How to deal with a coach calling you unathletic?
So I love soccer and it has always been one of my favorite things to do, and I plan on playing in high school next year, so it is something that matters a lot to me. However, the other day the coach of the A team (I'm on the B team) said to some of my A team friends, on the topic of whether or not to bring me up to the A team, that I was "a good kid, but I wasn't very athletic". These comments soon trickled down to me via my A team friends, and it has actually kind of hurt my self esteem (the A team coach is a revered person in the world of soccer). I guess an excuse for my "lack of athleticism" is that I have flat feet, and multiple diseases in them (Achilles tendinitis, apophysitis, severs disease), so it's harder to run for me, but I have always viewed myself as athletic and a good player nevertheless. The consolation I have been telling myself is "well at least I do well in school and have been to the National Spelling Bee twice" but it hasn't really been helping that much because I still care about soccer a lot. Does anyone have advice for how to cope with criticism in this situation or am I just being too sensitive and overdramatic? Thanks in advance!
A Bad volleyball Coach?
My volleyball coach who coaches freshman and JV teams has cut me from the team. Ok heres, the reasons why I was probably cut. 1. I left a first impression on him. I was first in line to begin to spike an "invisible ball" I've never spiked on a net the right way, EVER. In gym, we have no rules. So i run up to spike and my hand comes down and skims the net. 2. I nearly ran into him while trying to spike. I was running up to spike and he beings to walk in my path and i I fell over.He yelled "WATCH WHERE YOU'RE GOING!!" at me. So he made me leave an hour early while the "advanced people" aka the basketball players and some random kid stayed to play a real game. I came back on a Saturday (next day) at 6 AM for second tryouts. I did the exact same thing I did the day before and I was cut 20 minutes into it. I didn't even get a chance to touch a ball, except kicking a ball back to the varsity courts. I later found out he cut everybody cept for basketball players and people he taughtin cla
Girls on my softball team are bullying me and the coach either doesn't know or doesn't do anything what should I do?
“Girls on my softball team are bullying me and the coach either doesn't tinker or doesn't do anything what should I do?”I’m not saying that you’re not getting bullied, I don’t know what is happening here. We live in a hyper-sensitive world right now where the charge of bullying usually brings about a disproportionate response. No one in charge of children wants to deal with the fallout of not handling bullying as soon as it is identified.It is possible that this isn’t bullying. It is also possible that you’re not explaining it correctly. Without details or seeing what is going on, the question alone seems to indicate that you might be blowing this out of proportion.If this is just what you say, they’re bullying you, what do you think you should do about it? My 10-year-old girl just dealt with a situation where things were getting rough and I asked her, do you want me to handle this? I also asked her if she wanted to leave her dance group. She said that she had to deal with this, if she backed down, they’d just know they got to her. I’m very proud of her for that.So, I suggest that you stand up for yourself. There is a price for caving, there is a price for running, and there is a price for standing up for yourself. If you have to pay a price no matter what you do, pay the price for being strong.
How can I show my coach that I would make a good team captain?
That's great that you want to be captain, it is a big role whether someone thinks so or not. Not to be self-centered but I was the captain for 2 of my club seasons and will be for my upcoming JV season in high school. Obviously you are older than me but the same principals apply for everyone, please don't take any of this the wrong way. Coaches always look for the player who is putting in effort. Not only on the court but off the court. They like to see players who..show up (and before the starting time to help set up/be ready)give 100% at every practice, game, and drillARE COACHABLE my coaches always talk about this, meaning that you are able to take their advice and criticism and do something with it ASAP. It also means not putting other positions on the court out of the way. Are you a setter but your coach says he/she wants you to pass? Don't say no and do it without troubledon’t talk bad/start drama with the other playersdon’t act cocky but also don't bring themselves down. Sometimes you have great days and other times you can be completely off your game. Don't beat yourself up or act too proud in front of ANYONE, just keep cool and be confidentseem to spend their time preparing. If you want to get better, going to all of the open gyms or practices is never enough. Take a ball and work on your sets, hits, and passes at home or against a wall, it helps.work well with their teammates! Be involved and speak up! Compliment someone who just got a great kill. Tell someone who just shanked a pass to “shake it off” and that “they’ll get the next one”never question the coach or act irritatingbust their butts to win that great titledo everything with a smileshow their love for the sportAND HAVE FUN WHILE PLAYING BECAUSE THATS WHAT YOURE THERE FOR!!I hope this helps and I believe in you
My coach said i could be the school volleyball team manager?
When I coached a high school team and was lucky enough to have a team manager -- it was usually a player who had tried out but wasn't quite good enough to make the team -- she was expected to be at every practice and every match, both home and away. At practices, she often got tossed into a drill, so she would improve her volleyball skills while helping the team out. Sometimes she would toss balls during drills. I taught the manager to toss balls to the setter for hitting warmups because I wanted to watch the setters and hitters and that's hard to do when you're tossing. I also had her track some match statistics. I had some great managers over the years who definitely made my coaching job easier. On the plus side: Managers learn more about the game and get to be part of the team. All of my managers were in the yearbook photo. My manager was rostered with the team, so she got out of P.E. if she still had to take it. Several of the managers I had over the years are now coaching and reffing because they love the game. On the minus side: Sometimes it can be hard to help out with practice and matches when you really want to play. You may have to do things like haul water bottles from bench to bench, which may not seem like fun. Your chances of getting in the yearbook depend on what types of photos your yearbook runs. If they do a posed team photo, the manager and coach are definitely in it. If all they run are match photos, then you may or may not be in the yearbook. Your school might not let you out of P.E. It's a compliment to you, really, that the coach still wants you to be part of the program.
