My Childhood Best Friend Is Getting Married To A Black Man How Can I Stop Her From Making The

Can married women have guy friends?

Yes you can have male friends. But most of the things in this world comes as conditions apply. Similarly the same conditions go even in the relationships sometimes. There is nothing wrong in having male friends provided there is a limit to that relationship. When your husband gets to know that the guy was you friend in the past the one thing that immediately strikes is your friend was a part of your life that your husband does not know about. Not only your husband most of the husbands are like that it creates a curiosity in them to dig more into your past. Knowingly or unknowingly the old friends general laugh around at many things about their past that their spouses do not understand. Such things create a sense as if they are being alienated from the conversations, their minds do not rest unless they are informed back what you guys really laughed at in the past. It creates a sense of insecurity in many husbands if they are possessive about their wivesI personally have witnessed many of my friends had their girl friends in college who stopped talking to them after they got married. They had nothing in between them expect friendship but they have opted to stay away from talking. The same implies to the guys, they try to cut down the contact with their girl friends if there is a pressure from his wife.Most of the husbands are never comfortable if their wife maintain contacts with their guy friends in the past. I do not say your husband is right but he is not equally wrong also, the same thing goes in most of the husband’s minds. If your husband is good in other aspects except this one then I will suggest you to trim down the contacts with your males friends. You can just keep them limited to Facebook messages or occasional phone calls. End of the day your husband is the one whom you really share the relationship, friends can only stretch to some extent and help us. If you husband has become over possessive and if he is troubling you he seriously needs some counseling. But if he is only feeling bad about it do not worry it is a quite common feeling. There is nothing wrong in maintaining the contacts but you might need to limit them. Same thing implies even to men also.

How do I stop my daughter from dating black men?

Ah, what an interesting question. My mom probably asked the same thing. About 4 years ago my sister "Sabrina" was 24 and she met this very nice man, "Adam" at the place she worked (a coffee shop). My parents were very interested to meet this guy my sister wanted to date. All my dad cared about was his religious background, which turned out to be the same as ours. My mom, well she freaked out once she found out Adam's color, which was black. My sister really liked this guy, but my mom would not have it and my sister didn't want to ruin her relationship with Mom, so she decided to keep it just friends with Adam. I never knew about Adam until later.Fast forward two years. Sabrina decides to forgo Mom and date Adam because she likes him. Sabrina let dad and I know, I was so thrilled that my sister was finally dating! I met Adam and we hit it off pretty well.When Sabrina finally let Mom know she and Adam were a couple my mom was quite upset and tried to get Sabrina to call it off. My sister didn't cave in. Soon my mom grew to love Adam too.Fast forward a year to July 3, 2017, one of the happiest days of my life. The marriage of my sister to a kind, handsome, intelligent, strong, and funny man. I never once judged Adam for being black, that doesn't define who he is. His love for animation, his devotion to sports and martial arts, his love for my sister, respect for all living things, humor, smile, and so much more is what defines him.My mom only saw a black man, which reminded her of her childhood growing up in LA in the 60's, she had bad experiences with bad people who HAPPENED to be black.if your child or someone you love is in love with another person and he/she is a good person, don't discourage it solely based on skin color.thats like saying the Space Grey iPad doesn't work right or is bad, but the Rose Gold iPad is better, same thing, different color.People are just people. Some good, some bad, we are all of color, white, black, yellow, whatever but that doesn't define us. We Define ourselves.

My boyfriend is overly attached to his hippo stuffed animal from his childhood. He sleeps with it even when we sleep together. Should I be concerned about my boyfriend's obsession with his hippo stuffed animal?

Why would you be? What does he do that makes his hippo a problem?Plenty of people hold on to an object from their childhood. It could be food, it could be a plushie, it could be a toy car, it could be a particular piece of clothing. For example, my uncle (a massive, hulking body-builder dude) has a piece of his first, baby-blue blanket which my grandmother put into his cot when they came back home from the hospital together for the first time. He has never slept a day without his blanket (40 years later, his blanket-fragment), not even in the army. He is also a devoted father of two children, and a responsible business man.My boyfriend has kept hold of his stuffed bear since he was a child. When I first saw his bed, the bear was prominently displayed on the pillows. I was surprised and said something to the extent, “oh, a bear!”. My boyfriend quickly shoved the bear (Teddy) away, but I immediately protested, saying he should not treat his friend this way. He looked at me gratefully, and put the bear back on the pillows, while we proceeded to continue our date and have sex. He sleeps with Teddy every night, and sometimes places him in my arms when he leaves in the morning. He has a deep emotional connection to Teddy - and it detracts not an iota from his ability to be a grown-up, responsible human being.Holding on to things from the past can indeed be a dangerous impulse, especially if it leads to hoarding behaviour or some sort of yearning for a time gone by. Respectfully, a stuffed animal hardly fits those criteria. I think holding on to the memory of an ex-lover who abandoned you if much more harmful than holding on to the simple joy, safety, comfort and peace of childhood, which these items do for us sometimes.See if you can accept the hippo as one of the idiosyncrasies of your boyfriend’s character. If not, that is fair enough! There could be a myriad of reasons as to why YOU are bothered by the hippo - from previous trauma from a trip to the Nile, to the fact that a stuffed animal infantilizes a person to such a degree that you are no longer sexually attracted to them. These are valid reasons to break up, and you should consider them. However, the hippo in and of itself is nothing bad!