My parents are constantly fighting and Im scared my dad will hurt my mom again?
Coming from child hood where my parents were always fighting I can relate to you. I have been studying psychology now for several years and am finishing it up. I know that adults have many layers and that the layers will peel back depending on what is going on in their lives. I would sit with your patents if this is possible and I would talk with them. I would tell them how this makes you feel and how you love BOTH of your parents and how much you hate to see them unhappy. Ask them if it is something you have done. Sometimes this will spark the ears of a father like nothing else will. I promise you that your father does love you. I am willing to bet that he has many problems that stem from his childhood that have never been resolved. I would tell them that how much your family means to you and how much they both mean to you. Explain that all you want is a family that is happy and that is willing to work together to work through what ever problems you might have. There is nothing so serious that it can't be worked out. As for your mom each and every day I would compliment her. Tell her how blessed you are to have such a wonderful mother. Tell her how much you love her and love to see her smile. Don't get in the habit of talking bad about your father, no matter how true it is. Any negative talking will only breed negative feelings. Those are the feelings you want to avoid at all costs. I wish I could help more. I hope that the advice I have given you will help. I will also add that you pray for guidance. Keep your head up and remember to smile. I will help when and where I can. Drop me a line if there is anything more I can do.------------------------- The Help Doctor
My mum and older brother are always fighting! Help?
My brother is 18 years old, he's the favourite child (I'm 15 years old) so he's very spoilt. (and for those of you who say there's no such thing as a favourite child, my mum even said to my face that she preferred my brother to me.) Him and my mum are constantly fighting. My brother always goes out with his friends without telling mum where he is, and he just walks out the door, so mum doesn't even know he's gone. He treats her like crap and calls her names like B*tch. He takes money from her but doesn't deserve it. He spends at least $50-$100 of her money a week on junkfood and playstation games. He doesnt have a job, and failed his VCE (although he passed year 12). He never tells mum anything, and when mum asks him about his day, he'll just grunt and go into his room and play guitar. He has no respect for her. Every conversation he has with her is arguing and fighting. He says he's proud that he treats his mum like sh*t. I tell mum to stop giving him money. But she doesn't listen to me. I'm getting sick of all these arguments, and as a result, my mum ends up crying. And because she's crying it puts me in a bad mood she senses my bad mood and says that I'll turn out just like him and treat her like sh*t too. She creates these biased opinions on me and my actions... I just need someone to talk to. Dad doesn't do any parenting. He spends his days at work and outside doing housework. What do you suggest I do about my brother and mum? I'm really getting sick of it all and I don't know how longer my mother can take it. I'm almost about to suggest kicking him out of the house. He acts like a smart-**** with no shame at all. Just please... I need someone to talk to, some advice. The arguments are becoming longer and louder. Mum burnt dinner tonight, leaving me with an empty stomach for the night, because she was too busy arguing. Please. I just need some advice.
I cant stop beating my wife and it's driving us apart?
Me and my wife have a good relationship but the one thing that is wrong is i keep beating her. People tell me i shouldnt because it gets her down and depressed but thats how i was brought up. My dad always beat my mum but she didnt really care and found it quite amusing in the end. It was sort of the in-joke around the family. When would my dad beat my mum next? I was raised with the male being dominant and thats how i now think. Its not because i dont love my wife, i do more than anything, its just i get a buzz out of beating her. I know that sounds bad but like i say thats how i was raised. She has been complaining to my friends and also to her family who think i should stop as its getting her down, i dont think im really doing anything wrong? I would like your opinions please as to whether i should stop? Its normally when we play board games. Should i let her win once in a while or carry on beating her? Its not my fault if im better than her.
What should I do when my dad is beating me and he and my mom are constantly calling me fat even when I'm not? What should I do?
If what you’re saying is true, then go to the police. Do NOT take matters into your own hands, do not try to use violence, and do not try to inflict the pain on them that you are feeling. If you don’t feel comfortable going to the police, go to your school guidance counselor, if you don’t feel comfortable doing that, walk into the closest fire station, wherever you decide to take this, make sure you’re going to some type of public servant, and tell them exactly what you typed. If anything else, go to the hospital and show them the bruises, if any. A nurse can also point you in the right direction. Do. This. NOW.
My dad beat me! Please help!!?
