My boyfriend hit me, and hurt me?
Ive been with my boyfriend for over 2 years. Were really close and hes the first person that ive had such a serious relationship with. Over the two years weve had play fights and there has been moments when weve been fighting and then softly hit eachother which would in the end make us just laugh and start hugging. Nothing serious.. Last month i lied to him about something, he found out and we had a fight over it. He tried to leave and i wouldnt let him so in the end he kicked me in the leg three times and elbowed me in the nose. I had a nose bleed for the first time in my life and my leg became swollen and then badly brused over my whole leg, it even for some reason spread to the back of my leg even though kicked me at the front. In the end he was very sorry and he took me to the hospital an hour after it happened. The next day we were going on holiday so i didnt want to ruin the holiday and i just tried to forget about the incident. Since then everything has been perfect and i couldnt ask for a better relationship. But yesterday was his first day back at work, he works from 8 till 8 and doesnt get a break. I stayed at his house and we had a very stupid fight, in the end i wouldnt let him go to sleep and i hit him round the face.. He got up and kicked me off the bed, he was shouting at me and then went to sleep. Ive really hurt my back from it, i could barely move through the night. I noticed he tried to hug me in the night and then in the morning as he woke up at 7 he gave me a kiss on the head and then went to work. I called him at work around 12am and i asked why he had hit me, he was busy working and he said he didnt want to talk about it. I havent spoken to him since and now i dont know what to do. I dont want to just walk away and leave him. I was hoping i could talk to him but im sure it will happen again. I was thinking maybe some sort of theropy ? Im not scared of him, i always lash back at him and hit him back.. What can i do, everything was perfect until this happened last night..
My boyfriend kicked me out of the car when I told him I love him?
Short history, Yesterday we went out to see his father, they had a little fight and after that we went to a bar and I started to drinking but I was not drunk. We were in the car going home and I knew he was hurt because of the stupid fight with his father so I tried to comfort him, I told him I love him (for the first time) but he was aggressive, he told me that I didn't knew what I was saying and that I was just drunk. Then he told me that I have to stay away of him because he is a bad person and when I insisted more he told me to go out of his car. We haven't spoken but I feel like he needs me and I can't just stay away. I wasn't drunk, I do love him and I don't know what to do, please give me some advice. Im lost.
I kicked my husband out of our bedroom. Did I do the right thing?
We have been together 12 years, married 5 of them. We have a 2 year old, and a 2 month old baby. We have been dealing with some serious issues in our marriage. Lack of trust, intimacy, and barely any communication. This has been going on for years. Last Spring I came to my husband with my concerns, and asked that we seek counseling or end our marriage. 6 months later he agreed to counseling. We have been in counseling since September, but have made no progress. My husband shows me no physical affection outside of a kiss on the cheek on rare occasions. We don't laugh, we talk the bare minimum. We don't trust each other, respect each other. I'm hurt by this, feel so sad about it. I have tried reaching out to him, over and over. I have been rejected so many times. I just can't stand it. We are basically roommates with 2 kids. So, the other day I asked my husband to move all his things into the spare bedroom. He seemed saddened by it, and asked why. I told him how I feel, and that it was pointless for us to even share the same room. I am so fed up with this existence.
My Boyfriend Kicked me and the kids out?
My boyfriend & I have lived together for 4 years. He recently has thrown me and the kids out of the house. I have been a stay at home mom this whole time and my name is not on any bills. Everything is in his name plus he owns the house. He became physically with me, pushing me around the house with his chest. I tried packing things, but he would unpack them and go through my things. He would lay under my car so I couldn't leave. It was a very unsafe envirnoment. I tried contacting his family but they all turned their backs on me. So after much harrassment, name calling, and him threatening me & saying he was not going to give me any money until he was forced to pay child support. I put all of my clothes & as many belongings as I could in the car and left for another state where my family lives. Now I am concerned, Do I have to communicate with him regarding the children? Or should I wait until I talk with a lawyer. I am scared to talk to him, he's full of scare tactics and tries to control me. PLus this is not the first time he has thrown me out of the house, this is the 3rd time. It seems like once a year he has some kind of ***** fit and decides to remove me and the kids from the home. But this time I am done and not giving him another chance. Any advice is nice. Thanks
My boyfriend wants to have a threesome with his child's mother, bad idea?
my boyfriend recently told his ex about my existence and said she wants us to have a threesome- he says she's a "freak" and my bf is also into group sex. i've had a threesome before but a mmf one and as i wasn't attracted to one of the males, it wasn't the best experience. now i can definitely appreciate the female form but i have seen pictures of his ex and i'm not sure if she would be my type i.e. if i would be that attracted to her. also have never slept with a woman. and i think one of my main concerns is that she is his ex- i'm not at all sure i am comfortable with that. at all. please let me know your points of view on this.
