Am I disgusting because rape and child molestation doesn't bother me?
No, you know it's bad and you wouldn't do it. You don't have to go ape sh!t over it to know that it's not okay. There is nothing wrong with you. You just don't react to it as strongly as some people. It doesn't mean you like it or don't see it as bad. Also if you have been abused then perhaps that's also why. Today we are exposed to a lot of violence and cruelty by the media, on movies, the net and so on. So maybe you are less sensitive to it because of that. That's probably why it doesn't SHOCK you. I'm really sorry if you've been abused, that is awful. I hope you've talked to somebody about it. I've had a lot of not-so-good experiences with underage sex and my uncle touched me once when I was a little girl and it made me really confused about what sex was and what it was all about and what it meant and what was wrong& right. But it's never okay to do that to a child, it effects them for the rest of their lives and they are beautiful and innocent and should never be exposed to anything like that. They should always be protected.
I’m 17 and I was just molested by my 50+ year old coworker in his car. I’m scared to tell anyone because I don’t want to ruin his career. But he made me scared to see him again. What do I do?
I understand your hesitancy. I think.Consider the situation this way… you are now scared of your coworker. Your own career has been out into jeopardy. Your own workplace began to feel unsafe for you, because you may see him at your workplace.Why should you suffer issued in your own career when you did not molest him?By molesting you, he has dealt a blow to your persons and your feeling of safety and security at the workplace. That is not right.What you can do is report his actions to human resources. It is THEIR decision what to do with your report. It is THEIR decision as to what to do with him, if anything.It is thus not your decision about whether or not his career will or will not be ruined. Your only responsibility to yourself is to make yourself feel safe and for that molestation not to happen again. There are also ways to do this without telling anyone, for example by handling it yourself if you think you are willing and able to confront or at least control your molester.I understand that you telling someone may indeed start the process which may end his career but then it may not. What I'm saying is it will not be your responsibility if his career does end.Whether or not to tell someone is a personal choice. Many factors go into it. I hope you make the right choice for you, whatever it may be.Do gather, record, write down any evidence that you have of the encounter. If any fluids were exchanged, it may be a good idea to check into a forensic/sexual assault kit for documentation purposes.
A close colleague of my girlfriend molested her when she was drunk at a beach party and he refuses it every happening. She feels traumatised with the whole situation and I feel helpless. Is there anything I can do?
My girlfriend had gone for a two day trip to a nearby beach house with a bunch of her colleagues. She is close with each and every one of them so she hadn't thought twice when the plan was made. On one night there was a beach party and quite a few people had showed up for it. She almost never indulges in alcohol and she could probably count the number of times she has drank alcohol with one hand. She has never gotten drunk and she usually stops once she starts feeling tipsy. But on the night of the party she ended up having a bit too much. She cannot recollect much of what happened, but this is what she remembers. She was seated with her colleagues and one of them was this guy, let's say A. He started to get get very touchy with her, and her other female colleagues (who she is pretty close to, let's call them B and C.) noticed this. By now she had gotten pretty drunk so she hadn't paid attention to it. After a while she started to get pretty nauseous and wanted to go for a walk. A said he'd come along to make sure she's alright and although she refused he insisted so they went along. B and C had noticed him acting fishy so they followed her and A from a distance. On the pretext of helping her out he held her in inappropriate places and even groped her at one point, which she clearly remembers. B and C noticed that she had started puking so they rushed over and took her back to the beachouse. On the next day when she recollected what had happened, she texted him regarding it and refused to acknowledge what happened, saying that he was very drunk himself. She is extremely upset with this incident. I on the other feel completely helpless. My blood boils just thinking about the incident and I'm holding my urge to go beat this guy up. I've asked her to inform her office but she refuses saying he might turn the whole thing against her and she doesn't want more people knowing about it and eventually her family finding out. Is there anything I can do regarding this situation? Or do we just have to move on and pretend this never happened?Ps- All her colleagues, including A, are aware she is in a relationship with me.Thanks in advance.