Im a 14 year old girl, and both me and my mother are sick, and on edge so we started fighting. Then my dad came in here and said he was sick of this sh*t and for us to shut the h*ll up. My mom screamed at him and told him not to talk to us like that so he left. Then we resumed fighting and my mom said something really mean so I stormed out. My dad cornered me and told me to get in my room and I told him not to f*cking tell me what to do. Then he pushed me hard into my room and on to my bed and said "I don't every want to f*cking hear you say that word again" and started smacking me around. I feel terrible so I couldn't fight back, he's strong so I probably wouldn't have been able to overpower him anyway. I was so pissed and traumatized that when he stop I told him to go f*ck himself. He started beating me harder. I have terrible panic attacks, and emotional anxiety, I do NOT deal with stress well. So I started shaking and crying but he wouldn't stop. I finally apologized and begged for him to stop and finally he did, and said "you haven't begun to see me angry yet, you stupid *****." And he told me if I didn't stop crying that he would come back. I snuck away and got a bat and a knife to protect myself, but I can't stop wailing and shaking, I feel like I can't breathe. I don't know what to do, nothing like this has ever happed to me before, PLEASE HELP. I'm sorry if this is bad grammar, or hard to read, I'm just really upset.
My dad beats my mom?
I always knew my dad was violent, but I never saw scars on my mom from it. I also hadn't seen her get beaten in a few years... On Sunday, while I was out with my friend, my parents had a fight. When I came back home and sat with my mom, I noticed a gash on her lip. When I asked about it, she said something about biting on it...but it was too big for a bite. She also had several blood spots on her shirt. Later I noticed my dad had a blood spot on his shirt too. I didn't think too much of it, but it was alarming... (this was two days ago) Today, I was with my mom and as she opened a can of fruit for me, I noticed 2 large gashes on each side of her wrist. I asked her what happened and: Mom: I just got them. Me: Did Dad give them to you? Mom: It's okay, I'm okay. Then she started to cry... What do I do? Any advice is appreciated. I have had a long, difficult past and I don't want to have emotional scarrage from this (or at least as little as possible)
I cant stop beating my wife and its driving us apart?
You contradicted yourself. "Me and my wife have a good relationship but the one thing that is wrong is I keep beating her" "...her family who think I should stop, as it's getting her down, I don't think I'm doing anything wrong"
Help I beat up my dad !?
So yesterday I was just watching tv in my living room, when I heard my parents arguing, let me just say that I am 15 years old and I grew up with my parents always arguing and physically fighting, my mom was just saying a load of crap to my dad that really infuriated him so he punched her and I heard her crying, so that's when I ran to their room and I tackled him and just started punching away, my sister screamed for me to stop, so I did, he started yelling **** at me like I'm a ****** and stuff like that, so I just snapped and rushed at him and got him on the floor and I started kicking him until my mom started sobbing and made me stop, what really frustrates me is that every time he tries to physically hurt and I stop him ( this is the first time I beat him up) she always gets mad at me and she curses at me and says other stuff no son wants to ever hear. She never wants to calm down when I try to separate them, she always gets mad at me, but yesterday just seemed like a breaking point for me, I haven't spoken to my parents at all today nor looked at them, what should I do in the future? Was is it wrong for me doing this?
I snapped and beat up my mum?
For my whole childhood, (5-13) i faced severe verbal and physical child abuse from my mother. She used to hit me on a regular basis for doing minor things such as not finishing my dinner because i was full. They weren't little smacks either, it was constant, aggressive hits all over my body with items such as shoes and spoons, leaving scars and bruises. She said i'd thank her for it one day, but now i hate her, more than anything. If she were to die, well that would be the greatest day of my life. I couldn't have friends over because she'd yell at me and hit me in front of them, and yeah, i am a complete mess now, i have a very acute range of human emotions because of it, i i simple do not care about myself or the people around me, and i am very secretive about myself. Now one night I snapped at her, and beat her with a pillow, and threw a few punches at her legs and arms, simply out of rage for how poorly my uprising was, and how screwed up ive turned now. So now she's called the police, and i talked to them about my child abuse, but they said they want to stop what's happening now, (me hitting her) in case i hit other women in the future, which is fine, that's fair enough, but she gets away free? Idk, i guess im just looking for some words of wisdom, or something to help me in the current situation, any help is appreciated :)