Guys? my boyfriend wants to have sex, i have a purity ring, what do i say?
Ok .. I'm a guy,16 and my hormones and all that crapp is happening . BUT if I loved someone who was the most important thing in the world to me I wouldn't want to force anything on them. Yes I do believe you should save your first time for your wedding night for that is TRULY more special then now . Remember you can only have sex for the first time ONCE. I'm glad you posted this question because it is truly valuable especially concerning virginity . What I recommend is to flip his statement "if two ppl love each other it's ok." I say you should tell him " if you truly love me then it should be ok not to have sex". And sadly if he acts to negatively then he is not right for you... Especially when he's going to college some boys just want the sex. I'm not accusing him but it's the majority. Also if he does truly love you he would understand you . I know I would. Remember the 1st time is precious and shouldn't be wasted . I truly hope this helped in a way. Sincerely , josh :)
Boyfriend talking about the future?
my boyfriend of 8 months (actually known him for 2 years in total) has recently started talking about the long term future, with me included. He's talking about when he finishes college in 2 years that he wants me to move with him to another city for job offers. He said there's no way he could move unless i went with him so he wanted me to commit. He wants to know that i'll go where he goes. We're in our mid twenties, do you think this signals that he see's me as 'the one'?
My boyfriend says he doesn't know about our future?
That's wild, because i just went through that with my boyfriend a few months ago. He was in the middle of a big career change and was so busy with his life that it seemed like i was the last thing he wanted around, you know? We had the exact same conversations that you and your guy had about what he wants for his future and everything and he wasn't sure, but only because his head was in soo many different places. He would tell me the same thing, that i wasn't part of the problem and that our love was just changing and becoming more comfortable so i was just something that was always going to be there, so he didn't put extra effort in. That was in september and we've been going out for a year and a half now and we're crazy about eachother. It was just another stepping stone in his life and one that i needed to help him get through (not make it harder). I learned that through a few fights and near break ups, and then learning that i just needed to support him and be confident in our relationship. The one thing that he would say to me was "You have to realize when you're questioning how i feel about you all the time, it makes me question it more than i should too" So that's something to keep in mind... when you're always nagging him about it ... it's always going to be on his mind. Just be there for him and don't feel like he's un happy with you, when it's really just life change that's hitting him. (That's just my story and hopefully you'll have the same experience.!!) Best of luck, and God bless.
How do I convince my boyfriend to keep convincing his parents for our inter-caste marriage?
Who else can better understand than someone in exact situation . Yes , I am in the same situation months before and still in. We've been in a relationship for 2 years when we had everything perfect towards each other. Being an Indian girl I guess you can understand the pain of postponing marriage with silly reasons for 2 years. And when it comes to the BIG day of revealing the parents and start convincing them he said his parents are completely against and they might give up their lives if he does chose me. I was dumbstruck , like it wasn't a major discussion or fight he had told them( or he didn't at all!!) once and this heartening answer came from him . On my side I have told my parents and with lot of pain I convinced them to at least meet him. And then he said when we don't have any future whats the point in meeting them. Please move on in life. Dont make me feel guilty , am sorry and etc etc. So what I finally understood was if a boy has commitment and wants to get you in his life, he will do it no matter what. If he doesn't show any efforts my dear sister its high time to make a move. In my case he moved abroad and sometimes whatsapps me saying Happy Independence day and Happy Diwali !! And he doesn't want to talk on the same topic because he made up his mind and there will be no change. I know I dont have any reasons to keep hope and wait . But still my heart silently aches for him . Sorry for my story.. All I want to say is when he failed in convincing he failed in love. So better understand the fact quickly and move ahead in life. If you both decided for yourselves and moved out , I'd very happy for you. But if he still have the same mindset please double think. Once you start balancing your life without him , you will know youre worth of more better things.
My ex wants to be together in the future, but not now...? Story inside. Please help.?
My ex and I dated for almost two years. Only recently, he had been acting distant, and started pushing me away. Maybe it was the fact that I was going to college, I don't know. When I called him on acting weird, he told me 'this is why I don't want to be with you'. So I told him I was done. Then I heard he was hanging around with this girl. We continue to stay in contact, and he at first tells me how he doesn't want to be with me for all of these random reasons. But then he tells me: he cheated on me while he was drunk, and that he feels so guilty and his life is so messed up that he needs time to heal himself. He told me later that he wants to be with me in the future, but not right now. He tells me how he misses me, how he loves me, etc. He has told his friends he wants to be with me. But whenever I try and talk to him about it, he flips out. He is hot and cold. One day he'll want me, and tell me how much he misses me and thinks of me and loves me. The next day, he'll get annoyed if I text him or call him. He'll say 'You're not giving me time to think.' or 'Stop having so much expectations'. So my question is, should I wait until he is helped by a professional, and sorts his problems out? Do you think he actually does want me? Or should I just move on? I really need some advice. I love this guy more than I can possibly say. He says he wants to take things slow, but there's times when he acts like he wants nothing to do with me, or does. I simply don't know. It's driving me insane. And, if I wait, how long? Please give me some good advice.
My father has never liked my boyfriend because he is an illegal immigrant. He wants me to end my 3 year relationship even though we have a child together. My boyfriend is a wonderful man who treats me with love and respect. What should I do?
Right now, it's not your father you should be concerned with, but rather your boyfriend’s status.If you genuinely want a future with your boyfriend, then I suggest you both talk to an Immigration Lawyer right away, and find out whether or not marrying him would allow him to stay in the country.All too often, if someone enters the country illegally, the chances of them being able to stay or get a green card isn’t very good. Here's an excerpt from a legal site, Can an Illegal Immigrant Get a Green Card By Marriage To U.S. Citizen or Resident? - AllLaw.comIf, however, the immigrant entered the United States by unlawful means, such as having been a stowaway or crossing over the border through a fence, adjustment of status is not an option. The only possibility is to apply for the green card through "consular processing," meaning the immigrant will attend an interview at a U.S. embassy or consulate in his or her home country. That, however, carries a risk of not being allowed back into the U.S. for many years -- three years if the period of unlawful presence was 180 days or more, and ten years if the period of unlawful stay was one year or more.The fact of the matter is, if he's deported or if his future immigration status is rejected, then you may not have a future with him at all, and all this becomes a moot point.Your boyfriend’s priority should be getting himself legal status, and if not, then it's possible that at some point in the not too distant future, someone, anyone, even your father, can call Immigration and inform them of his illegal status, and they can have him deported. What then? Sorry, but that's the reality of your situation.
Boyfriend sent snapchat to wrong person...?
So, to preface this story... My boyfriend has had a history in our relationship of infidelity, talking to other girls, and just general mistrust. We broke up, got back together, but I have always had doubt about our future together as our ambitions don't usually line up. But anyways... I got a snap chat from him of a girls butt that he works with. I immediately asked him why he would send that to me and he blatantly lied to me telling me that his friend took it and the friend wanted him to send it to himself, which is clearly a horrible lie since its snap chat. My question is, would you be upset if this happened to you? Not only being disrespectful behind my back but then instead of owning up to it he lied. I'm very hurt by this, and while I know that there are plenty of girls out there, I wouldn't expect him to go and take pictures of them. Thoughts?