My coworkers don't like me. What should I do?
I don't think many people answering this question fully understand the nature of the issue. I, however, understand it all to well.The person asking this question isn't trying to make friends…. They aren't trying to be buddies or “besties” with these people. When you go to work everyday and people are constantly trying to undermine you, say bad or untrue things about you to your boss to get you in trouble or try and get you fired, even sometimes call you names for no reason or are just outright rude when all you're trying to do is your job… It wears on you… day after day after day..I was in a situation like this.. I've found, in an office setting, it's easy for a woman who is plain looking to be smart, it's also easy for a very pretty girl if she's not that smart.. However, if you are pretty and you are very intelligent then watch out.. Because they will have it out for you.. It's an awful situation but it's the truth. I now work for myself and couldn't be happier. But in simply “keeping my head down and doing my job” my coworkers made it absolutely unbearable for me and I left after 2 years of agonizing torture. To me it was worse than high school (which was no walk in the park).My suggestion… Find another job! No one deserves to be treated poorly or unfairly by their co-workers.. I'm sorry you're going through this. I know first hand how terrible it can be.
My coworkers bully me?
My coworkers constantly bully me, I feel like quitting but I can't because the pay is good, I don't wanna rat them out because I can't, I don't know what to do and it's stressing me out, I feel helpless when I should feel great that I'm getting paid nicely
Dealing with a creepy coworker, should I be worried?
Maybe he has Asperger's. Maybe he thought you were going to be friends. It's good you quit taking advantage of his generosity, because it seems it was giving him ideas you didn't want him to have time to form. He will probably go away on his own once he sees you really don't care for his attention. If he escalates, go above the current supervisor, but as it is, he's really just reacting as you might if you had thought you were possibly getting to know someone. Give him a week or so.
When I lost my dad and resumed work, most of my coworkers sympathized with me and send cards but my boss didn’t say a word of sympathy to me. Should I be worried about this?
I wouldn't spend much more time worrying about this. I'll tell you why.At my work, I'm not a very chatty person. Despite this, for some reason an older woman warned up to me. She is one of the few people that I'll go out of my way to make small talk with.Last year her husband of 30ish years died. She was understandably grief stricken. So much so that she took a few months off.When she came back into the office, she seemed like she had made peace with what happened. I remember thinking that she seems to be in much better spirits than I would have been. She was smiling, and chatty with her coworkers.I decided that, the next chance I get, I'd give her my condolences.Then I thought about it some more. She seems to be in good spirits despite losing someone important.Ultimately, i decided to leave things as they were.I figured that no good would come from taking her out of the moment to condole her and as a result bring to the forefront one of the worst experiences of her life.Even if I would have given my condolences, it would have been a word salad garnished with gibberish.Maybe your boss is like me - wanting to acknowledge the situation, but realizing it may do more harm than good.
My friend told me that my coworkers don't like me. I'm usually nice to them, I always say Hi and I never insulted them. What should I do?
That depends upon how you feel about it.Personally, my view of co-workers is this.. I go to work every day to do a job and earn a paycheck. If I get along with my co-workers, it helps the day pass in a much nicer way. It's nice to share stories and laughs with my co-workers. If I end up being friends with them, it is a fantastic bonus but I don't need to be friends with them. I don't have to like them to be able to work with them. If they don't like me, well that's a bummer, but I'm not going to lose any sleep over it. As long as we can pass the day without any arguments or anything, that is all I need from co-workers.If you find out that your co-workers don't like you, how is that going to make you feel? How are you going to react? Do you think there's a reason why any of them might dislike you? Sometimes people just don't get along and sometimes it's a misunderstanding. If you find out they dislike you, will that impact your ability to do your job?Try to think through the possible scenarios. If you really genuinely care about them and are worried about them liking you, then maybe try to figure out why. Otherwise, I'd just continue being as cordial as possible and do your work.
Why would my wife lie about her coworker?
