What should I do when my boyfriend never says he loves me?
Well, firstly, perhaps he doesn’t love you. Not every relationship proceeds to love, which is a pretty intense and special feeling that only comes a long a few times (at most) in a lifetime. Some people feel that it shouldn’t be said until they really feel that ultra-special feeling; some people are more… “generous” in applying the word “love” to their feelings.If he does love you, perhaps he doesn’t feel comfortable saying so, and I think this is what you’re suggesting - he doesn’t express his affection verbally. Many people find that this doesn’t come naturally. For every person that gushes out their feelings (guilty!), there are more who find it feels awkward and uncomfortable for them to do so. There’s nothing wrong with that; it’s just one of many differences that make us all unique.So you have a few options.You can either look harder for other signs that he has feelings for you, and be content with those. Look for the other gestures that show he cares - does he remember what your favourite flavour of icecream is, buy you chocolate when you have had a bad day, phone you to ask how your exams went, ask how your sick parent is today, or ask if you want breakfast in bed when you’re feeling sick? Those might be his way of showing that he has special feelings for you.You can encourage him to express his feelings, gradually. You can tell him how you feel, and over time he might reciprocate. “Babe, I just adore you!” And see how he responds.You can ask him outright - crazy, right? (I’m amazed how people often see this as the last resort.)“I notice that you don’t often say how you feel. Does that feel uncomfortable for you?”And see how he responds.Or you could tell him how you feel!“I notice that you don’t often express how you feel about me. It’s really important to me to feel secure in our relationship to hear you say the words. Do you think you’d be willing to try telling me how you feel about me a little more?”
My boyfriend says he only finds me attractive?
I am my boyfriends first girlfriend, he is 20. We have been together for about 6 months. He is a huge nerd, into video games, he LOVES math and computers, but he's a wonderful guy. He calls me beautiful every day, tells me what he loves about me, and we have very similar personalities. He is not my first boyfriend...I've had about 4 (major relationships) before him. I don't know why no other girl ever said "yes" to him when he asked them out, he's such a sweet heart. He's smart (Deans list at a highly accredited university), he has goals, and a good future in store for him. But he constantly tells me I'm the only one he looks at. When I ask him why, he says he just reminds himself that he doesn't need anyone else, I'm plenty for him because I'm perfect (for him). So why would he need to look at anyone else? is what he says. I've also asked him to not look at porn...which I'm pretty sure he doesn't, so no worries there. :) But, I have had a boyfriend before, I know that men look at other attractive women. Is it possible for a guy like this to exist, one that only looks at his girlfriend, and only finds her attractive? He always tells me I'm the most beautiful girl ever, sexy, adorable, wonderful. Is he being truthful or just nice? I've asked him that if he is lying, to please just tell me the truth. I've told him in the past that I hate liars, and have told him plenty of times, that if he were to tell me the truth, I wouldn't be mad. I value the truth, even if it hurts, more than a lie, because then I know I could trust him to always be truthful. He always tells me he's not lying. What do you think? And yes: I know you'll ask if I look at other men. I'm not denying looking at other men. I've just never met a guy like this before, and I was wondering if he's REALLY telling the truth. And if you think he isn't, how can I get him to be truthful about it?
Why can't my boyfriend say he loves me?
"Love" means different things to different people.To some people it may mean, "I like you in a way I like no one else, and I miss you when I'm not with you." To some people it may mean "I care more about your well-being and happiness than anyone other than myself." Too often it means "You're so hot — I want to be having sex with you, and only you, all the time." Sometimes it means "I want to spend the rest of my life with you, have babies, share finances, and grow old together." There are lots of other meanings, including people who may say it too easily and superficially — "I love Doritos" or "I love football" or "I think I love you…come home with me tonight?"Think about what you mean by the term. What do you think it means to your boyfriend? You may have very different meanings behind the term, and what you want to hear isn't something he is ready to (or wants to) say.Why do you expect him to say that now? Do you say it, looking for a reflexive answer to confirm your own feelings? Are you feeling insecure for reasons you may not understand? Has your relationship recently changed in some way to become more intimate and you are seeking validation?Think about how he treats you and what he does say. Is he respectful? Does he care about what you think and say? Is he considerate? Does he treat you well in front of his friends as well as when he is alone with you? Does he do nice things for you without prompting or expectation of reward? Sometimes, actions speak louder than the words do, especially with people who don't verbalize their feelings well.There are many ways to say "I love you" that are not always heard by the listener: drive safely, dress warmly, call me when you get home, get a flu shot…. We generally don't regularly say those things to people unless we care about them deeply.All of the above are worth thinking about in any serious romantic relationship. I would suggest that you asking the question here, rather than asking him directly, indicates your relationship is not yet deep enough where some people would be comfortable using the word "love."
