guys are tricky. Especially as they get older. Also watch for the ones who attatch too soon, they could just be looking for another woman to latch on to but often the mama's hold is too strong....
Is it normal that I got my boyfriend $25,000 worth of gifts and never got much in return?
Stop spending these huge sums of money on him. Really. Stop. Why do you do that? He doesn’t reciprocate, and do you really feel you need to buy him this way? No, this isn’t normal. You’re spending ridiculous amounts of money on a boyfriend you haven’t even known for that long who never does the same for you. It looks desperate. Maybe you have tons of money and can throw it away on a boyfriend without ever missing a meal. If that’s true, do what you want. But you’re treating him like a gigolo. He says he’ll make it up to you, which sounds like he’s happy to ask you for highly costly gifts since you seem to eager to provide them, but he will never, never make this up to you. So almost a year. A few months of this guy and you are coming across with high sums of money. Why? I hope he’s worth it to you. Buying his mother a $50k car is actually normal for people who have that kind of money. What you are doing is not normal. He isn’t a relative. You aren’t responsible for him. You aren’t married to him. He doesn’t do the same for you. You’re just trying to tie him to you by giving him costly things, and that really never works.
The men of which sign are typically the biggest momma's boys?
I'm thinking either Cancer or Scorpio. I know Cancer men are known for being clingy, and I know a couple of Scorpio men whose moms were terrible to them, yet they defend/worship/love them to death. What do you think? Which zodiac sign loves their mommies the most? (You can include girls, too. For girls, I'd say Sagittarius or Pisces)