My 14 yr old step daughter keeps stealing from me?
She has been for a while, things such as my camera with sentimental pics of my kids, i asked her about it she denied, now my cell phone is mysteriously missing, my new eye shadow, sunglasses, jewelery etc.. Well today I was looking for my shoes, she has the same pair, I asked her have you seen them she said no, I asked my boyfriend has he seen them, he says his daughter couldn't find hers so she was looking for mine to wear. I was like really, so I go back and ask her are those my shoes on your feet, she says no, I said where did you put mine at, she said I don't know somewhere in this house. She didn't give me eye contact and had a high pitch so I knew she was lying. Her dad told her to get my shoes, magically she finds them, gave them back with an attitude and gave her dad one, the shoes she gave back were messed up and wet, wondering why they were wet, her dad told me its raining outside, so I'm like wow she had my shoes on the whole time and lied to my face, not mentioning stretching my shoes out to where they don't fit anymore. Also a big detail I left out, I find my adult toy in her closet underneath her clothes! That was very disturbing. Her dad finally had a talk with her and now she doesn't want to come around. These are just some bits n pieces of the story. I bought a lock with a key for my room hoping that will help. I don't have a close relationship with her and I prefer not to talk to her if I can help it because she talks to me like a friend/teen and I am 28yrs old. I feel if I confront her or tell her how I really feel that she will never want to come back around. By the way she is super lazy doesn't clean after herself and we found her journal and she is having sex on school campus and has slept with many boys. How do I come at her if at all or should I just ignore her or should I be firm with her? Sorry so long, just trying to give a better picture. Thank u for any good advice and negative advice is not needed.
How can I get my daughter to stop lying and stealing?
If 1 more person says "parenting skills" I will scream!! Between the fits, lying and stealing....it sounds like this girl as ALOT of pinned up anger inside. While I'm usually a fan up good butt whoopin, I think you might be dealing with a bit bigger problem here. This kid is angry for a reason and you will have to decide why. You didnt say how long the parents have been divorced.... but I'm guessing from your statement about the mother...that kid might have alot anger towards her. Having a parent...especially a mother that takes no part in a kids life is devestating for the child! As a step parent (or gf) its not your job to "parent" at this point....you need to try to be her friend. She needs a female figure in her life, but she doesnt need someone taking "mom's" place...or think is taking mom's place. Even if mom is really rotten or abused her....kids dont normally hate their parents at that age even after abuse...this is pure anger. If you have been trying to work with this kid for 18mos with no progress...it might be time to inlist some professional help. She could have been abused (sexually and/or physically) by moms bf as well
I will spank my daughter with a belt for stealing?
Hi! I have a son (14) and a daughter (12). My daughter has been having some behavioral issues at school problem so I told her I will not buy her the shoes she wanted. She started threatening that if I don't get the for her, she will simply steal them. At the at pointed I made it clear to her that if I EVER catch her stealing I will not hesitate to whip her with a belt, and I am being serious about it. I have spanked my son once with a switch (stick) when he was 9 for stealing. Yeah he couldn't sit down for a while because it hurt, which was what I wanted actually, and since then he NEVER EVEN THOUGHT OF STEALING AGAIN. Now he is an honer student. What would you do?
How can I stop my teen daughter from stealing?
The next time she gets caught, arrange for her to spend ten times the cost of the article, in labor at minimum wage, cleaning the store. If it is Walmart or some other chain, they probably won’t allow that. In that case, same punishment but at a homeless shelter or halfway house. In addition, she must buy the article out of whatever funds she has of her own (DO NOT CONTRIBUTE A CENT!), and then give it to an appropriate person in need. (If it’s a toy or mascara, it goes to a family shelter. Electronics, a senior home., etc.A few times like this, and she will either recognize the futility in her actions, or become a politician or priest.
My daughter is stealing my sons diapers. help!?
hi everyone, i am single mother of 2 children. and i have 3 year old son and 15 year old daughter. my daughter has been taking my sons diapers for pass 2 weeks. i notice this about 2 weeks that i have been buying them more and more. my question is: how can i catch her from doing this? when i catch her how can i tell her to stop? should i let her still to wear them? should i discipline her for stealing? should i buy them for her? P.S. more advise is welcome. thanks you
If your daughter steals should you spank them?
I had a friend who has a 12 year old daughter who stole a article of clothing from sears. I told her since her daughter stole money from a teacher at church the daughter should be spanked. I know the friend yelled at her daughter for stealing but I believe it does not work because she liked drama. I think shw should spank her daughter instead of yelling at her. What do you think?
How can I confront my step-daughter for stealing my marijuana without telling her mother?
I would have to say, tell your wife, because, stepchild notwithstanding, you and mom are a team that you can’t allow your children to divide and conquor.I gave each of my kids three tries, an then I turned them in. I fought for their teenage brains one involuntary UA at a time. They hated me.I don’t care; that stuff is harmful for developing teenage brains.My two cents; hope this helps, and hope things work out for you.
I can't keep my daughter from stealing the baby's pacifier?
when I wanted to wean my 3 year old off the pacifier, I told her she can have the cutest underware she wanted... so I bought her some, and spent some time just the two of us... She used to do the same thing, steal the pacifier from her younger sister... and I took that as a sign that she feels somewhat less important since the baby came, so I made sure I did big girl stuff with her, and after a while she didn't want it anymore.. Whatever you do, don't panic and don't make a big deal out of it, she will feed on that... :) It may take time though, so make sure you emphasize that she is a big girl now and she gets to do and have all this cool stuff and she doesn't need a pacy anymore... I went to Starbucks with mine and we had coffee together, of course hers was hot chocolate with whipped cream, but still she thought she was drinking coffee, and went to shop for her little sister and she helped me pick out stuff... don't worry she will eventually grow out of it, make sure to tell her over and over and praise her for cooperation... Sometimes we're so bogged down into our mundane things, we forget to have a little fun... They can drain you, the little munchkins sometimes, and I know it well... Good luck!
How can I punish my daughter for stealing my son's pain medication?
My 17 year old son is fighting osteosarcoma. For about the past two weeks he has been in excruciating pain. He is a tough kid, but the pain he has been experiencing lately has brought him to tears. It got so bad that we decided to take him to the hospital last night. When we went to the hospital a blood test showed that he didn't have any of his pain medication in his system. That was strange since he said he could have sworn he took his medication just 6 hours before the test was done (he keeps his medication by his bedside and takes it every 8 hours of he needs to). At that point my daughter finally confessed that she had switched out my son's pain medication for a similarly shaped and colored tablet that she found at a drug store. She sold the medication that she stole! I can't believe that she would do this and then watch her brother in so much pain without admitting what she did. Is there even a punishment severe enough for this? I already took every electronic that she has and I'm thinking about selling some of her things to show her what it is like to have something she "needs" taken away from her and sold.