My boyfriend is joining the U.S. Marines. How do I handle the distance and not being able to speak to him much? I refuse to leave him.
How you handle it is by considering your options and making a decision. You have to understand this is his decision, and support him one way or another. Supporting him doesn’t mean you have to stay with him, just that you aren’t angry and understand his need to join up. Should you choose to stay with him, there’s more to consider.The life of a significant other for our troops is very different than others. If you love him, like really love him, stick it out. He will be gone for a while training, he will be stationed somewhere that’s probably not home. Deployments last anywhere from 6–14 months. Many of our troops opt to rush in marriage so they can be with their significant other and get out of the barracks. Rushing into it is not a good idea, I don’t know about other branches but for first term Marines the divorce rate is 110%. Seriously. Many of my friends came home from the war to find their wives/girlfriends were not faithful. Some of my friends had excellent wives/girlfriends, who supported their man through thick and thin.Being a significant other for our troops is a job of its own. The ones that do it right are greatly appreciated. Many wives/girlfriends lean on each other during deployments and training, and there’s things you can do like joining auxiliary support clubs to find others in the same situation. It doesn’t take a strong woman to do this, it does take one that is in a really loving relashinship though.So you can say you want to stick it out and live the life of loving and supporting significant other for one of our warriors, or you can say this is not the life I want and cut your losses. Remember that you are both making a big decision and there doesn’t need to be any anger on either side. Just if you decide to try it and see how it goes, build the foundation of your relashinship on faithfulness and DO NOT rush into a marriage.Good luck!
Joining air force, boyfriend joining the marines?
I'm going into 12th grade, and 17 years old. My boyfriend is 18 going to 11th. We have been dating for over a year. After I graduate, I'm going to join the air force (talking to a recruiter tommorow) and my boyfriend wants to join the marines. My family keeps telling me that we aren't going to be able to last since he's in another branch and will be farther back than I will. It has really been bothering me a lot lately, because I really love him. We want to get married in the future and open our own business. Is there any way for us to be able to live together? Or will being in different branches possibly destroy our relationship like my family says? Thank you :)
Should i marry my boyfriend who is joining the marines?
Ok....hopefully you internet people can help! Ive known my boyfriend since 6th grade and we have dated on and off since then. Now we are back together and we are happy...but he wants to join the USMC. at first i was scared naturally but now im supportive...but i want to go with him. His recruiter told him we should get married before he enlist so i can travel with him. We both have a friend who is in USMC who said its easier to have support of someone you love why you in training. I want to support my boyfriend...like i said i love him..but we are only 20 and my parents wouldnt approve...I just started a new job too..and i wanna go to school as well...so i have to take that into account. The money he will get would help me pay for school and i would be able to move out of my parents house (Which is a major plus)...but is it to early and i have so many questions....and i want some women advice (our recruit is a dude). So here are some questions i would like answered on both and emotional standpoint as well as logical 1) If i do marry him i know he will be away for long periods of time...what resources will i have to help me so i dont feel so alone. (I can barely stand it when we are away from each other now!!) 2) Will i be able to go to school? and is it better to go to one online or a campus 3) if he is stationed some where far (there telling us he might have to go to South Carolina) will i have to buy my own plane ticket to follow him...and then will i have tot handle all the living arrangements alone once i get there 4) what should i expect if i dont marry him? if there is anything else you think i should kno please tell me... thanx for your help!
My boyfriend is thinking about joining the marines what do i do?
I am a military wife and let me say that it will not be easy. If u love him, stay with him because he will need u more than ever while he is in the military. Just be warned that there will be times when ur relationship will be tested. If u don't think u can stand by him while he goes through one of the most challenging and rewarding and at times extremely difficult things in his life, get out now because it will only get harder. He will probably be gone for long periods of time too so get used to being alone and worried about his safety 24/7. Also, be prepared for an extreme lifestyle change. I'm not trying to discourage u because love is very important in a persons life. I'm only trying to give u some perspective. If ur worried about him leaving u...well there will probably be temptation (from other women or military wives) because the military is full of it. Confidence is the best thing u can show him though. Be his rock and someone he can admire because if u do that, he wont want anyone else. If a woman can be the one thing that makes a man want to push on when times are rough (like in basic training) then he will be glad ur there when he needs u and wont want to jeopardize that. Girlfriends are very important to soldiers so be that person for him if u choose.
My Boyfriend is Joining the Marines in September, What Should I Expect?
Hi, so my boyfriend and I have been together six months and are both 20 years old. I'm in college and he's going into the Marines. He leaves this fall for basic training and I am nervous about our relationship. I've really fallen deeply in love with him and as scary as it sounds I think we could have a future together. However the military is going to change a lot and I am wondering from other marine or military women what to expect? Thank you!
My boyfriends joining the marines...what to expect?
