How do you respectfully but forecefully tell your parents that you are grown and make your own decisions?
Excellent questions. If they are anything like my grown up children all over 18/ they believe you never can tell your parents that you are grown that. We I believe as all parents are only too happy to have the children make their own decision/ I. believe all want their children to be independent succeed and prosper ( I don't want them to be with me for life HA HA HA .. We paid enough for their university educations. However, that doesn't exclude parents from making any comments. Everytime a parent makes a comment, I hear THAT SONG AGAIN.. I AM GROWN UP.. DONT TELL ME WHAT TO DO. I BELIEVE WE ARE CONNECTED TO OUR CHILDREN FOR LIFE AND HAVE A RIGHT TO GIVE ADVICE AND COMMENT.. CHILDREN DON'T LIKE THAT AND BELIEVE WE ARE STEPPING INTO ( THEIR SPACE) AND STATE THE HAVE A LIFE OF THEIR OWN ( AND BELIEVE MOTHERS ARE LIKE ( KATE THE SHREW FROM SHAKESPEARE). FATHERS GET OFF EASY .. IT SEEMS ITS THE MOTHERS THEY TARGET. MOTHERS LIKE I, CAN BE SENSITIVE IF A CHILD DOESNT COME TO SEE YOU.. SHE IS OVERLY SENSITIVE ( NO BIG DEAL SHE WILL GET OVER IT AS I DO.. TRUE.. MOTHERS ARE LIKE MOTHER HENS AND WANT THEIR BROOD AROUND.. ( EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE GROWN. AND RESPONSIBLE ) THE LOAD/ YES THAT IS YOUR DECISION.. IT COULD NEVER WELL BE THAT YOU CAN BE RIGHT.AND IF YOU GENUINELY BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE RIGHT... YOU ARE A GROWN UP AND FOLLOW YOUR HEART..AND FACTS ABOUT THE SITUATION. PERHAPS YOU CAN HELP YOUR FATHER BUDGET AND SUGGEST ALTERNATIVES ABOUT THE LOAN WE ALL STILL LOVE OUR CHILDREN FROM THE BOTTOM OF OUR HEARTS AND THEY WILL BE CHILDREN TO US FOREVER.. THUS WE MAY OVERREACT.. ( BY NOT SEEMING TREATING YOU LIKE GROWN UPS_..BUT WE KNOW YOU ARE AND ARE VERY PROUD OF YOU.
I haven't talked to my dad in 3 years. Advice?
Honey, try your best to put the past in the past & leave it there. That was then, this is now. The past will forever be gone, but your future still your own. Try your best to do this, but mainly, do GO to see your dad. Yes, he's hurt you, but none the less, you still do have feelings for him or all this wouldn't be bothering you. Do it soon just incase something were to happen to him. I believe that would do nothing but make you feel worst. The past is gone, do something NOW about the future. Don't let anything happen before you go see him. I feel you'll feel so much better after you've seen him. He's still your dad you grew up with. Think back to the good times you had..GO see him, make you BOTH feel so much better for it...best to you, honey...:)
Advice for dealing with my girlfriend's parents about a hickey?
Let me start by saying that her parents aren't allowing her to go out with me. We are both 17, turning 18 in April and in May. They were a little unsure about me at first but our friendship has grown. There was a point in time where it seemed like we would never be allowed to be alone, but that quickly passed. They did mind at first if I took her home and no one else was in the car but they're okay with that now. But, now there is a problem. I gave her a hickey on her neck on New Years Eve. She was at the store with her dad this morning & he did not notice until then. From what I hear from her best friend (who was and is still with her), her dad was pissed but he seems alright now. I am worried more about her mom. So what should I do? Are they more mad about us kissing? Or are they more mad about not knowing what we do when they are not around? Possibly both, but if we reassure them that we will not have sex, do you think things will get better & they will trust us when we're alone?
