My daughter wants to move out, advice?
First of all.....start being the parent. Do not continue to take your stress and sadness out on others. (especially your children) Next... tell your daughter you's prefer her to stay until she is older and has more practice in making wise, adult decisions. Then......tell her if she moves out you wish her well and would still love to keep in touch. Keep it positive. She needs to see that you are someone that she can come back to.
Single Dad and I stole my daughters best friend's thong...?
if you're serious, you are headed for trouble. no, don't give the thong back. get rid of it before your daughter finds out you took it. it is so creepy that you looked through her best friend's overnight case in the first place. do not ask her friend out on a date. again, very creepy...and what, her best friend isn't going to tell her? not only will you lose your daughter's respect, you will lose her trust and much more. what would you do if the situation were reversed, and her best friend's father was after your daughter? your daughter needs a mature, mentally healthy father as a good role model. you are her first protector in life. she doesn't need a friend or a predator for a parent. you're the one who needs some friends your own age. seek some therapy before your inappropriate thoughts and behaviors develop into something you begin to act upon.
My daughter's peers tease her about being adopted?
we adopted our 9 year girl abour 5 months ago.she loves being in our family,and we love her back likewise.the kids at her school will not leave her alone, they tease her about her parents being in jail(they were actually killed in a car wreck) and call her names like shelter s**t.I have gone to the school and raised hell at the office.but the teasing didn't stop.i'm thinking about transfering her to a different school,but i have 13 kids altogether,and her plus 5 of my other kids go to this school.so if i switched her,i would also have to transfer the other 5 children. they stand up for her at school,especially my 10 year old Jacob,and he's even gotten into a few fights trying to defend her.over all,it has caused a lot of problems.the other alternative is homeschooling,which i would be willing to give a shot,but i don't know the first thing about it.i need some advice.we know that we aren't going to let her go back to her school now (got out yesterday), but are there any other options?
Talked to my biological father for the first time and I don't know how to handle it?
This afternoon, I got a completely random Facebook message from some woman claiming to be my long lost aunt and that my dad and the rest of their family have been looking for me for years and begging me to call them asap. Of course, the first thing I do is call my mom asking her who the hell these people are. By the way, I'm 24 years old...I haven't laid eyes on my biological dad since I was 2 years old. My mom never really talked about him much, so I never really thought about him. I grew up with my step dad...we didn't have the best relationship, but he was the only dad I knew. So anyway, I call my mom and she's just as shocked as I am. Her and my bio dad got divorced when she was seven months pregnant with me and she moved away. When I was two she went back to have me meet everyone and then left again. She moved and had a phone number change, but she still thought she was easy to find. Apparently not because my biological dad has been looking for me ever since. Neither me nor my mom had any idea. After she didn't hear from him or any member of his family for so long she just assumed that he wanted nothing to do with us (she was really young). Today I finally end up on the phone with him and he was in tears as soon as he heard my voice. He was telling me about his recent health issues and that he didn't want to leave this earth with me knowing that he loves me and he's been looking for me for 20+ years. He kept telling me how sorry he was and how much he loves me and wants so desperately to be in my life. As expected, I have no idea what to say. I haven't really thought about this man for the last 22 years. I don't know how to feel, what to think, or what to say. It makes me sad knowing I had a real father out there who wanted to be a part of my life, instead of my piece of crap step dad that I was stuck with. I have no idea where to go with this. I do wanna create a relationship with him, but I don't know where to start. I was completely blindsided with this and I'm struck stupid.
Has any woman ever regretted leaving their husband while pregnant?
My advice would be to first try talking with him and perhaps counceling... sweetie, it's not just about the two of you anymore.. you have an angel on the way. And, though it is never okay to cheat, many men have during their wife's pregnancy... the woman is sometimes non-sexual and not available.. again, it is never okay, but does happen... I was in a relationship where I felt that one day I would leave.. I could see signs.. I tried to work on the marriage, but ended up leaving when my daughter was 2.. and I still look at her and know how good that foundation of family was for her.. those 2 years with us as a family were very important to her (and she was still too young to understand how miserable I was)... Just think about and realize how difficult visitation / custody will be.. that in court you two will probably cause wounds that will never heal.. that both of you will be living half a life with your child.. and how very very hard that is on both you and the child to come... Try to work it out, try counseling.... divorce should be a last resort.