What do get my daughter who is turning 18?
o.k. so our daughter is turning 18 in a few days - we have no idea what to get her. she lives at home, hasn't decided about going to college, just graduated h.s. (barely) and has a job and a car. She doesn't like jewelry, doesn't need anything for her car, has clothes for work, mmmm....see the dilemma. she has no hobbies other than hanging out with her friends and watching t.v. and sometimes reading- any suggestions would be appreciated!!!!
Daughter just turned 18 and now thinks she can do whatever she wants.?
Hi, First I have to say that I'm in agreement about restricting tattoos, piercings and any kind of permanent change to the body. But if the issue is weird hair color you should cave and let them do their hair any color they choose, that can always be undone with no difficulty, other than the chance of drying out your hair and ending up with a head full of frizz. You have to pick your battles and make sure you win. The aunt that she spent the summer with was just as much to blame as your daughter, since your daughter is still in High School and under your roof, she was obligated to check with you before allowing the tattoos. Have you told your daughter how disappointed you are in her behavior? Have you explained to her that as much as you object to her disfiguring her body before she's old enough to understand the long term effect this could possibly have on her life, your true objection is the underlying realization that she has broken the bond of trust between the two of you? Personally I'd suggest sitting down and discussing that with her, along with explaining to her that she is a role model for her sisters and even though it may not seem fair, she has to remember that what she does also effects them. As far as a punishment, for lack of a better phrase, make an appointment with a Dr, require her to pay for it, and find out what the cost would be to have the tatoos removed. Make her get a job and save that amount of money, I wouldn't suggest making her get them removed but she should save enough money to get it done if she should need to in order to obtain a position in the future that wouldn't be offered to her with the tattoos. And limit the places, days, times that she can go or stay out, until she has earned back the trust that she so willing flushed down the toilet by choosing to have something done that she was aware you would object to You really have to find a middle ground where she isn't totally off the hook, and you aren't the ogre that you want to avoid becoming. Rebellion is natural, but we all have to learn that our actions have consecquences. Good Luck
My daughter just turned 18-year-old. My wife is telling her to move out of the house. I don’t want my daughter to move out of my house untill she graduates from college. How should I tell my wife this?
You say “my wife,” not “her mother.” Is your wife your daughter's mother? If not, is there tension between these two?Is your daughter attending a local college -- and will live at home all year -- or is she going away to school? If she is living at school during the year, I can understand your wish that she keep your house as her home base for holidays and summers. Surely your wife can put up with her for several weeks scattered throughout the year.As for how to tell your wife what you plan, was this not discussed when you were talking about kids, before you married? If she is the stepmom, you still should have addressed this before you married, to make sure you were on the same page. At this point, you need to talk with your wife and tell her your wishes.I can see a problem if the home you inhabit is your wife's from before you married. If this is so, she may feel she has the right … and, technically, she does. In this case, perhaps you can arrange house room for your daughter with extended family -- grandparents or cousins, perhaps -- for the times she is on breaks.If your daughter is basically a good student and a nice kid, I confess I don't understand your wife's attitude. I can only conclude there are things going on that we don't know. I wish you good luck with this problem.
What should I tell my daughter who is turning 18 years old soon?
Share with her what a blessing raising her has been through the good and the difficult times, how proud you are of her and that your love for her is forever. Tell her no matter where she goes and what she does you will be praying for her and that she will live the life and purpose for which she was born.And if she ever needs you she knows where and how to reach you, that you believe in her and know she has the abilities and qualities and desires to make good choices for her future.My prayer is that she is a Christian and so are you, and if so let her know that God is always with her and listen to that still small voice for HIS direction .May God bless you both on this new adventure
My daughter is crying because she's terrified of turning 18. How can I calm her down?
