My boyfriends mother hates me?
Let me give you some personal advice. Reading your question made me angry because it sparked memories of when I went through what your going through. You need to end this disrespect NOW. She is that mother in law from hell that doesn't want to let go her "precious baby boy" so she will put you through hell and back to try to get rid of you. She is a bully and in no way do you have to take this. Treat her EXACTLY like she's treating you! Don't dare sit and do nothing while this woman walks all over you like a piece of garbage. She's looking at you like your not good enough for her son. One day she will regret what she's doing if you and him decide to have kids because she will have to kiss your *** to see that baby. When I had enough of my mother in laws bs I cursed her out like no tomorrow and refused her visitation for my son. That straightened her out quick. She was at MY mercy. And your boyfriend needs to be sticking up for you to that ***** of a mother he has. Assert and stand up for yourself!!
My boyfriend's mother hates him (so he says)?
I know this is none of my business, but he has been calling me for the last 3 days (crying half the time) and I have no advice you see. *Insert cliché teenage angst: My parents are neglecting, so I have no experience with any form of discipline other than self discipline.* You see, what happened is that he brought the laptop to his oncle's for the weekend while his parents were on a trip. His aunt accidentally broke the cable, so now it's in the shop and will be for about 20 days. His mom lost it. She said she's in despair and doesn't want anything to do with him. She didn't even sign paper's he needed for school because she says she doesn't care. He needs them for friday, I'm in his class and we're doing an experiment. He thinks she's going through withdrawal, because she's usually on the computer a lot. It's so frustrating, and he keeps talking about killing himself. She told him she hated him. He won't stand up to her either, because he's not that type of person. What do I do? I feel so helpless... I can't talk to her myself because I'm just a silly teenager and she, most definatly, would not take me seriously. Thank you for any help!
Why does my boyfriend's mother hate me?
My boyfriend & I have been dating for over 5 years & living together for 2 years. Since day 1 his mother has disliked me solely because I'm not Jewish (my boyfriend technically is Jewish through his mother, but his father is not & he does not practice). My boyfriend & I moved last year across the country so about 2 weeks ago his mother & step father visited for the weekend. I dropped all my plans to spend the weekend with them. We took them to dinner & a bar that they looked up & wanted to try. We went out during the day with them both Saturday. Sunday afternoon his mom wanted to go shopping, so we went together for an entire afternoon! There weren't any issues except when she'd try to dig for dirt on her ex husband (my boyfriend's dad). Now weeks later she's calling my boyfriend saying I'm moody & she was not thrilled with my behavior while she was here. I'm not sure what I did to deserve this (since it's happened before & I ignored it). She then wrote my boyfriend a 2 part email about it, adding that I don't care about Jewish traditions. Since I'm not Jewish & my boyfriend has no interest in it, no I don't care! I'm not converting for her! I'm quite upset about this since I invited them into my home & now am just hearing nothing but negativity about it. Plus I was supposed to go over her place for Thanksgiving with my own mother! I don't want to go, but I will for my boyfriend. We had plans to Black Friday shop, but I'm not doing anything alone with her now. Help!
My mother hates my boyfriend. Is there any way I can change her mind about him?
If it is important to you to have her blessing for your relationship, then you should have a solid talk with your mom. If you want it her opinion of him to change, you need to understand her perspective first! Do you have a habit of being blind to the flaws of people you love? It’s a rarity to have such a loving heart, so your mom probably wants to make sure that he truly deserves it.How you handle this issue will depend entirely on how the issue began:If any negative things have happened to you because of your relationship in your past, then she be worried for you!If he has ever involved you in a reckless situation (even if it wasn’t his fault), then she and she might feel the need to protect you from him. If alcohol, drugs or weapons have ever been a part of his lifestyle, then your mom might always associate those risks with him. Your mom wants you safe, so talk your boyfriend about how he can help make this situation easier for you both!If you have ever vented (to her) about him (making you upset), then she might be having a hard time forgiving him for it!Gossip can be toxic, especially in small circles. When we feel the need to vent, sometimes we overshare and we forget that the person we are venting to doesn’t always feel as attached (to the person we are venting about) as we do. Think of how you feel when you feel when someone you love is not good for them. What would it take to change your mind?If he is unemployed or if he doesn’t help you out around the home, then she might feel like he is using you.She may feel like he beneath you if he is highly reliant on you. If he is unemployed he will need to get a job to prove his ability to be a worthy partner to you. If he can show your mom that he can help care for you as much as you care for him, then she might change her mind.
My boyfriends mother hates me now that i have a lip piercing..?
It is your lip and your space to do with it what you please, she is his Mother and I would guess that the appearance of the lip ring is something that just isn't her piece of pie. Hey don't take your ring out, it is her disappointment, not yours, so know that the relationship between you and your boyfriend's mother has changed, relationships do that in life and you can't please everyone so you try to please yourself, as often as possible. God Bless.
My boyfriend's mother and sister hates me.?
