My dad gets angry really easily?
My dad is a good person, he nice and funny around everyone. All the kids in my class know him, and they all tell me he's funny and cool. My dad isn't a bad person. But when we're at home he can completely explode over the smallest things. Like a month ago he got mad at me because I didn't want to go to the store. I never know what will set my dad off though. He'll be fine one minute and then the next he'll be calling my sisters and I 'ungrateful little f****' or 'dumba****' and it's awful. Whenever I talk to him it always turns into a lecture on something, and if I interrupt him or contradict him during his lecture he just gets mad. If I'm in a bad mood he thinks it's directed at him, whenever I don something he thinks it has something to do with him. I stay in my room a lot so I can avoid his yelling and he thinks it's 'cause I wish he would go away. He's been like this my whole life and I'm scared of him. When he yells at me I just get really quiet, and then he yells at me for not saying anything. But if I say something he just gets madder. my dad has never hit me though, so that's a plus I guess. My parents are getting divorced soon (no that's not why he's like this) and it's only made him worse. How can I deal with him until the divorce happens? How can I deal with him after it? I don't know what else to do. None of my friends would understand because they don't know what he's like.
Why does my Dad get angry so easily?
It's been happening more and more the last 3 months, I just finished post-secondary and I am working part time till I find a job in the area I am looking for. I help around the house when I can and have no trouble doing anything he asks me to do when he needs. But he keeps getting overly angry at me for simple little things that most people would brush off or ignore. Today he came home from work and was pissed at me because I left a bathroom light on and the TV was on in the living room. Basically the only things he will get mad at me about are the things I am not doing and instead of just asking me to do something he will just get pissed at me. When I try to talk to him about anything he wont have any of it and wont listen to anything I say, our arguments always escalate and eiher ends up him bringing up other things from the past or him giving me the cold shoulder when I make a point. At this time I usually just give up on the argument and just agree with him and ask what I can do and he will just ignore that and continue bringing up things. When he asks why I am just agreeing I tell him that it's because I don't feel like he's listening, he just gets mad at me for that "excuse". I have no idea what he wants from me, I feel like no matter what I do I am always doing the wrong thing or saying the wrong thing. I have tried to confront him but it never gets us anywhere. Recently he has been saying "i'm just the guy who works and pays the bills" and avoids talking to me when we "fight" about something. He is making himself the victim in every situation and he keeps falling back to his same things and we never get anywhere.
My dad gets angry so easily. Help?
Hi. I'm an 18 year old male living with my parents. I'm the only child, so it's just me, my mom, and my dad living in the same house. Long story short, my dad has anger problems. He gets ticked off over the the smallest things. Even if I joke around with him, he gets mad. According to my dads sister, my dad has been like this ever since childhood. He was always hot tempered ever since he was a child. I'll give you an example: Today I went to the mailbox to see if we received any mail. There were tons of mail for my mom and only one mail for my dad. The mail for my dad was sent from the Canadian Court of Justice. When I went back home, I told my dad that there was mail for him. He said.. "Who is the mail from?" and I told him, AS A JOKE.. "You are getting charged by the Canadian Court of Justice". This just set him off.. and he told me.. "YOU SHOULDN'T BE TALKING LIKE THAT. WHAT DO YOU MEAN I'M GETTING CHARGED BY THE CANADIAN COURT OF JUSTICE?" Like jeez... it was just a joke. I didn't even bother telling him "Dad it was just a joke", because if I did, he would get even more mad. I even went and spoke to my mom. I told her the whole situation, and I asked her if I did anything wrong by joking around with my dad by saying that he got charged by the court. She said that there was nothing wrong about it. I still feel like asking my dad whether he was really offended by what I said. Do you think I should talk to him about it, or should I just leave things as they are? Right now, he's not mad or anything. He's still talking to me and being normal. He was only mad for that one second when I told him the joke, but now he's fine. Yet, I still feel like going and talking to him about it. The only bad thing about going and talking to him about it is that he may get angry again. Do you think I should?
