My Dream Last Night That Upset Me.

Did you have any dreams last night?

People were pretty different.I wondered if I have landed into some different world.However, the other part of my brain left no efforts in convincing me that’s everything has been changed that for once all.Deep me kept saying- Whatever it is it actually fascinates me a lot.The tempting weather, the colour of the sky that sound of the flowing water.People at peace everthing was so different and extremely pleasent for me.When I came across this dining section_adding cherry to the cakeEvery dish looked so marvellous there.Everyone had their own silver plates.No one was bifurcated in terms of race or money.It was a world where everyone was equal.The harmony in the nature was so prevailing.Only when I took this dish and exclaimed- It tastes so yum!Hey! Pass me some more please I would have…and was the moment when my momma woke me up and I realized that was a my land of fantasies.God! Dreams are so beautiful at times I love them to the core.I wish I had a gadget that’ld allow me enter in to the world of my fantasies. A world with no scale, no comparisons, no wars, no riots, no jealousy- Only LOVE!Well, Hey! That was my last night’s dream struggling to have some more “Chocolate Cakes” until I realized that's only part of my dream.Let me know about yours too Also, thanks for putting up the question!

I said something that upset my boyfriend last night, I remember that he got upset, but I don’t remember what I said. I am scared, what is happening to me?

First things first- take a breath and try not to worry.(I'm assuming what scares you is the forgetting- if you fear your boyfriend, that needs to be addressed in ways I'm not covering here.)I get it, more than you might believe. I've been worries about early onset dementia for months now, because I'm forgetting whole days.According to my neurologist, though, it is a function of an overstimulated nervous system. For me, it is chronic pain that has gotten bad enough to overwhelm the wiring that allows me to form memories, but anything that exceeds the capacity of the system can do the same.If you were upset, in a top of your voice, out of control argument, the adrenaline and emotion can cause a similar situation. As can extreme worry, or grief. I've lost memories in these situations, as well, even when my pain wasn't as extreme.If possible, sit down in a calm, quiet spot and try to recreate the memory. Don't try to remember what you said, focus on the series of events preceding it. Work your way towards the end of the interaction, and don't worry about gaps. If it helps, write notes about what you remember- reviewing these notes after you get to the end of the event can draw out further information.If you feel comfortable doing so, sit down with your boyfriend and explain that you are drawing a blank. Explain what you do remember and ask him to help you fill in the blanks. My new husband is wonderful about it, and sometimes his description of the events can trigger some of my own.While these techniques don't always work, they go a very long way towards 1) remembering, and 2) showing your boyfriend a good faith effort to set right whatever bothered him.Best of luck, and do not worry if you cannot dredge them out. Unless you have a pattern of memory loss, it is very unlikely there is anything wrong. Stress, distraction, and the like create memory holes for everyone at some point.

Do you ever have bad dreams that aren’t nightmares?

I do. I have dreams where nothing particularly scary happens, but I wake up with a bad feeling or a sour taste in my mouth.I had such a dream a few days ago.I was in a pool with a group of friends. I was jokingly flirting with a friend of mine, who seemed to be flirting back in such a way that I assumed he was in on it. We splashed water at each other, he touched my arm, he came from underneath me and tried to scare me, all kinds of things.I stopped the flirting and he got upset, getting out of the pool and making as if he was going to leave.I sent a friend after him to ask, since I thought he was upset at me and didn’t to rub him the wrong way.He told her that he meant the flirting and he genuinely had feelings for me. He looked heartbroken as he walked away and I woke up with such a bitter feeling of guilt.It was just strange and made me feel bad.

Have you ever had a dream that upset you profoundly?

I wouldn't call it a dream, I would call it a nightmare.I heard my (girl)friend kill herself.While I was away from my home in Minnesota, I was visiting California for my dad, for 2 months. I was drunk, if not heavily buzzed off Modelo Negra (the best Modelo flavor imo). I nodded off in the guest bedroom, then I was suddenly transported to the spacious living room with my step brothers and sisters. I was having dinner with them. Then I received a phone call from H, I could hear her voice on the receiver, that one sentence that I hope she never utters in real life, it still chills me to the bone:“I can't take it anymore, I'm sorry if I hurt you. I love you”*Bang*I remember hearing the noise the phone makes when someone hangs up, and your still on the other end. I kept screaming her name. Everyone around me is looking confused, asking me what happened, and why I'm screaming. I remember punching holes in the walls, and feeling the impact as the drywall met my fist.I gasped awake, 2:30 AM in California, 4:30 AM in Minnesota. I wanted to call and make sure you didn't really do it. But I couldn't, it was early in the morning and I was for sure you were sleeping. As soon as you sent that good morning text to me, a smile crept on my face. I couldn't wait to see you.We kissed for the first time ever (8/19/18) since we met, 8 months ago. My mouth hasn't shut up about you ever since then, the idea that you might kiss it again forever terrifies yet, entices me. Like when you slip and fall on a step then that same step meets the middle of your back, then the sudden sensation of that step followed by another step, hoping that it either goes on forever or suddenly stops, is how I felt when we first locked lips. I didn't ever want it to stop. Throughout the day I periodically lick my lips, knowing that they yern for your touch once again.I love you, H.