Why does my Dad always put me down?
1st of all, maybe you think people/parents can talk anyway they see fit and never lie. Turns out many are abusers. Actually they are not trying to be tough to make you better or help- they are tricking you. This goes for people at school as well. Words are abuse also. There are many types of abusive people/parents. Some ignore you. Some hit the bottle. Some hit you. And some run their mouths and put you down. THEY are sick and feel great by being mean, and thats the only reason they do it. They are wrong about everything. The typical abuser is close-minded, self-righteous and was also abused themself. Use defense and read many sites on verbal abuse etc. People tear you down or give irratating advice to build themselves up. They have problems. Remember- Abuse always involves some deception mixed in. Abuse causes pain mistaken as mental problems- Cutting, OCD etc. Psychiatrists commit fraud in that all disorders are only emotions. For chemical imbalances NO test exists. You dont have what shrinks say you have. Dont tell abusers about any so called disorders. They will only drug you. Jesus name and forgiving others who are wrong is important along with avoiding them. Call or I can- Child Protective Services- Transitional housing to age 21- tell your teacher. Dont tell your parents they wont listen. Learn the truth, forgive, and Get Away from them. Read many many sites under "emotional abuse" and "dealing with bullies". I have some questions for you if want to talk about it. http://www.googobits.com/articles/2446-inside-the-mind-of-an-abuser-what-you-need-to-know.html
My dad bullies me?what should i do?
Bullying is the act of intentionally causing harm to others through verbal harassment, physical assault, or other more subtle methods of coercion such as manipulation. Is your Dad intentionally causing you harm by telling you how to improve, and warning you of the consequences if you don't? Even if he goes ON and ON and ON, no. He is trying to stimulate you to do better, that is his job as a parent, even if you don't care for the method. I'm sure he does not expect you to be a CEO tomorrow, but A job, ANY job, is a good start. He does not see effort on your part and is believes you should start pulling your weight as an adult. It's understandable that the situation gets you down, we all get down when things are not going our way and responsibilty stares us in the face, but if this rather common situation gets you down so low, you actually consider killing yourself as preferable, please seek help from a mental health professional immediately.
My dad is always putting me down, what can i do?
Growing up, my dad was very mean. He would belittle me, make fun of me, threaten me.... We all fought all the time, and the worst part of it was that everyone blamed me. I got into cutting, pretty badly actually. The only two emotions I felt were anger and depression, and I was sincerely contemplating suicide. Eventually, I got sick of it. I decided it was too much for me to handle and it was just an unhealthy place for me to live. When I was 17 I moved into a friends house walking distance from the city, close to where I could find a job and get on my feet to support myself. All my anger went away, and when I chose to only surround myself with positive people, I felt so much better about myself. I think you need to really ask yourself how much longer you can handle being in that environment. You need to observe whether these people can change for the better, if they're WILLING to change for the better, or if they are so stuck in their own heads that they won't see their own faults. If you think they can be helped, try to talk to your mother about that. Ask about family counseling - it's better to try to fix the situation first before deciding to leave, it just wasn't an option for my situation. For the time being, focus on other things. Try to be out of the house as much as you can. Look for a job, get into a hobby like music or art, and try doing things that would help your self esteem. Try to talk to your family about getting help, but I'd say if it doesn't get better or if things escalate, it's best to withdraw yourself from the situation to try and get a good head on your shoulders. After I left, and fixed myself up a bit, I was able to handle my family head on. I deciphered who in my family I would allow myself around, and set boundaries with how often I would see them. It helped me become my own person, realize that things that happened weren't my fault, and I'm overall just.. Happier. I hope I helped at least a little. I just feel like I know what you're going through. Best of luck
My family always bullies me. What should I do?
At the end of the day, if your family are true pieces of shit my apologies, and I commend you on losing those 20 pounds.Just like bullies at school, they pick on those that they feel power over.In this case your supposed mother aka queen B( not the singer lol) simply belittles you because your the Daughter and she's the mom and whatever mom says goes, right.Bullies like your mother and the rest of the family, feed off your emotion and reaction.Your family is far from a family, I don't know why they pick on you, looks should not matter and that sucks.Let me ask do you have any close friends, that you have a great relationship with. If yes, talk to them your family is no use. Their is hope for your father but as he is away their is very little he can do over the phone.Going back to the emotion and reaction you give when they make you feel sad. Control that, they will keep taunting you, the only way to beat a bully is to show no emotion.They have said these things plenty of times, do not make the mistake of ever believing it or hurting yourself in any way, you do so , they win.And believe me 5 to 10 years from now this will make you an incredibly tough individual, see it as a trial period you just have to deal with.Best of luck, and tell queen b to kiss my ass
My mom bullies me and my dad all the time what do we do?
My mom has mental issues and I think she has very poor parenting skills and judgement. She is giving me emotional abuse. My sister is out of control at home, she allows my ******* sister do whatever she wants, my sister can break things and get violent literally bat people until they're injured and my mom would watch it as if nothing happened!. My sister would cuss her and my dad out but if I say the slightest thing, she screams and yells at me all day. She provokes fights with me and my dad all day. She also hits my dad. Is there anything I can do? I want to report this, I don't know how my dad can put up with this. Why do you think my mom doesn't do anything about my sister when my sister is WRONG but my mom would do nothing about her but she attacks my dad even if we don't do anything wrong.
Why does my Dad always put me down/be negative and critical to me?