My wife and I are both in our early thirties, married for six years. We have a good marriage and she has never been unfaithful to me. My concern is about a coworker of hers (she teaches at the elementary school) with whom she has had some apparent sexual tension. He is younger (I think mid-20s) and likes to compliment her in suggestive ways and flirt. She flirts back, which she has been honest about. She went on a fundraiser "fun run" 5k run/walk in town about six months ago with her coworkers. She told me one coworker, a woman, did something dumb and took a spill on the course. Last week at an end of the school year gathering her coworkers teased her about him and seemed to think their flirtation was funny, which was fine with me because they did it in front of me and so I assume no big deal, otherwise they would not say anything about it. But then one of her friends laughed and told a joke about the time this male coworker fell at the race (so not the female coworker she told me had fallen). When I asked her yesterday why she had told me that another person had fallen and not him, she eventually admitted she did not want me to be jealous of him being at the race with her. Why did she lie? Do I need to worry at all, or is their apparent friendship harmless?
How do I not care what my coworkers think of me?
I really don't think they like me. Just cause I'm quiet and shy and I feel kind of picked on because of it. I keep telling myself I don't care but I get so nervous and paranoid I can feel my skin in my whole body heat up in embarrasement when I talk and after. How can I completely just not care what they think of me? And please don't suggest going to see the doctor, if I could afford it I would.
Have you ever left your job because of a coworker?
No, whatever issues I had with a coworker, I dealt with it. At my first job-college work study-a girl found out I was Jewish and kept pressuring me to quit or convert. She couldn’t work with a Christ killer. I told her that I got to the job before her-and I was very happy with the job-she was free to move on. Finally, I pulled her aside and agreed on this-if Jesus does return and I’m dragged to the fiery pits of hell, I will ask until then to find you and now at your feet and beg forgiveness for being a Christ killing fool. BUT, until then-let’s live and let live. She was convinced I was making fun of her-she reported me to our supervisor. And our supervisor asked me to step in. How long has she been harassing you about this? Oh, a few weeks. I tried to make peace with her. The supervisor told me that she was breaking the law by harassing me. Why didn’t I report her? I told my supervisor that my father taught me that the world was filled with many people and a lot of them didn’t think or agreed with what I thought. While she annoyed me, I felt in her heart she was doing the right thing-trying to save me. Just because I didn’t agree with it was my own thing. My supervisor nodded and smiled at me. Don’t worry, she said. She’s being transferred. Ok. My supervisor was so impressed with me she asked the chairperson of the department if they could hire me full time. I was only 18, but I was quite an example they needed for students. The chairperson spoke to me-being only 18, I couldn’t be hired at the college. But she did want me to tell my father thank you for raising me right.Over the years, I learned I couldn’t pick my coworkers like friends. And I have dealt with serious loonies. I had one gal go to lunch early every day so I had 15 minutes of sanity in the room. Only twice in my current job I asked to be taken out of a classroom-once over a student, once over a teacher who did not support me when she witnessed a student physically assault me.
How can you avoid a coworker who is seriously crushing on you, cos dating him/her is not a good idea since you work together?
If you spend much time on Quora, you’ll see a lot of “You can’t control what someone else does, but you can control your own actions.” This applies here.You shouldn’t have to worry about avoiding your coworker. I get that it seems easier than resolving the situation, but it isn’t. Sooner or later, you’re going to have to be direct.“Please don’t speak to me like that. I’m not going to date you. We are coworkers. Treat me professionally.”You know, all those things you probably think when your coworker behaves unprofessionally around you. Say some of them. Start with the most polite ones and work your way down the list.If your coworker continues to behave unprofessionally after you ask them to stop, you may have to go official — either to the supervisor or HR. But if s/he just seems to be yearning for you without doing anything overt, ignore it.When you interact, stay on topic with work issues. Maintain professional behavior at all times, don’t get personal in case s/he takes it as encouragement.Good luck.