Should I talk with the tennis coach about being cut?
Sorry to hear that you were eliminated after tryouts. Unfortunately, this type of thing happens quite a bit in sports. Always painful though, regardless of the circumstances :-( ***Should I talk with the tennis coach about being cut?*** No, I would let this go and move on, as I recommend below. This is not something you can negotiate, particularly if your skill level is significantly lower than the last player who made the team, if that happens to be the case [I have no idea about this, of course]. If you really do like tennis, I would look around at all the tennis clubs within driving distance, pick one, and take lessons there. At 18, you can still get a junior membership, at least for a few months. Maybe do a thorough job of reading about the teaching pro's at each club. Read their resume, if it's available. USPTA, PTR, and MTMCA all have different "skill levels" for teaching pro's, so you might learn about what they have to offer you in terms of teaching experience. If you are looking for a teacher, here are links to three American-based tennis-teaching organizations: http://www.uspta.com/ http://www.ptrtennis.org/ http://www.oscarwegner.com/lucile/MTMCA/... If you live in the USA, you should be able to find an instructor near you in one of the three web sites above. ***I love tennis and am glad I took it up, but I feel like if I cannot play JV tennis I should perhaps give up.*** OK great! If you can, get away from this high school team situation and look at tennis clubs within driving distance. There is a good chance you will be able to find a better tennis teacher than the one that the school has. all the best, hope you get to have a little fun along the way, as you learn more and more about tennis :-)
My son plays high basketball as a reserve on the team. The coach recently yelled at him in front of the team for lack of effort by saying, “ your parents must never have taught you the value of hard work.” What would you do if it was your son?
There is an "Iron Rule" in Leadership that says: "Praise in Public, Reprimand in Private." There is a time honored reason for that rule. First, nothing is gained by belittling a person in front of others, in fact the exact opposite too often occurs. Second, to attain improvement in an individual, it has been proven more effective for a "Mentor" to provide advice and/or encouragement than criticism. We can all relate to the frustration that the coach of a number of teenage boys must experience when endeavoring to push them to become better and the best they can be. In this case, The coach lost respect and lowered his standing in the eyes of the boys who observed the chastisement.Consider if he had blown his whistle, approached the boy and, in a quiet voice, said: "You're a Reserve player, but I want to move you up to the Team. I know you've got what it takes, but you're not showing me you're ready. Come on now, show me what you can do!"
I hate my assistant soccer coach?
If he actually said that you are a "bad player" you should bring it to the attention of any adults that may have some say in how the games are coached. I understand the concept the coach is saying but if you undermine another person directly like that, I feel it's completely unacceptable for a person in his position. Maybe you could end up with a better coach, one that is less concerned with the win and more concerned with just playing the game for fun the way it was intended.
Does my Volleyball coach not like me? What did I do wrong?
Hi! Im 13 years old and am in Volleyball at my school. Each day, my coach has some sort of problem with me... does she hate me? Here are some facts: *Today in practice... I was yelled at for tipping the ball when she said I clearly could have spiked it but I didn't. This is what she said: "Oh my gosh, I have told you 20 times __________, spike that! " I was made to do over 25 push ups... even though I got the ball over and scored. She made me do that right in the middle of the court. When someone else missed it... This is what she said. "Oh good try. You will get it next time.'' NO push ups. *Later, I asked her a question about our Volleyball tournament... "I asked her this: Okay coach... so my mom said my coach emailed her to bring pasta salad. She told me to bring a fruit tray. She told my grandma to bring pb and j. I asked her which one... here was her Response. "What do you think... followed by a look like Im retarded." I was just like whatever then... in my head. *Yesterday at our game... I served once and got it over and got an ace. (best server on my team) She subbed me out for a girl who was like 4'11" and she didn't get it over. *Before practice... I told her I might be a minute or two late but I wasn't but she still yelled at me. The practice was a total surprise to me also because she ut it on fb and I don't have a FB. * During practice, we were told to do suicides(running drills). We went for a long time... and I did them correctly. This is what she said... "Good job everyone except for ______ because she didn't touch the ground. Restart." This made my whole team mad at me... I was sad. I know I touch the ground each time. *Finally, we talked after practice and this is what she said. "Good job to everyone today... we are going to have an award banquet and I think _________ deserves most confused/dumb award. She said that in front of the whole team. I about cried... I have been crying every night. What should I do... and please don't give me short/meaningless answers because this took me 25 minutes to write. Thanks. P.S. I am maybe a foot taller than her and the coach is in College. She is nice to everyone else except me... Im so sad. :(((