I was raped in my nightmare. What does it mean?
It would really depend on you personally, what has been going on in your life, what has already come to pass, and also the environment that you are are in, that all people are in and how it creates feelings of fear of attack and violation, an utter loss of control over one's life, body and self.People who have been assaulted or abused tend to dream about these things. Abuse manifests in many ways, and yes, as others have stated it comes out in the subconscious. However, one dream doesn't necessarily mean that you were assaulted and have repressed it. Everyone is afraid of being raped. That's why soldiers and prisoners use it as a disturbing weapon of control. It's terrifying, demeaning and silences people.I digress. If you feel that you are dreaming about assault because of previous trauma, tell someone. Contact the Crisis Centre, tell a good friend. Don't harbour it or you will have trouble sleeping, and more negative feelings will come.
How can I make this married woman leave me alone?
So I met her, and shes 40 and I'm 20, so at first she started out talking to me like she just wants a new friend and that's all, quickly the conversation turned sexual. She has 4 kids and her husband is currently in Jail (for something about not paying a ticket). So I kinda feel "raped" a little or molested, but anyways, we had sex, now she WON'T LEAVE ME ALONE, she tries to control my life, saying that I can't have a GF and that I can only have HER, and she checks my cell phone sometimes, and CRIES when I don't call her on time. She writes me letters at-lest 8 pages long 2 times a week, calls me at lest 8 times a day, and now shes talking about falling in love, at first she was like a PIMP she would say stuff like "Don't fall in love with me", and that she only wants sex and now shes the one talking about love. She will curse girls out at my college because she may see me talking to them. What Do I do about it, every since we had sex, its like she WONT leave me alone. She wants me all to herself and shes such a nice person I don't know how to put it.
Help Please!! What does Lewd or lascivious battery victim 12-15 years old mean?
Lewd or lascivious means he committed a sexual act, not intercourse. Battery means he had contact or touching in a fearful or forceful way. This guy is bad news, and I wouldn't live by him if you have kids. It is also your right to notify everyone else that lives nearby, especially families with children.
Has any female groped you in India?
Some memories are really deep and the pain and scars still remain.I love travelling hence instantly picked up a job as sales for a wildlife resort in India after coming back from abroad.Me and another colleague was travelling by the local bus to one of the forest resorts in Bhopal. Madhya Pradesh. The bus was really rickety and noisy, no place to sit in front seats hence we moved behind and there we see a beautiful lady laying across the entire 2nd last row seat. We didn’t have the courage to wake her up hence we took the last row seat. The entire trip was we were bouncing and thrown around because of the bumpy and uneven road.On one such bumps we were thrown so hard that our bones ratttled. This lady at last woke up and sat in the correct posture taking the window seat. We were mesmerised with her village beauty.We started our Bombay style Hindi conversation about her. It was a whispered conversation. But looks like she was hearing and she was enjoying out of the blue she asked us to come in the front seat and sit beside her. We immediately obliged and I sat beside her on her left and my colleague on my left, there was enough space between us though.After some time I felt her thighs widened n was touching mine . I have her space with my colleague almost falling off the seat.After some conversation with her and her village lifestyle, she instantly held my right hand tightly. It was an enjoyable sight for me to start with but later I realised I was in a mess. This lady was not ready to leave my hand. I asked for my colleagues assistance and he backed out. There was so much going in my head about me bing caught and beaten but this lady was not budging. She dragged my hand all through her lower part of the body. She was ready for another round for the upper part of her body when I got an opportunity to pull out my hand and run behind to my colleague. In the milee she scratched my arm with her nail so hard that there was a straight line mark with blood spots .Scared and shaken I was dumbfounded as what has happened. I was in a shock but couldn’t complain to anybody.Till date I have the scar in my right arm.I really don’t sit beside any lady.While walking in a crowded place too I make sure that my arms are folded.This is not the first time but I have several instances of such unfortunate situations.All in all Males are also physically abused by women.I am glad I moved out otherwise I don’t know what would have happened that day.