You didn't mention WHAT you dad says to you?????? Puts you down.....I guess 'you will never amount to anything'???? You have proved it yourself, that you HAVE and WANT to be something Bravo on getting a placement in PR Seems to me, you have done a great job You could take what your Dad says and say "whoa is me, poor me" OR You can use your positive nature and state "I will not let Dad bring me down. I will be the best in whatever I choose to be. I will not do or act the same way Dad does. I will treat others with respect" PS.....Where is your Mom in all this? You are 22, perhaps time to leave the nest? Is there a friend you can move in with or get an apartment with? Your DAD is the one with the PROBLEM.....I wonder if he speaks to those he works with in the same manner, as he is not a good role model for you Growing up, did you Dad put down your Mom or other siblings? Is he an alcoholic? Was his Dad the same way to him? BULLIES (yes bullies come in all forms) get pleasure from putting others down and tormenting them YOU don't need that in your life now. YOU need someone to praise you. To love you for who you are. SHAME on your DAD!!!:( TRY to put your mind in a different frame You could maybe speak with your Dad. Alone. State or ask WHY he puts you down ?? AND that it hurts you. IF he badgers you AGAIN...then you will have to ignore him But living under the same roof.......WOW I feel for you:( You Dad is the one that needs help/counselling as what he is doing to his daughter Just is NOT right:(
My dad bullies me, and I'm so scared!?
My dad bullies me verbally. He calls me names and thinks I'm useless, he always puts me down and when I defend myself, he says something back that can make me burst out into tears within seconds. I hate the sound of his voice and he makes me want to kill myself, I've cut myself before just because I felt it was his pleasure, like I deserve to be hurt. If i say "im sorry" or "youre right", like basically give into him, he just says "SHUT THE F*CK UP!" I've thought of suicide also but never went through it because I thought everything will get better but it hasn't. Now I kinda live in fear. And yes I've told my mum and she just says "yes, he's like that".. And I don't wanna tell any of my friends because firstly I don't have many anymore because everyone says I'm so down and look to miserable, so i only have about 5, but I don't trust them. I just don't know what to do.
How does it feel to be bullied?
Question: “How does it feel to be severely bullied”?Thanks for the A2A.One of the ways I was bullied throughout school (shoving and shouting aside) is that I was ‘sent to Coventry’.That means, almost everybody in my grade ignored me, for twelve years. It was as if I wasn’t there. If they were forced to talk or interact with me, it was made clear that this interaction was made under duress.When I was sixteen, I stopped remembering name and faces. I simply did not bother to learn them. So, one of the after-effects of my childhood is that now I have difficulty remembering names and faces. I don’t remember much about school.I grew to like being by myself.At school I was lonely and unhappy. I was never invited to parties, nor did people I invite come to mine. I had quite a few birthdays where no one showed. In school, never even did homework with anyone. Couldn’t borrow a pen or ask for help - not that that stopped me from asking. Fortunately, I was a creative and empathic person who loved to read (still do and am). Bizarrely, though, something in me, something magical and strong at core, kept me innocent and positive and trusting.I am much the same way today, with added wisdom and less naivety.From my experiences, I feel that belief in oneself and the ability to mitigate one’s own emotions and disassociate from the worst of them can make a person under siege very powerful. It cannot fix the situation completely, but it can keep you alive and make you think you are worthy, so that even if you’re unhappy in the situation (which is completely normal), even if you wonder about yourself and why you’re alive to endure this, you don’t go and self-harm. It is the harm one does to oneself that can be the worst; many children have taken their own lives because of severe bullying.I truly believe that those beliefs can save a person in terrible situations.I have used this belief with my own three-year old daughter who experienced bullying last year, by teaching her own to deal with her negative emotions and to feel strong inside. It took me a few weeks to work out what to do, but once I figured it out and taught it to her, she had a complete turn around, confounding her teachers (who were expecting an unfixable, long-term miserable child) and disconcerting her bullies.I am in the process of preparing to share what I did, to help as many children as I can.Here’s a picture of what I’ve begun:
My dad puts me down a lot as he doesn't understand me. How can I best deal with this?
Thank you for asking, Melle. I was very sad when I read about your mother and your difficulties with your father. This is perhaps the best time to talk to your dad since right now you are both together or possibly after your mother's death when you will are no longer grieving.I have male friends who do not agree with their daughter's lifestyle. It bothers me when they are critical because I believe that children should be allowed to pursue their own interests. I recently read a book entitled "The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self" by Alice Miller. The author encourages parents to let their child find their own way in life. The role of the parent is to allow the child this freedom even though he/she may make mistakes. Many therapists have read it.Of course your father's judgments are more distressing than those made by other people. You love him and want him to appreciate you. Perhaps the best advice is to ignore him. Don't react because this will encourage him to say more. He will soon get tired of being critical without any feedback. Just be yourself and keep thinking, "I'm okay. I am happy with the choices I have made. I will not let my father's remarks bother me."
How can I stop my dad from verbally putting me down and making fun of me?
Perhaps he’s pressuring you to actually make an effort to lose weight. Gaining weight will make you sluggish. Having depression will make you dysfunctional most of the time. Taking care of you is taxing to your entire family. If you yourself will make an effort to improve yourself, nobody will pull you down for it. You said they give you the best of everything then that would mean they’re putting you on medication, that they comply on your prescription.They did their best on their part, if you want to be a fully functional human being in the society, you should do yours.Multiple illnesses run in our family. Just being a dependent does not give you total leverage to be a constant headache by thinking everybody will be the ones who will adjust to you. If you can’t help yourself, no one else will.