Im scared of my dad because he gets angry too easily?
So my mum and dad split up last year, I see him on Mondays and Saturdays. I've recently been told that the reason my parents split up was because my dad cheated on my mum with this other woman called Susan. Now my dad wants us to go out places with him and Susan and her kids as a sort of family, I don't have a problem with this. My dad is too controlling though with what I have a choice in. I started going back out with my ex and I didn't want my dad finding out just yet because I knew he would flip his lid, so I deleted him off facebook so there would be less chance in him finding out for the moment. Dad found out I deleted him and figured out why, idk how but he did. And he started to shout and scream at me saying things like "Do you know how ****ing undermining that is? You are a devious little brat." This upset me a lot. And I asked if I could go out with my friends this Saturday because I didn't want to feel left out like how I usually do. He flipped over that too, he never used to mind if I wanted to see my friends he would always say its fine as long as it makes me happy. Now he's been screaming at me for it and saying things like "If you don't want me in your life them just say and I'll go." All I wanted was one day out with my friends. He also does things which manipulate me into doing things I don't want to do. And when I finally give in to what he wants me to do he'll try and make me not want to do it, so when I say "No I don't want to." He'll go mad again! My mum always said he bullies people into things that they don't want to do, he used to do it to mum. I just want some advice on what to say to him to stop him being so controlling. He actually scares me sometimes because I never know how he'll react, the guy is like a time bomb.
My dad gets really angry at everyone all the time. What can i do to calm him down?
Fist of all, sorry to hear your situation. I hope I can help. I was in a similar situation were my dad and mom fought all the time and of course my dad would then take his anger with us, my self and 2 other siblings. I would recommend you talk to your dad in the nicest way possible. Tell him that you get sad when you see them fight or when he gets angry. Always be very respectful about it. That I tell you from my previous experiences I would get angry at the fact my dad would yell at us for no reason and at a certain point I lost the respect for him and started talking back and being rude. So that would only piss him off more and yell even more! So my suggestion would be talking about it with him tell him that you notice everything and would like to live in a better anger free environment. Also ask him if there's any thing you can do to help the situation. Make sure you tell him you want your family to have a close relationship and try to remind him of happy moments your family has gone trough. Hope this helps and best wishes!
My dad gets angered extremely easily, what should I do?
Can he be reasoned with? Have you tried asking him directly why it seems to you that he angers so easily?He may be under great stress for some reason, and so is “on a short fuse” when it comes to his anger. We often may respond with anger or a lack of patience with others when facing pressures that have nothing to do with the object of our immediate anger or impatience.If he’s approachable, maybe you can help him become aware of how his behavior is affecting those around him. If you can get him to talk about it, it may provide him a way to release his feelings without resorting to anger. It may also help him to realize that he’s hurting those that love him, helping to motivate him to work on managing his anger.If he’s a relatively reasonable person, he may also be open to talking to his doctor about his anger. You could suggest that.Is he elderly? There could be a medical cause behind his anger. For example, one of the symptoms of Alzheimer’s Disease is unreasonable anger and aggression.Furthermore, when the elderly begin to recognize they don’t remember things as well as they used to, or they suffer infirmities that prevent them from engaging in the physical activities they used to do, they may react with frustration and anger.In those cases, medical intervention may help. But even with that, it still requires a lot of patience from loved ones. So, you may need to work on coping mechanisms to learn to react to his anger with reduced feelings of pain. In other words, you may need to try to not take it personally. For example, you could talk to a therapist or psychiatrist, or seek out a support group that addresses your situation. You may even be able to find a forum online with other people in your situation that can provide support and suggestions to help you cope.If he’s not approachable, there’s little you can do except to try and avoid doing things to anger him. Try to avoid being around him as much as possible.And if you have a safe way to escape the situation, perhaps by moving in with relatives or friends, that may be the best and safest route.I know you’re dealing with a difficult situation. I wish you all the best!
