If my son is gay but I don't want him to bring his boyfriend to the family Christmas how do I tell him without seeming homophobic and controlling?
I am a mother of two adult sons. One son is gay and one son is straight. I can speak with some authority regarding this question. If one of my sons said, “Mom, I have met someone great. I would love for them to meet you and I am bringing them to Christmas dinner.” I would say, “Great, I can’t wait to meet them! I am making a prime rib roast for dinner. Do they eat red meat, or should I Google some vegan recipes? – Oh, and be sure you give them fair warning about your aunt so-‘n-so, you know how she can be when she hits the sauce after dinner!”Notice I did not differentiate between my sons? The gender of the person they care about makes no difference to me. What does matter is that they are happy and the person they are with treats them well.Let us pretend your son said, “Mom, I have met a great girl and I am crazy about her! I would love for you to meet her and I am brining her to Christmas dinner.” Something tells me you would welcome the woman with open arms, even if you did not know her well. And you certainly would not be on Quora asking how to tell your son not to bring her home for Christmas.Your reasoning for not wanting your son’s partner in your home is disingenuous. Your son is going to see straight through your homophobic and controlling attitude—because it is obvious. It would be great if your son could go to his partner’s side of the family for Christmas dinner. A place where they would both be treated as a welcomed guest. That would gently let you off the hook without you having to concoct some lame excuse as to why they are not welcomed at your home for Christmas.
Is it ok for me to date someone that I met online but haven't met in real life?
I met a girl many years ago through IRC (Internet Relay Chat, it was like…Yahoo Chat before yahoo chat existed. it’s still around!). She was in Colorado Springs, CO, I lived in Toronto at the time. We chatted for hours on end, we seemed to be into the same stuff (sci fi, reading, video games, etc). We eventually took our relationship to ICQ when that launched, and eventually to voice chatting and video chatting, including cybering (chat sex), phone sex and video call sex. It was all good. We fell in (what we thought was) love. She had some sort of government job, and couldn’t relocate, so I managed to land a 6month contract with a tech company in Colorado Springs to be with her. She was everything I expected and desired. We matched up in pretty much every way, physically, sexually, humour, intellect, etc. The sex was INCREDIBLE. When you are so in tune with someone that they anticipate your movements and the sex becomes a symbiotic intertwining of two people rather than just an awkward, clumsy mechanical exercise, that’s the good sex. Then the crazy started. She’d phone me to make sure i got to work ok. Fine, new city, easy to get lost. Then she’d phone at lunch to see what i was eating. Then she’d phone before i left work. If i took too long to get home, she’d phone to see where I was. I took a day off work one week, and followed her to her office. The “government job” I thought she had? Cashier at a government building cafeteria. The sweet loft she “owned”? long term house-sitting gig. Basically all the elements of her life except me were lies. And she was rapidly becoming crazier by the day. Eventually, the crazy outweighed the awesome sex, and I bailed and went back to canada.So, pro-tip: Find out the crazy, if at all possible, BEFORE you do something huge like move to another country to be with them.ps: Never stick your dick in crazy. Or let crazy stick its dick in you.
Is it proper to attend my boyfriend's daughter's birthday party?
There is nothing improper about you going to her bday party. The only factor making it questionable if this would be an improper act or improper act is that her mom is going. Your bf and his daughter both want you to come. No one said you should not come. (Although her mom prob doesnt lol). To make it feel less awkward for her mother, just don't think of it as awkward. Sounds dumb but talk/interact with her like a normal person. This may be another oppurtunity for you two to become better connected. Or worse, that is a possibilty. But it would make it awkward if you didn't go. Because in her moms eyes, she would have logically assumed that you were invited but chose not to come because she was going to be there. Therefore that would actually worsen your relationship with her mother. You could drop in at the party and say hi and stuff and leave for an appointment or something. Hope it goes well for you. But if you look at the pros and cons, NO GOING has more cons while GOING has more pros.Just sayin...lol
Do single moms with daughters attract a lot of pedophiles ?
It seems that there isn't a good reason to date someone with kids unless you have kids. These men that start dating women who had teenage daughters in the home... Should women with a child or two wait until the kids are out of the home to start dating again ? I'm 22 years old right now and my daughter is 2, I'm afraid that if I don't find someone right now, that I won't be able to date again because I'll be getting older while my daughter starts to blossom into a woman. I don't want to attract any weirdos, I'm I just being a bit paranoid ? I read too many questions of single moms being worried of what goes on in their homes etc, and teenagers talking about their step dads touching them or looking at them.
My Boyfriend Is Having A Baby With Someone Else?
this is all on what you want in life.. my ex got his ex prego (a long time ago) and i ended it just bc it hurt too bad to watch him raise a child that i didnt give birth to.. maybe selfish but.... me personally id get out of that situation... his baby's momma might be a drama queen, and make your life hell. also how would it feel to watch someone you love raise his child that someone else had? granted you cant change the past, and he didnt know you at that time.. but still... this is a tough question i guess for now take it as it comes... but for me id be too hurt to even consider staying with the guy