My father kicked me out when I was 18, now he wants to live with me instead of going into a retirement home. What should I do?
Whatever you want.That’s what he did.Now, if he kicked you out with warning, and with the intention of helping you take control of your life, if it was not going well, and you were being really immature, and getting kicked out did the trick, then you might consider that he did help you.On the other hand, if he was just tired of being a parent, he knew you were not ready, and you spent years recovering from suddenly becoming homeless, then you might consider whether or not he is just a narcissist.Do you have a good relationship with your father now? Is this something you would like to do for him?If so, get a contract written up, and make it clear that your agreement to let him move in with you does not imply that you are taking him in permanently, and that you make no promises of the level of support you will offer. That like him, you retain the right to kick him out.Do you not have a good relationship with your father now? Well, then having him live with you is unlikely to improve things.Finally, consider your life in ten years. Then think about how you will feel if you deny your father, and his life goes down the toilet, but you get to live freely. Then think about how you will feel if you accept your father, and he pulls your life down the toilet.No, those aren’t the only two options, but make sure you know how you would feel about those options before you make this decision.I would happily have taken in my husband’s father, as would my husband. But neither of us would ever have taken in his mother.Some parents are burdens, but some are downright toxic. Taking in a relative who is a burden can be the right thing to do, under certain circumstances.But the only circumstances described in this question, is your father wanting to avoid living in a retirement home.My grandmother lived in one of those. She made lots of friends, and all her meals were cooked for her. She did not want to move there, but once she was there, she appreciated the benefits.If your father moves in with you, other than avoiding the retirement home, what will be his benefit? How will he have a social life? Who will do the cooking and cleaning?Now, if it was a choice between homelessness and moving in with you, that would be something entirely different. But he has a choice.And so do you.
My dad kicked me out?I'm 15, Help!?
I am a 15 year old girl and my parents got divorced a little over a year ago and he has quite a temper. At first I was mad and didn't see why my mom wanted a divorce, but now I can see more clearly. My dad has always acted like I was his little princess. He would buy me everything I wanted and gave me tons of attention(I'm an only child too. A few months after they got divorced my dad started dating a woman from his work. Three months later they bought a house and got engaged. This was too fast in my opinion. I really want my dad to be happy, but he is just no the same. Ever since they got engaged(in october) my dad won't talk to me or pay me any attention. When ever I talk he doesn't listen or he says he thinks Pam(his fiancee) has something to say. He also spent all the money set away for my first car for furniture for Pam. A couple times I have told my dad that I am really hurt and he's changed so drastically. He argues with me and says that isn't true. My dad is absolutely obsessed with his "image". He wants the house, the car, the wife, the job, and the daughter to all be perfect. He wants me to always have not a hair out of place. The only times he has talked to me in th last few months has been to criticize me as to why I don't have a boyfriend and why I haven't worked out or gone on a diet. This is also quite hurtful because hw knows I was bulimic and I'm very healthy(5'8 120pounds). And my dad has been making extremely inappropriate comments about him and pam in bed. We have gone to a few counseling sessions but nothing has worked. A few days ago I accidentally sent him a text that was meant to go to my mom that said"I honestly can't stand dad anymore". He flipped out saying he didn't deserve it. I apologized a few times, and wrote him a letter explaining the comment and how he's changed and How I feel about it, but instead he wrote back calling me quite a few names and he says he won't talk to me and I am not aloud over at his house. What do I do please help! I can't have a relationship like this with my dad. Thanks so much!
My step dad wants to kick me out of my house. What do I do?
My step dad wants to kick me out of the house for restless behavior. I got arrested for shoplifting and he had to bail me out of jail. He found my friends sweatshirt lying in my room with a bunch of joints in it. Well, I know I'm the stupid one here, but my question is what do I do about the rest of my family? What do I tell my mom, my half sister, my little bro who means the world to me? My dad was never really around for me so my step dad was like a real father. About a month ago I got in big trouble at school and he suddenly started to turn on me, like I'm a demon child or something. He didn't try to help me and nearly encouraged me to drink and do drugs as if it were the right thing to do. Now that he doesn't want to see my face again, I know by the time he comes home from work he's going to kick me out. I might as well leave before he gets here. So what do I tell the rest of my family? Do I just leave, or should I say something?