Parents are mad because I have a B+ (89.21%)?
ok I have All A's in 4 of my classes and i have an 83% in history and a 89.21% in Science. Recently my cousin told her dad that she had all A's which i didn't believe and her dad told my mom that his daughter had all A's, later my mom got extremely mad and asked to see my grades... that's when everything bad happened. Now my mom said I'm going to be stuck in my room studying and i can only hang out with my friends on Friday and I can't leave unless I need to get something, Eat, or brush my teeth, go to the bathroom & etc. The next day I was telling my friends about this and everyone thought the same thing as I did. They said my cousin was as dumb as a brick and there was no way she had all A's so I texted her on my phone and she said SHE DIDN'T HAVE ALL A'S I was so mad. Now my mom doesn't care if she has all A's and she wants to see all A's on my report card no matter what and we only have 1 week left till the quarter ends. What do you think about this? Please leave comments, questions and things that can help down below
What do I do when my dad gets mad and makes my mom cry?
You’ve received some good answers, but I’d like to make a point that I haven’t seen others make.This is what I lived with growing up, so, I know how this feels. The most important thing for you to know here is that none of this is your fault. You did not create any of the problems between your parents, and you can’t solve any of the problems between your parents.I’m sorry that you have to see this and live this. It’s not healthy for you, but there may not be much you can do about it. Definitely talk to another trusted adult if you have one. Definitely be compassionate with your mom.But never feel like this is your problem to solve. It’s not. The best thing you can do for yourself is be as independent as possible as soon as you can. That means working hard in school, getting good grades, and continuing on to secure some kind of profession, so you can support yourself and not be staying home taking care of your mom permanently.Definitely help her if you want to, but live your life. Your life does not have to be defined by this. My advice is to spend as little time at home as possible. I don’t mean wasting time or doing drugs. I mean if you’re old enough get a part-time job. If you have friends with nice parents, hang out with them as much as you can to see what a healthy family looks like and how it functions. Go to the library and read books. Keep yourself busy when you’re at home.So, to answer your question, when your dad does or says stuff that makes your mom cry, stay out of it. Go in another room. It’s not your business, and in a healthier household you wouldn’t see this on a regular basis. Your job is to be a kid, have friends, and go to school. Play sports if possible.And get out of the house as soon as reasonably possible.
My gf's parents found out we had sex and now they're extremely mad. what do i do?
Yesterday my girlfriend forgot to put away her dairy that was on her bed and once she left her house her parents and into it. they read everything. After they read her dairy, that same night her mom called her and tricked my gf to letting her use her email. Not noticing any suspicion my gf give hers the password and because my gf doesn't have texting she uses google voice to text me. well she changed the google's voice through my gf's email to access google voice. she got into that as well and read every text message she has sent and received. I feel that not only has her privacy been breached but mine as well. Ive told my gf all my personal problems that no one else knows and now her mom and dead have read them...Her parents are really mad especially her dad. They never have been too fond of me because i am a "boy" and "white" that really annoys me... Anyways we're done with high school and we're just trying to enjoy our summer but now since they found out she is pretty much grounded. on lock down. cant do anything with ME AND ONLY ME. privileges have been taken away. no phone, no internet, no hanging with BF for a long time... or ever idk... *anyways some helpful advice would be nice* feel free to ask any questions and i'll respond on here. and if your an Asian parent i especially would like your view on this. additional details: We've been together for a little over a year and we are very close. we are both 18. her parents are extremely strict and ASIAN! We are both good students: My GPA on 4.0 scale = 4.0 My gf's = 3.96 we take all AP courses. important note: WE USE CONDOMS and spermicidal lube. we are not your typical teenagers. we know the risks of having sex we're not stupid. Thats why we take extreme measures to make sure we're safe.
Coping with my parents divorce?!?
Lately, I feel like my life is going in a downward spiral. After a year and a half of my mother cheating on my dad they are finally getting a divorce. I'm absolutely furious with my parents because they put me through so much as a 13/14.. they're constant fighting, ruining my holidays, all the tears I shed... I would never wish the same experience upon anyone. But now that my parents are separated and my dad moved out, I've had a super mean attitude toward my mom and my sister. I can't help it, the words just flow out of my mouth before I actually think about what I'm saying and how hurtful it can be. I feel like my family is falling apart before my eyes... my 3 older sisters don't come home a lot from college but they try to check up on me as much as possible and my 16 year old sister and I hate each other. We fight constantly and I feel like I'm losing that closeness we once shared. Is this my way of dealing with the divorce? Lashing out on others because of my anger at my mom? Is it wrong? Sorry for the long question! Thanks for all who answer!