My boyfriend says he only loves me sometimes....?
Your boyfriend is not in love with you. He loves you but that is as far as it goes. Being in love with someone or just loving someone is not the same thing. A person can be in a relationship for years with the same person but that does not mean that he/she is in love with his/her partner. I think you need to evaluate your relationship with your boyfriend. If he does not love you then don't waste any more time with him. There are plenty of guys out there just dying to go out with you. You need to be with someone that loves you just as much as you love him. Never settle for less. You deserve much better than that.
When your boyfriend only says that he is sorry for something he did, is he trying to avoid a discussion?
Not enough info. You can be right and still be wrong. A guy can tease and then find out it wasn't funny. Discussions are fine, but there is such a thing as beating a dead horse. Do you want discussions to go on longer because you are still upset and you don't feel like you have got your pound of flesh yet? Or do you feel he is caving and he does not understand why he was wrong. You can always ask him to tell you why he feels it is wrong now when he still did it. The worse thing to admit is that you did something and you did not have a good reason to. A discussion is an exchange of ideas that leads to a meeting of the minds. An argument is an exchange of bile and emotions and venting and usually has very little to do with the meeting of the minds and a lot more about venting frustrations and disappointments.
Boyfriend says "i love you" when hes drunk?
My boyfriend has a habit of saying "i love you" when hes drunk.. its not every time, but theres been about 4 times now and we've only been together about 3 months... the first time he was saying "i love you so much, i love you more than anything, you know i do". and last night when we were saying bye on the phone he said "love you" and said it again a bit later. i usually just say you're just drunk you dont know what you're saying, or something like that but he insists its true. a couple times, the morning after he would say "i meant everything i was saying". i dont know what to do about it, it always catches me off guard and he only says it when drunk.. what should i say next time and why does he do that? its confusing! hes 23
My boyfriend only says he loves me when he's drunk?
I said "i love you" for the first time to my boyfriend when I was drunk too. I had wanted to say it for awhile but we were in a long distance relationship and I wasn't really sure how he'd react. We talked on the phone almost everyday, we wrote letters, we were exclusive, but I was still very insecure about that aspect of our relationship. He was in the army at the time stationed in Germany so I had my doubts about whether we were serious or not, but the next day after I said it, I felt so foolish. He mentioned it but just said I didn't mean it. Sure enough, the next week I received a letter in the mail that had been written months before where he wrote that he's been wanting to tell me he loves me and that he doesn't know if he'll ever get the courage to send the letter, but he had to put it down on paper! From then on, I love you was said on the phone, without the need of booze. My advice, if you really do love him, say it when you are both sober and alone. See if he says it back. It sounds like you both are unsure of how the other one feels and neither of you want to put yourself out there in fear of rejection, or that the other person doesn't feel the same way, or as strongly. Women are extremely intimidating to men, sometimes they just need reassurance or confidence. In my opinion, I think he really does love you but is just too scared to say it without the courage he gets from alcohol.
My boyfriend says "Love You" instead of "I Love You"?
I have been with my boyfriend for over 7 months now. He is 23 and I'm 20. Recently, my boyfriend and I started saying I Love You. On the day he came over, he pulled up to my house with a vase of pink roses and said it as he was handing them to me and gave me a kiss. Of course I said it back. Over the course of the weekend we spent together we would say it occasionally. Then today he sent me a text before he was going to bed, and I responded with a "Good night, I love you!" and he responded with, "Love you too!" Is there a difference between saying "love you" and I love you"?
Is there a reason my boyfriend doesn’t say “I love you”, but says “Love you”? Does it mean anything?
I text my daughter several times a week. I don't talk to her a lot on the phone due to her shift pattern. We see each other approximately every three weeks. I may end a text with four kisses (xxxx). I may say “goodnight sweetheart” or “love you loads". There is always affection at some point.The difference here is I have had my daughter a very long time, we have a very strong bond and we love each other to bits.Your relationship maybe fairly new and you are unsure of your boyfriend. Maybe you have been together a long time and you feel he is not as affectionate. Don't look for problems if there aren't any though. Actions speak louder than words.
When your boyfriend just texts hey?
me and my boyfriend barely started dating but he just texts hey i text him with a smiley face but he just says "hey" feels like nothing ever happened what should i do??