Why does my Dad want to kick me out of the house because my sister heard me swear in my bed room?
More Details: My sister told my dad that she heard me swear in my room and now he wants to kick me out of the house. He also upset that I had been unemployed for a month after my business development program (that educated and payed you) ended. Regardless Im not still un employed as I will be getting a job as a Custodian for a Car company if I successfully pass all the requirements for the contract. there a lot of position advancement and places to grow within the company as well its just where i start off. He still complains that I haven't been doing anything even though I found a full time job etc. My Dad try to say that he was responsible for my business program even though he was not involved at all and tried to start a fight with me over it. he is also upset with me that I spend time with my GF and that i stay in pajamas if i don't go anywhere. Hes upset that i go out to my GF’s house and come back around 12 or 1 am if I don't have work or anything to do the next day. Im also not a child either I'm 20 and gonna be 21 next week.
My parents are kicking me out I'm 16?
Report them to your local social service agency and get help. added: Douglas Your totally crazy, there can be NO excuse to kick your child out of the house, no matter what that child did. Whatever happened to parental responsibility? The parents must seek help in the system rather than kicking someone out of the house, especially someone under the age of 18. This is one of these issues that really gets my blood boiling. No Parental Responsibility! Your belief is another example of our Throw Away Society. People who believe like you do are sick and need more help than this kid does. What ever happend to peoples' cherished beliefs of Family Values?
What is it that I can do when my dad kicks me out of the house and he wouldn't want to take me back in?
first, introspection. what you have done makes your father do that? you smoke weed? invite people to host party without notification? or just you are over 18 and he think he has no obligation to support you?anyway, you had better look for a job and rid off reliance on others. finance independence means really independent.
My father wants to kick me out of the house because I failed at school. Is this fair?
You didn’t tell us where you live, but in most countries, you have to finish secondary school before you can go to nursing school. You need good grades to get into nursing school. So, even if you don’t like school now, you have to do well now to achieve your goal in the future.So, get back to work, convince your teachers that you want a second chance. Get coaching or tutoring. Study hard; your life depends upon it. Take those official exams and kill them!Can you find a mentor in the medical area? Can you do some volunteer work in a medical facility. Do some research on nursing schools, their curriculum, the costs, the job potential after completing the program, and all the facts so that you can logically discuss your aspirations with your parents. These kind of efforts can sway your parents if they are currently pushing you into a field, such as IT, for which you have little aptitude or interest. Your parents have your future interests at heart, but you have to live your own life, not their dreams.Persuade them rather than fighting them.
What do I do if my dad insulted and kicked me out of the room?
My children also have an unstable father, he was a drunk on antidepressants. He's gone now.You can't ever please people like your dad, no matter what you do he’ll twist it around and make you look like you’re in the wrong, right?Being just 18 I’d say your options are limited and I'm guessing if you could move out you wouldn't be asking the question of what you should do? Or do you have the option to move out but aren't sure whether to take it?I really do not have a solution for you as I don't know the full situation.Being around a father who takes pleasure in your pain will be taking it’s toll on you. It sounds like he actually enjoys making you suffer. It's probably like a game to him but no matter what your next move is, it will be wrong in his eyes.If this is the case then the man has psychological issues, maybe narcissism or some other personality disorder. Whatever his problem, you are the child and he is the adult and it's not your fault.Since you're in high school you should have access to a chaplain or counsellor or even a trusted teacher. Best to have a chat to someone who can refer you to a social worker or whatever the equivalent is where you reside. Are you worried it will get back to your father and cause more trouble for you? If so do you have a kids help line in your country? You can call for advice and remain anonymous.As for interactions with your father, to be safe maybe you should ask permission to speak. He sounds like he's on a power trip and perhaps he won’t be so awful if you act subservient, maybe try that just to stop his ridiculous outbursts and violence. He also sounds a bit crazy so that could backfire. I'm sorry but it's hard to know what you should do when I don't know how dangerous your father might be and what triggers his anger.I sincerely hope you get out of that situation in the very near future and never have to deal with his mind games again. All the best to you.