I went through this three times. The first time was when I turned 12, and the second time was when I went to my high school orientation, and the third time was when I turned 18.But there’s something wonderful about growing up that I forgot in these times- Growing up only lets you do more, not less.No more groundings! Finally! My stuff is mine, and my parents can’t take it away from me because I didn’t agree with them on something. I don’t have to worry about my parents nagging me about a grade received from an irrational teacher because there are no more irrational teachers. At least for now, but even if I get a bad professor today, I won’t get grounded. Still nagged, but not grounded.People take your problems more seriously. In school, you have hours of homework every night and people say “you don’t know what real work is”. Once you’re in university or working a job, those people shut up. These things aren’t all that hard in comparison to high school, but if you struggle with them, people will understand and offer support more often than they offer criticism.Things don’t change that much. You’re out of high school, but if you go to university, you’ll still be in school. Your life can be almost identical to what it was before, just at a new school. The transition is not all that different from elementary to middle school, or middle school to high school. The work is a little harder, and the content is more in less time, but it’s still school. Except this time around, you pick what classes you take, and only have mandatory classes to sign up for once you’ve determined what degree you’re going for.It doesn’t have to happen that fast. If you have supportive parents, you won’t be forced to grow up immediately at 18. You don’t turn 18 and magically poof into an adult, and adults know that. Things will transition slowly. It depends on what you want to do with your life, but things don’t go to shit the moment a person becomes an adult. As long as you pay your credit card bill and show up to work and class on time, you’ll do okay.When you have a job, you can buy what you want when you want, well mostly. This includes the things that you thought were in your past because you’re an adult. Money can buy a lot of things that people enjoy. I’ve been spending mine on food, an adorable case for my 3ds, and colouring books. And I’m 20.
My daughter just turned 18. She started smoking as soon as she turned 18. What should I do to make her stop smoking?
No but if she lives with u u can tell her to smoke outside an if she gets cought smoking in the house then u'll need to have some ground rules for her to follow an if she doesn't follow the rules then u can have a grown up talk about it an tell her if she doesn't have a job that she needs to get one so she can save up money to get her one place an if she has a job let her know that she needs to start saving up money so that she can find a place of her own an then she can smoke in her on home. Hope this helps
My 17 year old daughter is turning 18.. what should I get her?
It totally depends on your daughter’s personality, an 18 year old young woman can vary , very much, they certainly don’t all like the same things. Something I have been doing with my teens, both male and female, is doing a trip for their birthday. I rent either a house on VBRO or AirBnB, or 2 hotel rooms, one for me and one next door for my child and their chosen friend or friends. I try to keep the room cost around $100-$120 per night. As long as you have a refrigerator and kitchen so you don’t have to eat out every meal it’s all good. It’s definatly possible to find both houses and rooms at that price as long as you aren’t booking like the week of.. just plan a month or 2 ahead. What ever you get, make sure your child has a separate private space, with a door. It will not be fun if you all share a room. There will be lots of a availablities and you will have time to save some money, so will your child so they have spending money. These birthday trips have all been within driving distance of our home, a few hours, and have been some of the most memorable experiences, for my kids and their friends they invited for their bday, of their entire lives so far. In August we got a 2 bedroom ranch at the beach for a few days. Us two adults and my daughter and two friends. We took the girls out in the boat , crabbing and fishing a few hours, I took them to nearby aquariums and museums , and we all went together and did an Escape Room experience. Soooo much fun. And the rest of the time the kids did what they wanted alone and we did our own thing. She didn’t get one present. We did have a cake though.she says this was the best birthday she has ever had. The most fun, best time :) We have done these kinds of trips the last 4 years for both kids. It’s been amazing for us as a family and makes the birthdays something they will never forget.They enjoy the independence of a separate room in the cases we got hotel rooms. It’s expensive to take a trip , even nearby, but not so much more than a new really nice phone would cost. And the phone will break in a year… this trip memory will be shared by all of you always.
How do I open a bank account if I just turned 18?
Most banks will help you open an account but many will require a minimum balance (OR possibly charge you for the privilege of having less). Have the money ready for deposit, bring several forms of ID, and, possibly, a piece of mail from your present mailing address. Ask to speak to an representative about opening an account. They will do almost everything for you.