Why do Dad's get angry so easily (short tempered)?
My Dad is a very great guy, but is very short tempered. So short, he scolded me for leaving the milk out (I wasn't finished with it). He will also get mad at my mom for the smallest of reasons. And then five minutes later he acts like his episode never happened. I don't know what's wrong with him. I think he might be bipolar, but I'm no psychiatrist, but he's like the weather. It will be warm, then suddenly very cold, then warm again like the storm never happened. Also when I get in trouble, he'll scold me for whatever I did, then goes off topic and talks about something I did that angered him like a month ago.
My dad can get angry really easily and he has a terrifying temper. I’m naturally anxious and tend to react to his anger fearfully. This only makes him more mad. I don’t want it to continue.What do I do?
I was in that situation with my father. It started when I was a very young child, and in the 1940s and 1950s (I was born in 1944) no one had heard of punishment for “child abuse.”What happened is I learned “coping skills” that enabled me to survive at the time, but I chose a spouse as bad or worse than Dad. By the time I escaped from my ex-husband, I was so psychologically crippled it took 2 years of attending Co-Dependents Anonymous to begin to heal. Those coping skills were not appropriate for a normal relationships, so I remained single a long, long time. I am still in the process of healing 20+ years later.Get out if you can. You are in a very dangerous environment. Even if he doesn’t hit you, he is harming you. His temper may escalate to the stage of inflicting physical violence.Bruises heal, but how do you heal a tender soul?
Why is my dad always mad and easily set off?
My dad is cool around friends, family and even mom, but is always mean and full of spite when we're alone. He always gets me in a bad mood, and I it's getting harder to take it when he snaps back at me. He always curses, and will pick at the smallest things.I try telling me mom about the constant harassment he gives me, but he denies it; she isn't even there most of the time to witness it. I sometimes make a "B" on a homework assignment and he goes crazy, though he has no good explanation on why he doesn't mention my good grades and why I have a 95 in the class. I do everything to the best of my ability, and it doesn't seem to be enough. I love him, but not enough to suck up the constant, almost "PMS" behavior. I've also read many posts like these, and most of the responses are like: SUCK IT UP, YOU SPOILED BRAT!~ That's what unintelligent people say. when they go onto a serious post like this, and have nothing better to do, and don't have an intelligent answer. PLEASE respond from personal expierence, or whatever it may be, but please be serious and consider the hard time I'm having at the moment. Thanks you, Nomadic
When my dad gets mad he says really mean things to me. Is this normal?
It’s not because we are older and a parent that we become mature and considerate. There are plenty of adult bodies with emotional intelligence that froze in childhood.Your father is pushing you away from him. He is alienating you with his behavior. You are being forced to withdraw from the affection you may have had for him.Is this his intention? To what extent are you responsible for this anger? I screwed up plenty as a teenager and my parents would get angry at me, but not to the extreme that you mention. I resented their anger even though I had to admit that i had failed.The advantage of a creative mind is that it’s easy to think outside the box. Instead of being hurt by his comments you could go on the offensive. Two ways stand out. When you see the conflict brewing, you pull out pencil and paper. You mark the time and date at the top. When he says something mean you say, Stop. And you write it down. You get him to repeat it so you are sure to get it right. Second approach is with a smartphone. The verbal abuse starts and you turn on your video recording to capture your dad in full blown anger. Store the clip on your computer and keep them all.Another approach: you ask, “Dad, do you love me?” And every time he says another mean thing you ask him again and again, DO YOU LOVE ME?If he gets even worse, then you know that his problem is Serious. Definitely seek other family members or the school counselor as a way to deescalate the situation. Is your mother subjected to the same treatment when they disagree?Are you old enough to consider leaving home and getting your own place to stay? Grandparents or family members might let you stay with them for a time?Time heals (but not always in the way we might like. You and your dad may remain alienated and without contact until he dies. He lost a son and you lost a father.)