My dad calls me fat and worthless?
He woke me up at 7 in the morning today by standing at the end of my bed. (It's the weekend.) Then went to my mom's room and started to fight with her. He continued to yell so I told him to be quiet and he started calling me a fatass. The other day he told me, "Why do you live? You serve no purpose." I'm only 15 so I don't understand what he wants me to do. I'm really depressed and suicidal and he knows I have self esteem issues but he still says stuff like that. He favors my other sister who's almost 2 years older than me. She plays basketball and has a part time job. Ever since she got the part time job, he's been nice to her and threw me out to the curb. I just want to die. He makes me feel worthless and that I won't achieve anything in life. What do I do? thank you
My dad calls me worthless?
I'm 13 years old...and I miss quite a bit of school. I have also recently went on a diet and im 5'1 and weigh 126, I have lost 14 pounds in 2 months. I got depressed like 2 years ago when my dad called me a fat ***, so I've put myself on several diets and I've lost a ton of weight, but now he's been calling me too skinny and hurting my feelings. He also calls me worthless. One morning he called me a worthless *****. He isn't always like this. He can be a good guy, but he can turn into a douche really fast. What do I say to him?
Is it okay for my dad to call me worthless?
This is not the first time. He just gets really mad. He has done worse. My mom just lets him express his emotion for he will not have a heart attack. I just wanna run away.
My dad calls me fat???
My sister is 16,skinny and one of those people that eat a lot and don't put on weight but I am 15, 5foot, 100pounds and when I eat i gain weight. I am a very muscly person(muscly legs,arms) and my sister and dad can't see that, they just think I'm fat. I have a little bit of fat around my stomach but that's it. I am trying to lose it but they just make fun of me. They would say 'stop eating you're gonna eat all the food in the house fat pig' and I don't even eat that much. My sister eats more than me, she just doesn't put it on. Also people would come up to us and always compliment my sister e.g. 'Your hair is beautiful, your makeup is so pretty, you're so skinny' yet I'm just standing there like oh and they don't say anything about me. And my dad would say 'isn't your sister pretty?' 'Why can't you be like her?' 'Stop eating so much food' 'she could get any boy she wanted' and I said 'not me then?' and he said 'well..' And I can't get it out of my head that I'm just fat, ugly and worthless. And he doesn't seem to appreciate that I am grade 8 on violin, get good grades and my sister always gets into trouble, bad grades and isn't musical at all.. What should I do? I've even thought about taking an overdose to end it all. My mum died 8 years ago and talking to him won't help thanks:)
Why does my dad call me worthless and useless? He is biased towards my other siblings, is there a mental problem associated with this?
Your dad is an emotionally abusive asshole. It may be a mental disorder, such as NPD, but it doesn’t matter if it is or not because only a mental health professional should be making a diagnosis. Either way, abuse is abuse. It doesn’t matter if the abuser is mentally ill or not, they’re still abusing.He’s most likely projecting, meaning he feels worthless and useless deep down but he’s attributing those negative qualities to you so he doesn’t have to acknowledge them in himself. It’s a subconscious defense mechanism. Something about you, on some level, likely reminds him of either his child self, or it reminds him that he feels worthless and useless. Abusers typically were abused as children themselves, which isn't an excuse but it might help you understand his behavior and take it less personally.As for the bias toward your other siblings: it can be something as simple as you being more kind and caring than your siblings, or that you are less willing to conform to what your dad wants than your siblings are (which is awesome — keep being yourself, and don't change for anyone). You just happen to be his scapegoat. It’s not that you are “bad” or “worse” than your siblings in any way. If you weren’t there, he’d be abusing one of your other siblings because the problem is within him, not you.I don't know how old you are, but I know if I would've known this stuff when I was growing up it would've been helpful. You’re not worthless or useless, and you are good enough as you are no matter what your dad says.
My mom called me fat and ugly and thinks im worthless?
I Just argued with my mom and she started saying i am disrespectful because I asked her to quit smoking for my birthday. i found a ton of New cigarettes in her purse and confronted her. she says i have no right to ask her what to do. ( i asked her as a birthday present.ive wanted her to quit since i was a kid ) Her health is getting bad and im such of smelling of smoke and its gross. she said shes not doing anything for me anymore because of how much of a terrible person i am im just trying to think of her happiness and health. ( note my school is a 30+ minute walk and a bus doesent come to me because i live JUST to close to the school to get a bus and ive tried to take other buses but i get in trouble so my mom has to drive me ) she said " walk your fat ugly *** to school everyday, im not driving you. " So then i started getting so furiated. I took her iced coffee and spilled it all onto the kitchen floor then she grabbed me and screamed to pick it up i screamed NO and then she started saying yeah you are fat and ugly and worthless, i hate you. then my dad calls me and tells me to go apologize and that im at fault for antagonizing her. i dont even know what to do. over the summer im supposed to move in with my dad who lives an hour away, but ive been waiting a year to move and its getting worse. Im crying so bad and i just feel so worthless. P.S - i have recently lost alot of weight i used to be overweight now im at 120 lbs at 5"3. im stil lvery insecure and she just makes it worse. i know it was immature to spill and throw things but i didn't know what to do.
My dad called me useless!?
My brother and I need to share the internet, tonight, he didn't tell me when he was going on and I have Art homework. I told my dad I need the internet and he started saying stuff like: "Watching hours are dumn anime, useless kids if I have ever seen them!" Now, I'm crying. I'm not useless!! He said "Oh, you should've done it on your time limit." WE NEVER HAD SET ONE UP FOR TONIGHT! Then, he never apolgizes for that kind of stuff! Can I talk to my mom..?
What should I do if my mom calls me useless?
Sometimes MOM’s, get irritated. If she is expecting your help, and you aren’t doing what she has asked of you, then she might have reached her max!Have you kept a diary, of when, or why she lashes out at you? It certainly won’t hurt to write things down. Then, perhaps you will see exactly, what you did or what she did, that set both of you off.I’m confident, this will help both of you. By having this in writing, you’ll both, be able to SEE THE WRITING ON THE WALL, so to speak. Reading your diary, I trust, will give you the perspective, of why the relationship, is not what it should be. I do hope this works. Then I hope you learn it’s, not easy, being a MOM. It’s these lessons, that might make you, a better parent.I’d like to tell you a story, of what I learned, in growing up….. my father worked, but when he came home for dinner, we had to be within whistling distance, to come home for dinner. My brother, who was a year and a day older, than me, was always looking for crawfish, down on Alla Road. If he didn’t show up, my father took off his belt, and went looking for him. Every night, my father would whip him all the way home. This affected me so much, I made up my mind I would…NEVER HIT MY CHILDREN…!!So just stepping back, always keeping track, of what is going in your home. You can do this on paper, or in your mind. What ever is best for you, But it must be done, and by keeping track, you are in control, of your emotions. I can’t promise, but I think this will make you a better MOM or DAD. I sincerely hope you can work together, with your mom, to insure a better home environment. Less stress is MO BETTER!!By talking…WITH… NOT AT your Mom, will help BOTH of you, immensely!! Don’t be afraid to ask why she calls you names. Then maybe you can work it out, at that moment. If you wait, until it has time, to fester, it will explode, and then the fight is on. Talking is much better than arguing. Try it out. It just might work.So write, think, and learn. It will make you a better person, and perhaps a GREAT MOM!!!Good luck, I’ll send along my big hug, to get you through this. Let me know any time you want to talk.TrulyChris
My dad says i'm worthless and ugly, what do u think? = (?
Your daddy to say that to you was an ***. So was your boyfriend. Work on your self esteem and your weight for yourself. Not them.