Every time my boyfriend and I get into a fight (which he starts by the way), he threatens to kick me out, or he does kick me out, and I live two hours away. Is this OK?
Your boyfriend doesn't want to deal with you.This is why he throws you out, your isssues (whatever they are) or rather YOUR side of the issues, doesn't matter to him.Which leads to a few conclusions:He's not very understanding, it's difficult to communicate with him about anything. Especially, on things you two might disagree on.He's in this relationship for himself, his own self interest (whatever it might be) and not for the sake of having a genuine connection with someone. If he feels like dealing with you on that particular day, he would. If he didn't, he would call the shots on the conversation and dismiss you altogether, your side of the story or your feelings don't matter.Which leads to point three, he doesn't want you to argue with him on anything, he hates your expression of discontent and mostly your anger. Which is a great indicator that you're dealing with a selfish, self serving individual who doesn't care enough about you to try and understand you. Instead, he just wants to take charge and rule over your head.Your boyfriend, might as well be abusive, or has absuive tendencies. If power and control are his aim, then watch out! That can't be proven, since you haven't provided many details about him or his behavior.But from what you're experiencing, I can assure you this person is a nightmare to deal with, is incompatible with you (there's a lack of homogenous harmony in your relationship), and is more than likely self centered and in it for himself. The more pressure you put him under, the more he will dismiss you, until you become the bad guy in his eyes.People, in healthy relationships treat each other as equals, rather than one person being on top or having more rights than the other. If they have issues, they discuss it and talk about it, there's an effort to communicate and solve problems together. Your boyfriend isn't interested in reaching a middle ground, he won't listen to you and it's much easier to just kick you out, eventually you'll feel misunderstood as the relationship progress. So, it's better to find someone that is more compatible with you, and is willing to listen.
Is it ever acceptable to kick your spouse out of the bed for the night?
No. It is a violation of the sacred space of the marriage bed. But, if you need space, you can leave the room. If you need to sleep better, and sometimes sleeping alone = better sleep, leave the room. It is not personal attack, just a how it is thing.My soon to be ex took some of these needs too personally. We have different sleep styles. I sleep like a rock, and usually am up later. He wakes up the moment my foot hits the creak in the floor near my side of bed. And he wakes up like he is being attacked, with fists flying etc. Why? It makes me want to sleep on the couch if I am up later then he is. I like a freshly made bed with sheet - comforter - sheet - all tucked in like in a nice hotel. He has a terrible old comforter he swaddles in, and will not use a sheet. Especially in the winter, the loft bedroom is very cold, and this just did not work for me. The sheet keeps little daggers of cold air from finding my skin. No sheet, I am sleeping in leggings, T-shirt, socks and sometimes a sweater. Then he would get offended, why arn’t You naked???Then there was the gas. Yes, we all fart sometimes, especially in our sleep… but I have had to leave a hotel room for fresh air. We live in a unique space with very tall (35 ft) ceilings, and the bedroom is in a loft. Not only could I hear his farts from down stairs sometimes, but I could smell them downstairs, the bedroom was just unacceptable sometimes. Especially the last few months our old sweet stinky dog was alive.I noticed, when we would share a bed, it felt like I was spinning, turning over and over… but alone, I swear, sometimes I wake up in the same position I fell asleep in, not rolling over once during the night. I always had to sleep about 2 more hours after he would get up. But it was not a personal attack. Just part of our unique situation. Well, that was how I saw it.
Is there a type of boot camp for young children, like under 10?
Wow i was stunned at how many people have perfect kids out there... My daughter is pretty interestingly challenging. This is what works for me and she is now 9. I don't know about you but i can usually tolerate her total defiance is most situations liek chores etc for a pretty long time before i just fell like i am beating a dead horse. To really get her attention i don't touch a hair on her head. I simply treat her (within reason) the same way she does me. For example she wants me to wash her favrite toy or outfit (even though she has other toys/clothes clean) or she wants to go to a friends house or talk on the phone. Or she will bark an order for something else... I turn around to her and bark orders right back. Usually about a day of this achieves two things. all her chores get done and i get help with mine and she actually listens better becuz by the end of the day she has had to earn every little thing/privilage she needed or wanted. If she wants to use the potty she has to tell me first. She is not allowed out of my site at all. I am not mean i just remind her that i am the mom and she is the child. It is hard with a devilish child but when they are taught in school that mom can't hit me its wrong or mom cant yell at me etc.... when moms also kno that every action we take could look abusive the kids know our hands are tied so you have to make sure that you are not angry when you start.. it is important. I usually send her to her room or bed (even if she screams for what seems like hours) remove her tv/toys and that is where she eats meals the rest of the day and first thing the next morning i address it. I know this was long but i also wanted you to know that i am very open with my tactics with my daughters doc.. she was the one that started me out with timing dinner becuz lemme tell ya that was always F-U-N