My parents have told me that if I move in with my boyfriend, they will stop paying for my college tuition and books. How do I reason with them?
You can try your best to convince them to change their minds, but there is no guarantee that they will and I totally agree with them. As the father of two sons, I similarly had expectations for them in relation to their education, other responsibilities and conduct in and outside of our home. Fortunately for them, they adhered to the expectations of my wife and I, and in areas where they disagreed they were reminded that they could define their own guidelines when they establish their own homes and are totally self-sufficient financially. That's what my wife and I did when we "left the nest," and we (especially myself since both of my parents died during my college years and I put myself through college) had a more difficult journey into adulthood than what they experienced.Long story short, adults fend for themselves and don't have to adhere to anyone's rules while children want to do as they please while complaining that their parents don't understand or support them. Once again, I totally agree with your parents and feel that you need to make the wise choice to focus on school and receive their financial support instead of a foolish decision to move in with your boyfriend and lose out on assistance that I would have thoroughly appreciated when I was your age.
Paying my boyfriends phone bill?
Hey I'm 18 years old and in a long distance relationship with a guy who is 19. He is a really good guy. very patient, knowledgeable, and knows a lot about electronics. I see his face everyday, and we talk all day everyday. I have a job and wont go to college till next year, he goes to college and doesnt work. We've been together for almost a year now and I wanted to get him something special for Christmas.I was initially going to get him an ipod 5 just because he doesn't have a phone (we communicate everyday through skype) so then when im not at home we could text each other. He hasnt had a phone in a long time and his family likes getting things on the cheaper side of things. Some people I had talked with said "why an ipod? should just get him a phone" So I decided I was gonna get him the same phone as me which is an iphone 4s. One day we were talking and we already knew what we were gonna get each other for christmas and he asked what i was getting him. I didnt tell him but since he kept asking i ended up telling him the same phone as me. So he looks up a cheaper phone thats still good because he says he will "feel bad" if i got him the iphone4s cause it costs too much. But now after weve researched about it and talked a lot about it he changed his mind and he wants a phone thats more expensive than mine, He said I wont need to get any other gifts for him till next year christmas if i did just because of how much it is. If I did I would be adding another line to my phone bill which will add on about $45 a month. But is this a bad idea? Should I go with my initial plan and get him an ipod instead? What if something happens between us? Should I be paying for his phone bill just for us to text and use the apps together on our phones? Will it be worth the extra $45/month? Advice is appreciated. Thanks.
My boyfriend don't want to go to college (Please read!)....?
Its cool if he doesnt go. Some good points here: 1) If he isnt serious, he will not perform and eventually waste the tuition money. 2) If he doesnt have a specialty such as architecture, science, law, etc, its really a waste of time. He can get a sales job now making 35k year, which is about how much he will make with a degree after four years anyway in almost any common field, like business. 3) He can help you out while you go to school and that way, you wont have to work as hard 4) If he does decide to go eventually for whatever reason, there are a lot of programs he can go into. University of phoenix has an evening short program for BAs and community colleges can help him get two years in a timely way. Let him do his thing. I went to college and I never used my business degree. Its definitely important for promotions in most fields, such as any type of management position virtually in any career, but for him he may need a two year break or so to go back and be serious. You can always lie to your parents.. its not like they will be hanging the diploma on their family room wall.
I'm always paying for my boyfriend?
I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 3 years younger than me. We are all in university. We've been together for 5 months now. But throughout these times, I'm the one always paying for everything. From clothes to movies to takeaways to even train tickets! I literally pay for EVERYTHING. I'm not being calculative but it wouldn't hurt to offer to pay. Every single time when I suggest to go out, let's say to a town nearby, he would say he cant afford it and will only go if I pay. When I asked him to help me to get Mcdonald's on the way back he said he will if I'm paying. Yeah it's okay for me cause I am used to paying for my own things but I have to pay his as well. His excuse is always he can't afford it cause he don't have a job. He didn't even look properly for a job. All he does is gym, school and home. It's not like I'm expecting him to pay for me. I'm only expecting him to at least pay for himself. All we do is stay home and watch movies cause he can't afford to go out. Like even on our first date I was the one who paid for everything. It doesn't even bother him that I'm the one paying. It gets annoying sometimes. I feel like a superficial girl ranting about this but he isn't doing anything to improve the situation. I haven't talk to him about it cause I'm scared it might hurt his ego. I do love him but I just can't stand his attitude when it comes to money. He just pushes everything to me!
If your boyfriend doesn't pay for you......?
In my relationship I make a lot more money than my bf, so I do all the paying. I don't mind because I like being able to treat my bf to things. I know that if he had more money I'd be the one getting treated to things. If he's sitting on a bunch of cash and just using you, that's a different story. But if he doesn't have a lot of cash, give him a break!
Should I let my boyfriends parents help pay for a vacation?
So my boyfriend of nine months asked me if I wanted to go on a vacation with his family. His family is very nice and they have money. So they told me that the vacation would be about $1500. I am paying for college by myself and I just dont know if I can afford that and I told them all that. Then my boyfriend later told me that I would only have to pay $500 meaning that his parents would pay for the rest. I told him that I couldn't let them do that for me. And he said that they offered and they want me to go. So should I let them pay for it?