My family is taking all of my money?
Thats what i feel like at least. Im 18 yrs old i work full time and go to school full time i make 9.50 an hour.. i. Bought a used car . I pay a 272 car payment bill. 240 car insurance bill and i pay my familys phone bill of 80.00 not to mention that i spend at least a 100.00 on gas every week. I own a dog too that i financially support as well. I didnt qualify for financial aide because my dad had a good job. My parents are divorced and my mother no longer pays child support since ive turned 18.. I live with my father, stepmother and my little brother... ever since my father lost his job i have had the burden of supporting my family. At first i didnt mind. I saw it as my duty .. i felt that i would rather be broke then to see my family struggle. But then these past 2 months ive felt that my dads been taking advantage of me and my finances. I pay for everything .. the food . The laundry detergent. My brothers bday party.. beer for my dad u name it . I know nobody is forcing me too but i feel guilty if i dont do these things knowing that we dont have another source of income. I dont pay rent because i cant afford it. I can afford all of my bills but everything else left over goes to my dad and little brother. But now its becoming overwhelming because ive been working alot of overtime lately and i cant even afford to get myself a hair cut or get my car washed because every last penny goes to my family. My dad just asked me to sell all of my expensive jewlery to send my brother to summer camp which is 600 a month. But that was the last straw! Why doesn't he say sell ur jewelry to pay for ur school books or tuition? I have to register for fall soon and u have no idea how im gonna pay for it.. am i being selfish? I dont mind helping my family but im starting to think that my family is not thinking about my financial needs as well? I dont know how to handle this ? Advice anyone please?
My dad keeps taking my money?
Okay so I'm 16 years old, and I have about $450 saved up from working (babysitting, pet sitting, working for family, etc.) I opened my drawer a few weeks ago and found that $70 was missing. I asked my dad if he took it and he said yes, he needed it for gas. I got pretty mad, and told him to at least ask me when he needs money. He said it's not a big deal as long as he pays me back. I told him I would still feel more comfortable if he would ask me instead of just going in my drawer and taking it, and he said okay. This morning I opened my drawer again, and $20 was missing. I confronted him again and he said "I used the money to buy a CD." I was like "Gee, thanks for asking." He then got pissed off at me, saying I'm a minor so the money is his anyway. How is it HIS money when I'M the one who worked for it? Times are hard right now and I honestly don't mind lending him money. But is it REALLY that big of a deal that I want him to ask me before he takes my money? I worked hard for it and it bothers me when he takes it without asking.
What should I do (teenager) if my dad is taking money from the family and gambles it away. I’m talking about 100-200 every game few days and we are in debt hundreds of thousands because of him?
“What should I do (teenager) if my dad is taking money from the family and gambles it away. I’m talking about 100-200 every game few days and we are in debt hundreds of thousands because of him?”Wow, that’s an awful situation. My sympathies.All you can really do is distance yourself from the problem. Take it as a lesson on how not to live. When you are living on your own, don’t gamble, don’t go into debt, and don’t support people who do.Are there any relatives you can ask to intervene?Don’t countersign any loans or let any debts be put in your name. It is common for families with bad credit to put utility bills in a child’s name, then not pay the bills, ruining the child’s credit before he even has any. If your family tries to do this to you, complain to the company. The company won’t put up with it once they are informed. Look at the mail every day, especially bills. Be very suspicious of any bill addressed to you personally.Make plans for your future without any financial support from your family. You should expect to be on your own right out of high school. You may have to afford community college, 4 year college, or an apprenticeship completely on your own. Buckle down, learn everything you can in high school, especially the marketable things. Do well on the SAT/ACT. Concentrate on majors that pay well enough to service your debts (you may find college debt unavoidable, but be very conservative about it).Thomas B Walsh has many good posts on how to navigate from high school, to marketable skills, to self-sufficient adulthood. It is much harder than any of your older relatives will remember.
What do I do if my father has taken all of the money from the family and kept it to himself?
My family, my sons and I lived through something similar. My husband, their father worked in an office and was paid very well. I stayed at home and did the household work and raised our three children. However, my husband controlled all the money. He paid the bills, and gave me an allowance for food and clothes.As the children grew and the oldest left home, our home needed repair. He would not allow me any money to fix the house. He would buy himself things and go out with his friends whenever he wanted. Even when confronted about his selfishness and hoarding of the family money, he refused to share.His selfishness and greed amongst other similar issues eventually led to my divorcing him. My sons, especially my oldest, gave me encouragement, strength and inspiration. When the divorce was final, because of our laws in Michigan, I was entitled to half of all the money he hoarded away. If I hadn't done this, I would still be poor and angry to this day.If you are able, the first thing you should do is to present your worries to your father. I understand that he is selfish, so this may not do much good. If possible, try to reason with him. I assume there are others beside you that need the care that this money would bring. Be respectful but firm, and try to appeal to his humane side.Is there a relative to whom he would listen? Are his own parents alive? Does he have a brother, sister or close friend that could speak to him about taking care of his family? You cannot do this alone.If all this fails, find an attorney to whom you can confide. I know there is no money for an attorney, but there may be someone who helps people who cannot afford one. Do you have access to a computer, even at a library? Go online and find out all you can if you have any legal rights to get your dad to take care if his family.
