My Dad Battered Me Its Going To Court But Because I Fought Back In Defence Im Scared Incase I Get

Self-Defense: If you fight with someone who attacked you first, how do you prove that you have a justifiable reason to attack back?

You can only "prove" it by evidence such as videotape. The more eyewitnesses you have the better, in a case sans tape.A lot of people use the excuse that "he started it" when in reality they baited the person to make the first move so they could feel "justified" in inflicting violence on someone.This is why ego contests usually start with "chest bumping", name calling, and other enticements to tempt someone into being the "aggressor".Half the time this is simple word games. There was no true self defense at play. A state like Colorado even has a "mutual combat rule" where you are allowed to fight another, which seems rational, if not outdated for our day and age.In a true self defense situation you are allowed to strike back. But you need to end your assault the moment your attacker is no longer of threat to you. You can't say, "well, he touched me, and I don't allow ANYBODY to put their hands on me, so we threw down!"Sure, that will justify it to yourself, but it's not right to provoke someone simply to have an excuse for kicking their ass.If it's true self defense, for example a strong armed robbery or random street violence, then strike back, strike hard, and worry about your personal safety first and the law second. But as soon as it's over, look to clean up your mess (getting witnesses on your side) as soon as possible. Tell the police you were a "victim", and try to be the first one to call and talk to the police if at all possible You are not going to look very "victim-like" if you have a bloody body lying at your feet, so be careful to paint the proper picture of the incident to the police. Speak with an attorney as soon as you can too, obviously, and be careful how much explanation you give the police. Just make sure you are labeled as victim and complainant.

How do I defend myself against a woman after she hits me?

After reading all those contributions, i just felt i needed to make this contribution: A woman can use physical violence, hit and hurt just as well as a man. That women are just weak defenseless creatures is BS enforced by thousand years of propaganda. Women just mobilize their strength differently and can use different tools. In terms of gender discrimination, the law has to recognize that women can be equal offenders when it comes to violence. Especially if there is alcohol involved. If a woman becomes physical, for me as a man i just want to walk away and avoid this confrontation. But i learned you sometimes can't. Sometimes you literally have your back against the wall. She does not stop and it takes all your strength as a man to overpower the situation where it can become really dangerous for both parties since a woman literally has no self control in these matters. I experienced a situation in a relationship with extreme violence once in my life. Since then i have learned in all my relationships the following that I communicate to a partner in the beginning when it comes to arguing and fighting: I will never hit you and i will defend you to the best of my abilities and even die for you to keep you safe. We might have serious fights and shout at one another. But as soon as the brain stops and you raise your hand against me, you do it at your own risk and it's over. If the time comes that you want to break up with me, do so. You can walk away whenever you want. The same goes for me.  But don't ever raise your hand against me, nothing is worse when the brain stops and fists start talking. Violence is futile in this context and has no meaning.Women are interested to talk about everything in a relationship and strangely enough they understand the logic behind this when the rules are clear.  Since then I never had a problem.

How effective is a throat punch in a street fight?

I’m one of those people who’ve actually done it. It was a three against one scenario, where two of his buddies had grabbed my arms (it happened when I was a teenager). The mouth of the group started his monologue about how he and his friends were going to teach me a lesson by daring to speak to my betters (he honestly said this).I used an escape I’d learned in a martial arts class and promptly spear handed (think “jam all your fingers, tips first with fingers straightened”) him in the Adam’s Apple. I then kept moving. He immediately hit the ground on all fours, puking all sorts of fun liquids. His buddies went to his aid and I went inside the school.To this day, some 38 years later, the guy still gags every time he swallows anything, food or fluid alike- we see each other at class reunions and- get this- he doesn’t remember who did it to him, or why. “Don’t bully weaker kids and and don’t start mass attack scenarios” would probably be my advice to him.I’m sad it happened, but I have no love for bullies. My crime toward them? They’d been calling me names as I walked by, so I said “Leave me alone.” That was it. Amazing what an overblown ego can do, isn’t it?In retrospect, I can say that- if you’re going to do something like that, you’d better be able to explain in a court of law how what you did was justified and how that was about your only option. Me, I was a skinny, undersized kid for my age with a broken left humerus immobilized by a sling and an elastic bandage (something they knew about), facing three larger boys who knew about the break and who were going to rebreak my arm (possibly maiming me for life) for having had the balls to say “leave me alone” to a trio of pricks who were picking on a weaker kid. I’d like to think a judge would have said “nice work, kid” to me, and “shame on you, you got what you had coming” to the bully in question, along with his parents.In a one on one confrontation? You’d best be able to show there was NO other way… or get ready to get all sorts of loving you don’t want behind bars.