I think my dad touched me when I was younger?
I'm female I think my dad may have touched me inappropriately when I was really young. I Can't remember exactly him touching me but my memories are odd. I remember - 1. him "teaching" me how to wipe myself after I use the bathroom, even though my mom fully potty trained me. 2. Whenever I got a spanking he would pull my pants and my panties down, then make me sit in the corner still with no pants or panties on and he would stare at me and never look away. 3. I'm not sure of what happened but I remember running to my room with no pants or panties on, locking my door, and hiding under my bed. When he told me to open the door I kept saying no. When he got the door open he sat on my bed and said "I'm not going to hurt you." something tells me this was more than just getting in trouble like a normal child. 4. Before bed I would kiss my mom goodnight, on the cheeks and lips sometimes. Whenever I kissed him goodnight he always wanted me to kiss him on the lips. Those are just some examples. Lately I've been having dreams that he touched me when I was younger and I really think he might've. Some other signs- •I really hate being around him. •I hate it when he touches me (like a hug) •I cringe when he kisses me goodnight (on the cheek) •I can't stand being alone with him •I refuse to see him anymore and if I have to I'll cry and have a panic attack •I hate when guys touch me like try to give me a hug but I don't care if a girl gives me a hug •I dont feel like I can trust boys
My dad won't stop touching me?! ?
I'm almost 14 (10 days to go), and my dad's just too touchy-feel-ie for me. Like, he'll put his hand on my thigh, a little to close to my...well, you know. And if I ask him to stop or push him away, he just blows up and gets mad and calls me mean. We've had a really rocky relationship these past couple of years (he's an alcoholic, has been verbally abusing me, and has lied to me for most of my life), and besides that, I really feel like I'm getting too old for all the touching to still occur. It makes me really uncomfortable. Today I was washing dishes and he hugged me from behind, pushing me up against the counter, and put his head on my shoulder. I pushed him away and told him to stop and he just got mad! I realized that this has gone too far and that I need help. I've already told my mom; he just gets mad at her, too. What do I do? I feel really uncomfortae around him now. BQ: He also asks me questions about boys and being attracted to them. What do I do in that situation?
My dad keeps on touching me. What should I do?
‘I'm fine with other guys touching me.’on the other hand‘I just felt really uncomfortable when he touched my back or kissed me on the cheek or hugged me.���These two have to be combined to read the problem.There are news about parents abusing kids daily which could be reason. As you stated ‘He hasn't ever abused me or done anything to me’.May be as a child you hated him, that is still in you. Probably partiality to your siblings be the reason.It could be due to Electra complex which you fail to recognize as it is in the subconscious level of your mind. Understand the issue and get over it.TAKE CAREWhat Is the Electra Complex in Psychoanalytic Theory?
Is it normal for my dad to touch me?
What is going on with this world? Fathers touching their daughters is frowned upon?I had a great dad, and he touched me often. Not sexually, but with hugs, or an arm around my shoulders, and other forms of innocent affection. Having fathers not touch their daughters (or sons) below the shoulders is NOT abuse.We were a very affectionate family. I was hugged and kissed by both my parents often. Even into adulthood, a hug and a kiss hello and/or goodbye was standard procedure. This was also true with my aunts and uncles.Today’s world is so suspicious that having a father touch his daughter below the shoulders is considered as possible sexual abuse. This is absurd. Sexual touching between parents and their chidren is forbidden, but for a father to be afraid to touch his daughter because someone could call it sexual abuse is ridiculous. There’s a big difference between touching and touching for sexual purposses.
I have this dream my dad is touching and raping me?
Like the above poster said, I'd look a little more into this if I were you. I had a similar dream to this not too long ago and it made me nauseated and freaked out for a week. I know for an absolute fact my father never molested me, so its not necessarily a literal repressed memory. Many negative things did happen in my childhood, though. You mention that you steer clear of your family? Is there a clear cut reason for this in your mind? Rape is often symbolic of power ... being the victim is a tangible version of feeling completely powerless. Was there a sense of oppression in your family? Did you feel victimized in ways that weren't sexual? Is it possible that you were, indeed, attacked my a family member as a small child? Those are just a few of the questions I'd start asking myself to try to get to the bottom of it. A professional would probably be a great help, though, because sometimes when you start feeling things you've shut out and remembering things you've blocked, it can get very hard to deal with.
I think my dad might be a pedophile?
Hey it's like almost 2:30 am and I can't sleep, especially over the past few nights because I can't stop thinking about the time my dad touched me and my younger brother back in 1999-2000 when he would change us. I remember he would be changing us them he would start touching us down there and flicking it and yelling at us 'MONGREL... MONGREL!' whatever what means...it's only come to my attention very recently that I remember this, however it has always been in the back of my mind until about a year ago where I decided to tell my best friend. He said it's not normal but he tried to make it sound not so bad by saying he might have wanted to check if everything is working down there. And omg now writing this I remember he used to touch us in the bath as well, but very vaguely not so sure if Im just imagining it... Then as I got to 13 he would always mention my voice and like once he rang ne up on the phone and he called me my older brother's name and I said umm... I'm (my name)... Then he was like 'oh really? I thought u were (older bro) your voice is dropping, I think your balls are dropping. Then he made me and my older brother get up and show the rest of the family the back of our legs and our leg hair, which was so awkward and disturbing. He has also been doing this new thing since we moved houses. He spies on the neighbors daughter while she is in her room or the shower and this just brings back horrible memories from when I was younger. He thinks everyone is asleep and he goes and makes the family room all dark and peeps out through the window into her room. Then I might come in for s drink of water, he gets startled and runs away from that spot or pretends to be on his phone and the blinds are moving. And the fact that he openly talks about sex at the table and aroind the house makes it so awkward and I want to avoid him. I'm glad he comes home late. I'm glad his job is too important for him to be home I dont want him here.
My dad almost never washes his hands and I need help?
My dad almost never washes his hands. I see him go into the bathroom and sit down on the toilet and go to the bathroom but then he flushes and leaves right away. Twice today I could see him in the bathroom going to the bathroom standing up holding his you know what and then he just flushes and walks out of the bathroom. Other times I see him scratching his butt and sometimes I think he is scratching by his genitals when he is watching TV( and I mean actually sticking his hands down his pants)but never goes to wash his hands. The only few times I see him wash his hands is if I tell him to and he only puts a little soap and washes only for a few secs. At least he washes his hands when he prepares his food. And on top of all that, he touches the doorknobs, the light switches, the remote, and other places with his unwashed hands. Whenever I tell him to wash his hands he usually just makes a joke about it. I, however am opposite of my dad because I wash my hands all the time and I wash my hands after touching the doorknobs and switches that he touches too. One time he told me something about washing your hands too much could kill you, but one of the only reasons I do it is becasue of the germs being spread arround. Also I noticed that people at my school never wash there hands after going to the bathroom wheather they peed or pooped, some of them just stop and run their hands under the water for a couple seconds and leave. Well anyway back to the topic, I'm 15 and my dad is 67 and I love my dad very much but I need to get him to wash his hands more because it's just grossing me out. What can I do?