My dad hates my family?
alright i know thaat i've had some problems in my pass month but my dad he hates my whole family (not my outer like my grandpa or my cuz or my aunt jst my mom dad sister me and my bro) alrite my little bro hes 12 i know in the porn question i ask he was 10 but i accdently called him 10 cuz i forgot how old he was i know its stupid of me to forget my bro birthday now my father keeps yelling at me everyday since i keep playing my laptop when i come home i mean i do do my homework and stuff i dont do anything bad but he always yells at me and today he yelled at my little 12 year old brother because he wanted our mom cuz he wanted to buy battle feild bad company 2 limited editon and my dad yelled at him he jst wanted my mom to bring him to target or walmart and buy the game he didnt ask me cuz he fought i hated him cuz i yeled at him for goign through my stuff i mean he used my gta iv the lost and the damed but moving on what should i do call 911 cuz hes abusing me? or should i keep goign through hell for 4 more years i want to get the fck out of my home and bring my brother,mom to another dam place from my father i HATE HIM
My whole family HATES each other!!?
Sometimes families just don't get along, and it can create a toxic environment. I didn't grow up that way at all-- my brothers and sister and I were really close, and our mom was great, but our dad had anger problems like yours. Every family is different, but know that as time goes on, your sister will probably calm down with the rebellious teenage phase, and hopefully your dad will chill out as he gets older (like mine did) and your mom will learn to respect you more. Just never let them get you down. Tell them you love them every now and then, out of the blue. Sometimes that's all it takes for people to come together. Try to spend some quality time with each family member, have personal talks with them and ask them how their day is going, and share your honest feelings with them. Sometimes showing people love and kindness, even when they don't exactly deserve it, can change them gradually over time in very significant ways. Spreading positivity is a good way to slowly change your family and ensure that you all stay close despite the current problems that are raging. If your dad ever takes a gun out again, tell him it scares you. He needs to know that it hurts you to see that, and that your parents shouldn't be acting this way in front of their kids. If you feel threatened, or like he might hurt himself, remember that calling the police is always an option. It may make a few people in the family angry, but what if he's shaking his gun around one day while upset, and it accidentally goes off? Unfortunately your parents have put you in a position where you might have to choose to make everyone upset by getting the police involved, or risk a family member or neighbor getting hurt- or worse. That's no joke. Just remember that your family isn't doing this to hurt you. They're being irresponsible, but they obviously have their own problems to work out and are hurting within themselves. All you can do is be patient with them, show them you care, and don't get down on yourself. Always strive for success, but forgive yourself for your mistakes even if your mom refuses to do the same. All you can do is your best, and keep in mind that one day your parents are going to look at you and be so proud, and probably a little embarrassed, that while they were busy being argumentative and nasty, you were becoming a strong, confident, wonderful human being.
What do you do when your whole family hates you?
piss in their shampoo.
My mom hates my dad's family and i dont!?
I think your mother is being selfish, you have the right to know and interact with your relatives, after all your mom made the mistake not you, why should you have to pay for it. I think that your mom may be scare that you may think less od her by what your aunt may tell you about her. but I believe you mother loves you, and if you talk to her in a respectful way you may get her to listen to you. If you tell her whatever happen between you and dad, it should of stay between you and him, I believe is immature that his family act this way tours you, but I won't be like them, whatever happen between you an dad's family, i want it to stay between you and them, I will not be dragged in the middle of it. You will always be my mom, ans I will always love you ans respect you and no one can change that, but may that's family are my relatives and no one can change that ether. I should be able to be part and enjoy both families because I did nothing wrong.
MY entire family hates me. What can I do?
I am 17, but when Im 18 do I just move on forever? how can one person be hated by their family so much? I overheard my dad say life would be easier if I was gone. dead & gone. My sister says Im ruining her life, and my moms. My mother says "Fu** you" almost every single time I ask her to get me something. I am a cancer survivor, and became cancer free this year. (had a bad bout of ovarian cancer & symptoms, & treatment. I feel like I ve been very strong. I get that my illness has taken a toll on the family in financial ways, and emotional, but if they were going to hate me this much I wish they hadn t gotten me any treatment, and let me die. My mom says Im pathetic and can t get a date. I just can t take all the verbal abuse anymore. My sister hates me because everything is "about me" . Like Im sorry that our parents focused on because of sickness for the last 2 years. But why do I deserve hate? I honestly don t know what to do. any advice is appreciated. I just need to figure out a plan. Should I just go have sex with someone to feel loved in SOME way shape or form? I feel like absolutely horrible. What else can I do to just learn to live without my family? They truly hate me .