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 8 months and have been fighting about his mother and sister for probably 7 months now. Firstly his mother. In the beginning she was really nice and I instantly trusted her and confided in her about some very personal feelings and problems. Because she has gone through similar things, I really thought that she understood me and that we bonded a lot. Afterwards however, my boyfriend told me that she said I'm spoiled, that i don"t appreciate what he does for me and that i'm not willing to do as much for him, which is nonsense as we are at varsity together and she has no idea how our relationship works because she's not there. Furthermore, after she met my mother she had the audacity to criticize my mother on her way of raising me as if she has the right to say something about it. After hearing this I was really hurt and lost my trust in her completely because it felt like she personally attacked me and my mother. Then his sister is probably the biggest problem. She and my bf have a very close relationship because they had a difficult past, they grew up very poor and therefore only had each other which I totally understand. But there is some things about their relationship that really bothers me. She is 4 years older than him, but still talks to him every single day. Every morning she starts a conversation with him and keeps talking to him during the entire day regardless of whether we are together on a date or not and then when he doesn't reply she gets upsets. This makes me feel like she has no respect for our relationship or me. She also has some problem with the fact that me and my family are well off and said that we are just trying to buy his love. She also has a problem when he does normal things for me like taking me to the doctor or buying me a present. I honestly don't understand what her problem is, especially since I have done absolutely nothing that could possibly upset her. The problem with his mother and sister have caused us to fight so many times and we are on the verge of breaking up because of this. I love my boyfriend so much and I don't wanna allow them to come between us, but I'm only human and can only take that much. How can someone dislike you so much without even bothering to get to know me better. Please help?
My boyfriend's mother hates me, but he wants to marry me and wants all of us to live together. What do I do?
Don’t. Seriously don’t. If your boyfriend loves you, it can wait until you can live together on your own. Knowingly entering into the situation you’re describing is asenine.First off, unless there is some extenuating circumstance, him wanting to stay living with his mom after getting married, brings up substantial attachment and emotional issues. This is simply not normal or healthy for a newly married couple to progress in their own lives.Secondly, if his mom doesn’t like you, living with her is going to be hell. You’re never going to feel free, you’re going to be walking on egg shells all the time. You and him are constantly going to be put in situations where you’re forced to make a decision to pick you or her, and every single thing you do will end up being weighed against how it’s going to affect mom.Again, don’t do it. Make it clear to him the conditions on which you would marry him which is that you must have your own place to live not with his or your family. There’s no need to rush. Get your stuff in order as a couple and then get married.
My boyfriend's mother hates me because I'm not Korean?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. He's half Korean from his mom, half "white" from his dad, and I'm "white." In the beginning, his mother said she liked me. I've always been really nice and respectful to her. I've given her plants and learned to speak a little Korean/make Korean dishes. I thought it was really interesting to have such first-hand teaching in a different culture. But then she just turned on me and I don't know why :( My boyfriend heard her talking behind my back to her friends about how I wasn't good enough for her son, and that she doesn't like me. She's told my boyfriend to break-up with me because my mom is controlling, and she doesn't like that. Then she told me that she wanted her son to marry a "nice Korean girl" because white girls aren't good at anything (her words). It broke my heart when she started being so horrible :( I also don't know why she's being racist against me because she married a white man and then moved to my country! My boyfriend's cousin (who she likes more than my boyfriend, and she's even told him that) just started dating a white girl, and she loves her. I've never been anything but nice to her :( I'm a very easy-going person and I don't like this drama she's made all by herself. I feel so hated. She's always glaring at me and making snide remarks to me now. What she doesn't know is that I've helped her son through a really low point in his life. I helped him get his grades up, and stopped him from turning down a bad path. It was really hard on me to get him though those times, and now her hating me just tears me apart :( I'm a very emotional person...how do I get her to stop being so horrible to me? I don't know what else to do....
My moms new boyfriend hates me HELP?
My mother is completely brain washed. My father and her split a while ago, and I understand why. They are allowed to move on. My dad's girlfriend is great, i think she's good for him. But my mother's boyfriend is a whole other story. He likes everyone else in the family (my mother and little brother) but for some reason he hates me. When no one is looking he gives me death glares, and he even insulted me. At dinner one time he said "you should stop eating so much, no need to carry extra weight on your hurt leg." My mother agreed, which brings me to what happened a week ago. I came home from high school and my little brother was in the basement playing xbox and my moms boyfriend was watching tv. My mom was still at work. i went to get a drink and accidentally dropped the glass and it broke, then i slipped and fell on it, so i had glass in my foot. I screamed so loud my brother came up to check what was happening, yet my moms bf "didn't hear me" even though he was in the next room. I've tried to talk to her about it, but she doesn't believe me and said I was ungrateful and selfish. I overheard them talking and he was saying that I sweared at him (which never happened) and he's trying to get her to send me to therapy. What should I do? I have a feeling he's going to do something much worse to me than just verbally bully me, and my mother is not going to be there to believe me. Please help