Ugh why doesnt my boyfriend let me spend money on him?!?!?!?
In my experience, I've found that guys say that at the beginning of a relationship but really love to be spoiled. My husband used to say that all the time but even then, he never turned down any of my gifts. I say, if it really is YOUR money, spend it on whatever you want. If you want to get him something, then do it :). If he gives you a hard time about it, use it against him and say that it's your money and you decided that you wanted to spend it on something for him. If he turns it down, then damn he's not a keeper. A boyfriend should be appreciative under any circumstances. Just relax and don't make it into a bigger issue than what it really is :)
Why doesn't my boyfriend spend money on me...but he on everyone else!?
I am probably going to forfeit my BEST ANSWER chances but it's not important. I have to say what I feel I have to say. You, my dear, are the CLASSIC example of why grass is not greener on the other side of the fence. You should have stayed with your ex who was extremely giving to a high maintenance, materialistic, and unthoughtful person you present yourself to be. Your new guy, has only known you for a 1. 5 months. are you kidding me?! you expect this guy to be opening his wallet and pouring out gifts to you like it's no problems, huh. well, first off, he's in the same economy as the rest of us. I believe you are in another country based on some of your phrases, but I do believe you are still impacted as most of the world. Besides, he works in retail, lady. He's not rich. But one thing is for sure, he knows where his loyalty lies: family, true friends, Mother, which I know is also family. Given what happened to your last relationship, this guy is liable to be in the same position of buying you things and you ending up with someone else. get your own damn money and buy your own damn things. Act a like a girlfriend instead of some charity case and maybe, just maybe he will see the value in what he has with you. As far as his not buying you food, who knows, what goes around comes around. how did you treat your wonderful ex, who bought you things and you're not with him?
My boyfriend is always buying me expensive gifts? Is this normal?
I have been together with my boyfriend for over 3 years now and he usually doesn't go shopping for me. On my 21st birthday he bought me a bmw and i loved him for it, i thought he was suddenly being really sweet to me. however, since then hes started buying me expensive items every weekend. He spends about $600 every weekend on buying me dresses, diamond earrings, skirts, gold braclets, hand bags and other expensive items (just to name a few). I really appreciate him trying to spoil me but ll my friends think i'm taking advantage of him. I asked my friends and they all think its really strange because their boyfriends never spend any money on them. I know my boyfriend earns atleast $2500 per fortnight so I'm not worried about him being broke or saving money. However, i am confused about whether i should ask him to stop or just keep receiving. When I ask him why hes buying me so many expensive gifts, he tells me 'he cares about me and wants me to have the best'. Apparantly he's worried about me 'fitting in' among my friends. I don't know if i should continue accepting his gifts and take advantage of him, or should i ask him to stop buying me stuff.
My boyfriend is against buying me gifts. He makes good money, I'm not expecting anything expensive anyway. It would be nice to feel appreciated. Am I wrong to ask?
I read quite a few of the answers here.People have shared their views, experiences, what some special gifts made them feel, emotions associated with gifts, deriding gifts as being driven by advertisement, telling you gifts shouldn’t matter so much etc etc etc.I want to contribute a simple perspective that I’m somewhat surprised, hasn’t come up yet.Have you asked him “Why” ?Why is he against gift giving? Is it a matter of principle or just a preference?What is his thought process behind it?How did he come to have this belief?Has he ever received thoughtful gifts and how did he feel about that?What does he think about your belief that gifts are special and meaningful?What does he consider a “gift”, does a surprise dinner count as a gift?Have you asked yourself “Why”?What is it about gifts that make them special for you?What role do you think gifts play in a relationship, for you?What other gestures of appreciation would make you happy, in the absence of gift- giving?What is the nature of that un-met need, that you seem to be experiencing when told that you will not be receiving gifts?Do you consider gift- giving the only meaningful way to express appreciation?What exactly did you feel, when he refused to gift you things? Why?Have you had a non-accusatory, non- confrontational, open discussion about this and tried to see if a common path emerges?Personal preferences, emotions and ideas of appreciation are deeply personal.And for things this deeply personal, the only viable solutions come from the people involved.So, it’s nice to hear of people’s experiences and views, but there are matters in which others’ experiences are useful, like buying a house or how to deal with a particular child- rearing issue.And then there are issues, where all the opinions and experiences in the world don’t matter except those of the people involved.This issue, falls in the latter category.Listen authentically, share your emotions about the issue openly and peacefully and really, communicate.Strangers on the internet cannot help with a matter as deeply personal as this.