My dad is abusive and his whole family hates me for running away. It's been two years since I left, but I still feel so much pain when I think about it. How can I get over this?
Responsibility is a funny thing.You’ve learned to take full responsibility for yourself, protect yourself, make tough decisions, even walk away from your immediate family. At some point in your life you realized that no one else was going to look after you, and that it was up to you to take full responsibility for yourself.Nice choice :) you’re halfway there.Taking responsibility for yourself gives you power and freedom, but taking responsibility for others can do the opposite.It can be crippling.Right now, you are concerned about your family’s feelings. You feel attached to the idea that they should understand why you needed to protect yourself. That they should appreciate your reasons for leaving. That they should be thankful that you have managed to create a life where you are safe and happy.But they don’t. Or at least, none of them can express it openly, because the others would turn against them.Honestly, that’s totally OK … because only you get to choose who & what you take responsibility for.Let other people have whatever emotions they want. You get to have whatever emotions you want.They key thing to realize is that you are not responsible for them, or their emotions.This is a choice you make.In general the pattern below works best for most people…Things to be responsible for…Yourself, including your health, safety, and emotionsYour young childrenYour petsYour partner, e.g. when they are sickIn some cultures, children accept responsibility for their parents once they have retired. ( e.g. if you are Chinese, this is a bit harder for you because you have to confront your cultural programming on top of everything else )Things NOT to be responsible for…Other people, including your parents, cousins, aunties, uncles …ANYONE else’s emotions, including your child’s, pet’s, or partner’sGood luck! Learning what to take responsibility for, and what NOT to take responsibility for, is among the most enabling & freeing perspectives you can develop in life.Let us know how you go.
My dad hates me. What do I do?
Sadly, its true that some parents actually do not like or may even hate their own child, or one of their children, or all of them. There are several reasons why that can happen, none of which are the child’s fault.Sometimes an emotionally immature parent will blame the child for their own sexual irresponsibility; the parent shifts the blame to the child for “trapping” them in a marriage that he or she didn’t really want.Sometimes, if the mother dies in childbirth, the father may blame the baby for “killing” his wife. That’s another example of emotional immaturity.Sometimes, the parent has a serious but untreated mental disorder like Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and hates their child for not being “perfect” enough, or the parent has an untreated psychotic disorder and develops negative delusional beliefs about their child.I recommend reading the book “Toxic Parents”, to learn how to create a healthy emotional distance from a parent who doesn’t love you, so that you can in effect become your own “good parent” and give yourself the love and validation that your parent can’t give you. Therapy can help.I found this short article to be interesting and relevant:Parents Who Hate Their Children: The Truth No One Wants to Admit
My dad is a depressed soul and affects my whole family by being angry and a hateful person, as a 26 year old eldest son what should I do?
This is an extremely difficult question to answer as everyone has different backgrounds and family dynamics - not to mention how everyone with depression have different ways of processing and handling their emotions. I can only speak from my experience, I suffer from depression myself and was diagnosed at 15. I have days that I feel like I’ve been cheated out of life and I get angry and snappy at others. On other days, I’m numb and barely responsive. I do not have all the pressures that your dad has of course as I am only just turning 20 and so I have no idea about the added on stress of being a parent, having bills to pay, keeping a steady job and trying to lead a balanced life (which is really essential with depression). The advice I have to offer is alongside having a hell of a lot of patience and love for your dad - try speaking to him. This is easier said than done as men often have a harder time opening up and don’t like feeling exposed but having this out in the open among family and friends really strengthens the support system and you may find he softens a little. My girlfriend and I have had the same issue - I snapped at her and belittled her whenever I was having a bad day but of course, I never even realised what I was doing as I was so wrapped up in my depressed little thoughts that I forgot that I actually have an impact on others. It was a hard thing to hear but my girlfriend spoke to me about it, I wouldn’t call it confrontation as that definitely has negative connotations but we discussed things. We spoke through all the different jibes and moods I threw her way and even though it was difficult to hear, it was completely necessary. On bad days now I tell her and while I try my best to keep my calm, she can also help me through it. So to recap, just talking about the issue can help you both as your dad will know that he has you to help him through it and you will be much happier knowing that he is trying. I wish both of you the best of luck as this type of thing is never easy and it’s something that you have to work through everyday.