Hey hun! Good for you that youre supporting him :) My hubby went in right after graduation and now we are 21 and happily married for almost 2 years! Your boyfriend will be in for 4 years but by "gone" if you mean deployed? no way! he will be deployed probably a few times for around 7 months at a time but not for the whole 4 years lol. he will be stationed somewhere on a base and get paid usually the 1st & 15th of every month. his pay rate depends on rank, years of service, # of dependents, things like that. if you two decide to get married, you will get benefits and stuff..(its too much to go into on here) you will be able to live with him either on base or off. the quality of housing on base depends on where youre stationed..most of it isnt terrible, but you should look for apartments off base and exhaust that option before settling for on base housing. if you do not want to get married he will have to get permission to move off base and pay for it out of pocket instead of getting money for housing. its really up to you but if you plan on staying with him through it all it makes life alot easier to get married. the military does not recognize girlfriends or even fiances unfortunately so it gets difficult at times for un-married couples. hope this helped, if you have any other questions feel free to email me i was in ur shoes only a few years ago! good luck to you both and best wishes to your boyfriend on his decision! hope it all works out for you! xo
What do I do since my boyfriend is training to become a marine?
I can understand your concern and worry. During the first 72 hours he will have been required (or at least given the chance) to write his parents/family so as to send them his contact info, something along the lines of a note or card saying write to:Recruit Joe Schmukateli, Plt 1053, 1st Battalion, RTR, MCRD San Diego, CA 92929That said there is very little time to write during basic training. SUPPOSEDLY recruits are given time at night and on Sunday to write, but at least for us, that was imaginary. The only time I could write was after lights out (>2200) when I'd sneak letter writing while sitting on the can. It should be easier to do nowadays since everything's easier.I'd get his contact info from his parents and write him, sending your address while at it. It may be he forgot yours since I doubt he wrote you before as everything now is via text or email.Good luck. PS: you might want to teach yourself 24 hour time and some USMC information, e.g., rank structure, difference between a commissioned officer and enlisted is, unit sizes such as platoon, company, battalion, and other lingo so you can relate to him and easily understand what he is saying. If he has to explain what every word is, e.g. “head” “DI”, “reveille”, etc he might get frustrated. He may appreciate your effort to learn what he's been learning.Good luck!
How can I convince my boyfriend to NOT join the Marines?
So, at my school they constantly have Marine recruiters coming in and convincing all the little highschool boys to become Marines and my boyfriend fell for it Freshman year(now he's a senior). But he's always telling me that the only reason he's going is because he feels it would teach him a lesson, his dads pushing him to do it, and he feels unneeded in this world. But I tell him it upsets me because I really do love him and I don't think he understand how much it honestly HURTS me. I feel like he'd change if he went, and our relationship would go to waste. I can't handle that damage, and I can't stand to watch him make a foolish decision. Now he's flunking all his classes because he just wants to be a Marine. I've bawled to him, countless times, asking him to not do it, and telling him he could do so many better things, but nothing seems to convince him. He'll agree not to then say he's still going a week later. :( How can I communicate with him? Cause this is killing me inside.:( Please & thank you.
My boyfriend wants to join the marines, but I don't want that life. What do we do?
Counseling, that is something you should be getting if you are having some issues in your life at the moment. There is nothing wrong with going to counseling at all because it is going to help you deal with what is happening and find support not just from your boyfriend but possibly others who know how you feel at the moment. You are in some ways associating his leaving with the lose that you have had of loved ones. While it is the same it is different in other ways but each person deals with their personal situations in their own ways. With getting the help you can reach a compromise where you can both get what you want. You agree to get the counseling and he delays his joining until you have come to a point where you can handle things on your own. You get past it taking it one day at a time. There are going to be days that suck and all you want to do is stay in bed and go nowhere or talk to anyone. But then there are days that are incredible, you are able to get out and see/do so much with the person that you love. It takes time, patience and a lot of acceptance to do things on your own. Not everyone is prepared for that or can handle it and there is nothing wrong with it.
How can i convince my boyfriend to not join the marines?
Your not wrong to feel the way that you do. You absolutely should tell your boyfriend that you don't want him to go and why. That being said, he has a right to feel the way that he does too. Probably this has been something he has been thinking about for a long while. The best thing you can do is to help him make an informed decision about his future. And part of that is he needs to know that if he does this, you may not be there for him romantically. Then you have to step back and let him make his choice. Do your best not to guilt him into staying if he wants to go. Even if the choice goes your way it may cause resentment that will damage your relationship. You are very smart in letting him make this decision. (Do not ever use the phrase 'If you loved me you'd . . . ) If he goes, try to support his decision, as a friend at least, if not a girlfriend. He will need it. I understand that long distance is hard, but it can be done (I've been away from my bf for two years now) The armed forces, and especially the Marines, provide many opportunities that would be otherwise unavailable. He will have some great chances to better his life and make a difference in the world. The other thing to bear in mind is that you both are so very young, and got together when you were even younger. If it turns out that he's not the guy for you, for whatever reason, there will be other guys (although it will hurt for a while). You each will be changing a lot over the next five to ten years. My boyfriend and I are both radically different than we were when we were twenty. This is true even if you aren't in the military. Him not going into the military is no guarantee that you will still be together four years from now. This is where everybody has to grow up sweetie. Maturity is hard I know, especially when things change so drastically. Especially when you want to hang on to what you have and keep it the way it is. I know this isn't what you wanted to hear, but I hope it helps.