My dad screams at me?
Please read the whole thing. I know it's long. :c My dad denies that he has anger issues but my whole family knows he does. He'll get so angry at my brothers and I for every single tiny thing and I literally try so hard to be a good daughter. My mom doesn't try to stand up for us anymore because if she does, he yells and says that she's always on our side. It makes me feel worthless. He'll scream so loud that my chest will ache and he tells me and my brothers that he'll "rip our ears off" (he sometimes pulls our ears) or "spank us with the belt" even though we aren't little kids anymore. I remember a couple months ago he told me that I sometimes make him want to punch me in the face.....that was just because my brothers told on me for listening to music with a curse word. I used to have friends but they were all scared of him or thought he was stupid/lame so I'm alone. I have nobody. I just want a dad who loves me. I hate my dad so much. I'm not overreacting....I've never loved him. One minute he'll be acting overly nice and then he sees a piece of trash on the floor and completely flips out. He tells me that I don't know anything because I'm only 14. Whenever I self harm, it's because of him. I never stop thinking of suicide. I don't know why my mother hasn't divorced him yet; I think it's because she's afraid of him. I wish she would just leave him. I do not want to have to live with him. My mom is never really home (she's always at work) so that makes things so much worse. He calls us retards sometimes too (my brothers and I). I've stopped trying to stand up for myself because he never listens to me anyways. He doesn't directly hit us or anything but he's so horrible. One time I was using his phone to take a picture of a sunset and I found a sex video on his phone (NOT of him and my mom), which freaked me out even more.....he makes me feel uncomfortable. He scares me sometimes. I don't want to be near him. I don't want to live with him. He makes me hate myself. I don't understand why I was even born. I don't know what to do....
My Dad Always Yells At Me?
talk to someone who can take charge. talk to a friend. your dad needs therapy or anger management treatment. if you confront him about anything i'm saying he really might hit you and he could be arrested, so I don' t think you want that. if you genuinely get scared of being around him, you should tell your mom and you should "get outta there". make sure he gets help and you need to vent out your feelings with a friend or someone else who can help you like a therapist. it isn't embarrassing, it isn't your fault, it's his. don't let his anger and issues get in the way of your life. good luck! xoxo, Cassidy
Why does my dad always say no :(?
I want to learn violin but my dad always says no to everything and this is something I really want and just then he heard me listening to violin music and got really mad and yelled at me and said that I will never be able to learn it and says I can't do anything and this makes me cry constantly but my mum says I can try it out what can I do? :'(
Why is my dad always yelling at me, and never admits it?
My mother never drank when I & my two brothers were growing up but she married a German, who was an electrician & they didn’t drink Monday through Friday day because he worked for the electric company. Starting Friday night at 5:15 they drank until Sunday night when they went to bed. They never got physical but would have drunken arguments with my stepfather yelling & our mother screaming at each other with horribly filthy language & name calling. I only lived with them for a year after they got married; I was my mother’s oldest child. They had a girl my senior year & a boy when I was in college, working & living on my own. When they were 14 & 12 (my two brothers had moved out by this time too) they used a tape recorder to tape their parents fighting. You’d think that would be enough to make them quit drinking (I have a glass of wine with Christmas dinner, otherwise I don’t drink) Instead, when the kids played it for them during the week when they were sober, they were furious with the kids & not at all ashamed of their behavior. I’d get my mother to promise to not drink at all if I flew down to visit; my stepfather would convince her that they were celebrating my visit & one drink wouldn’t hurt. They’d stay drunk for 2 days & 3 nights of my visit. I’d tell my mother I couldn’t handle the drinking & felt so sorry for my half siblings. My mother would promise to stay sober if I’d come down & bring my little girl. I’d come for a visit & it would be the same thing: loud, sloppy drunks arguing. I’d take my daughter, sister, & brother & go to the movies to get away from them. People who yell & call names, never admit they’re wrong, even with a tape recording to prove otherwise. The only good thing I can say is my parents never hit or were physical with us & my mother refused to let my stepfather lay a hand on their two kids (or on us when we lived with them) I never hit my daughter & told my husband, who’d been beat with a belt as a child, that the day he touched either of us in anger or laid a hand on any child we had, he’d be served divorce papers in jail.
Why does my dad always yell at me for everything and why does he always compare to my cousin?
Sad to say, I have to agree with Connor Duke. An unfulfilled parent will find at least one child to devalue...no matter how well the child does, it will never gain the parents approval.............You have to see your own good work, feel happy for it, celebrate your own achievements and NEVER allow another person, parent, teacher or person to make you feel the best you do is never enough, to make you feel "less than". If you rely on someone else's approval, when you know you have done well, you will be disappointed more often than not. The disappointment will eat away at your self-esteem, diminish your self-worth, and you will grow up to be emotionally broken on the inside, struggling to achieve successes.People who spend time not being able to celebrate other people's successes, no matter how small the successes may be, have control issues because they feel out of control with their own lives, so they find those they can bully and use them as punching bags to aim their frustrations at.....children are the easiest targets.This is a human emotional and psychological problem, common right around the world, not exclusive to any one National culture.
My dad always yells at me for small little things and I'm not sure what to do anymore?
he gets mad at you because you have no sense of self discipline obviously you have lost more than car keys and you depend upon him to get you out of the situation. I read nowhere where you say I will re-imburse him at least for the locksmith I believe you need to challenge yourself to understand your responsibilities as a member of a family
Why does my dad always yell at me at little mistakes?
Your Dad might yell at you for a bunch of little mistakes for a whole bunch of different reasons. But the most important thing is what you do with it. You have some choices.You can consider each specific issue he yells at you about and decide if you think you should make improvements there or not.If you think improvements could be made you could tell him so but also tell him that you find it hurtful and disrespectful when he yells are you irrespective of whether he is right or not.You can understand that in some cases you will feel like his yelling isn’t warranted. You can ask him questions to clarify why he yelled at you in those cases and if you still don’t agree with him or you can tell him so or not. Your choice. But again you can express your dislike for being yelled at.You can educate him by researching what the impact is to kids who are verbally abused and ask him to stop. You can tell him that that behavior is both hurtful to you and to your relationship with him. You can seek help with this from your Mom or other relatives or teachers if you need help.You can be an example to him by always being respectful to him and not yelling back even though you might feel very hurt.But the most important thing is you can be kind to yourself and remind yourself that no matter how much yelling you are worthy and special and will not lose your love or respect for yourself.I think you are brave and courageous and an amazing person for not internalizing this and asking the question. And I think that because you are courageous enough to ask the question, you’ll now address it the best you can. I wish I had been as courageous as you when I faced the same.
My dad always takes out his frustrations by yelling at me over things that don't matter. Is there any way to make him stop?
Before you respond to him, remind yourself that you love this person for giving you life. Then, remind yourself that everyone deserves what “the good life" has to offer: love, laughs, and adventures. That definitely includes you! Once you remind yourself of these two very important things, speak to your dad from the heart and say, “ dad, you deserve the best!” and maybe give him a hug but only if he is receptive to it. Then, just go and mind your own business…Go have fun! Do something you enjoy! Just realize through all the bickering your dad does, you can't 1. tell him to stfu because …well just trust me on that, and 2. tell anyone they're being negative because you'll just be sacrificing yourself into being the bad guy.Trust me, you want to be the positive light. Don't dull your life down for anyone. Get away from toxic people as frequently as you can, even if they are your parents.❤♀️