Is this too much to spend on my boyfriend for our first Christmas together?
wow! that is quite a lot! but if you can afford it so sure go ahead. But make sure he doesn't feel inferior if he hasn't bought as much as you did.
How much is too expensive to spend on your boyfriend?
I think since he got you an iPod that maybe you should go all out. I got my boyfriend some cologne, some of his favorite candy, some homemade cards that say things like, "this is good for one free back-rub," for Valentines day and he loved it. It really wasn't that expensive either. Concert tickets, tickets to watch his favorite sports team, and so on would be great. depends on what he likes. You have to take what he likes and work around it. There is also a great website where it gives you listings of things your man may like due to his personality. the link is.... http://www.gifts.com/finder It's really simple. you'll pick up easily on how to work through it. You can narrow down the gifts by choosing a price range and I think you should spend between $50-125.
Boyfriend wants me to buy him 600 dollar xmas gift?
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and this year for christmas h spent a lot of money on me. H keeps telling me all he wants is this solid axle for his truck but it is 600 dollars and i have plenty of money but am not comfortable spending that which i think is understandable. He is acting so selfish about it and keeps asking me even though i made it clear i will stress out if i spend so much money... Am i being in ANY way selfish?? Also, He bought my gift after i told him not to spend all that money on me.
Would you ask an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend for money or any kind of support or help?
I'm reading all the answers - remember, don't think of asking your ex for ANYTHING, ever.I don't loan money, I give money away.My nanny asked me for a forward of $600 to pay for her daughter's books for culinary school. I GAVE her $1000. I didn't ask or expect to be paid back. The value I received back from this family was worth far more than $1000, plus very fond memories.A single mother at my daughter's school was having a very rough time around Christmas. My friends and I paid her rent for 3 months and got some Xmas presents for her kids. She changed almost over night. And a year later, paid us back.I've given money to kids that have needed food and tuition. Or at least I just deliver groceries. I got my walk shoveled for a winter by one guy. I got a very nice letter when he got his first job.I've taken in kids that would have otherwise been homeless. Do I really need money from a stressed out abandoned kid?Lastly, an ex boyfriend needed $15,000 to cover a payroll period. I wrote him a cheque that instant, no questions asked. This paid back in at least $100,000 of work coming my way. But this isn't why I did it.Helping someone that needs help is its own reward. it pays back hundred fold. None of you will ever grasp this and I feel sorry for all of you.
My boyfriend bought me a careless Xmas gift?
LOL that's a really bad gift! Men ARE bad at buying gifts at times but if you let him get away with it, he'll never bother putting any thought into it. Tell him you were a little hurt - not because the gift was inexpensive (use that word, not 'cheap'!) - but because you didn't think it was something he'd put much thought into, and you feel that that's what gift giving is all about - a physical representation of thoughtfulness and consideration for each other. I dated a guy once who was an AWESOME gift giver. But one Valentine's Day he bought me a cheese grater and matching strainer!! WTF?? He liked kitchenware and they were good quality items, and I thanked him and coo-ed over them. But - after discussing it with my friends to make sure I wasn't overreacting - I told him that although they were useful, I didn't think they were suitable romantic Valentine's gifts. I told him that all I ever wanted on that day was flowers or chocolates, and from then on, that's what he stuck to and I was always grateful for them. After that we used to laugh about it all the time, but it took real guts to tell him! Never got a bad gift from him again though... If your boyfriend can't see that this is important to you, then he's not the one for you. It's got nothing to do with being greedy or materialistic. You thought about him; he didn't do the same for you. That's fundamental and needs to be corrected asap.