I think my dad is stealing money from me, what do I do?
Here's the story. Since I am only 14, my dad opened up a savings account for me, he's the custodian and I'm the donee. Everything was going fine for about a year in a half, that's when my dad starting losing a lot of his income, and times got tough. Every month the bank would send me a Savings Summary, which would tell me all the details and withdrawals, deposits, etc. Back in October, I got the summary and noticed that my dad had withdrew 130$ to pay for our cable, but a week later, he deposited that money back in. I questioned him, and he said not to worry, and that he paid me back. I told him to inform me of when he withdraws money out of my account. He agreed. It has been about 4 months now, and I have not received a summary, which used to come out once a month. I questioned my dad about it after the 2nd month, and he mumbled I don't know. That's when I first got worried, and I put 2 and 2 together, and realized that my dad had probably used my account as a backup to pay the bills. I didn't know this for sure, but I haven't said anything, because I was secretly just hoping that he wasn't, and the whole thing would blow over. However, after the 4th month in a row of not receiving my summary, I can ignore it no longer. I had a good sum of money for a 14 year old(over 1500$) and summers coming up, and I hoped I would have my money to spend with my friends. I am now really worried that my dad has taken the money out, and even more worried that he won't be able to pay me back. That was my whole lifes savings, everything I had. Is there anything I can do, or do I have to confront him?
My dad is very irresponsible what do i do? He's destroying the family? Help?
This is your mothers responsibility,not yours. Verbal abuse is rarely enough for the police to get involved unless there were threats on your life. I would encourage your mom to get rid of him.. There's a reason why she's stayed with him this long. There are issues she might need help working on, self esteem or lack there of is a main reason people stay in awful relationships. Talk to her, be her shoulder, let her know that she is so much better off without this jerk. Help her to visualize life without him. Help her to see the things she would be able to do without the negativity, the peace and joy that you all deserve without him in your life. Help her to realize the tragedy and pain he brings to yours. A good mother would not let this into her home or affect their children such a way. I'm a wife and mother, and my husband knows if he ever did anything that would cause harm to our child he would be facing a raging mother bear, claws, fangs and all. Some people would rather be with someone then face life alone. Being alone scares them.. This might be the case. Talk to her, go to counseling with her. This is all you can do, anything else is beyond your control. Unfortunately, you can't kick him out, your mother only has the legal power to do that.
My dad takes all of my money?
I'm 18 & live with my parents. My mom is mentally ill, so she can't really offer any emotional support, help or advice with this. I've been supporting myself since I was 16 & had my first job. I know I'm an adult now, so I don't mind paying my dad SOME money each month to help out with some household expenses since our family doesn't have much money, but now its gotten to the point where he demands money from me, like doesn't even ask me for it, but forces me to give it to him. Ever since I've been working he's been taking it from me. He gets pissed off that he has to drive me to work, but its impossible for me to save money for a car when all my money goes towards him. If I don't pay him, he will not drive me to work. I buy my own clothes, groceries, pay my own phone bill, etc. He makes me pay him $60 a month to help with the rest of my family's phone bill, $150 a month for gas (when he only drives me to work about 4 times a week, 7 minutes away from my house) & demands an extra $90 for 'miscellaneous'. Now he wants even more money from me. Like I said before, he doesn't even ask for it, he outright demands it. I don't have anyone else to move in with, so I'm stuck here until I can get my own place, which won't be for a long time since I have barely any money to myself. I really want to go to school too, but he won't let me since I would have to work less so I'd be making less money to give to him. I guess what I'm asking is what I should do.. or how can I cope? Its hard to stand up to him, he has horrible anger problems & I will no longer be able to work if I don't pay him because he won't drive me. I just want to get a car & go to school ):
My dad wants to adopt a child to our family?
We are a family of 4, and my dad wants to adopt a child from a differ country. Mom is against, I'm against it and my little brother has no clue. I'm just looking for reasons this can be affecting to our family. My Reasons: Costing more money to the family I have to share a room with her My mom now has to take care of another child(which is already stressful, with just us