Help! I can't decide whether or not to wear hijab!?
ok i won't attack you, my dear....you seem to be a good girl and that's why you are asking us here.....you want to be a good muslim....you want to please Allah....am i right? first of all...read this verse....imagine that allah is talking to you right now " It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error." fine? now read this plz 'A'isha radi Allahu anha used to say: "When (the Verse): 'They should draw their veils over their necks and bosoms,' was revealed, (the ladies) cut their waist sheets at the edges and covered their faces with the cut pieces." (Hadith - Sahih Bukhari 6:282) plz im not judging you, sister......im sinful too but but i really want you to live according to islam(no weed, no drink, no tight clothes....etc)......may allah be with you, hunny......amen btw check this wedding song plz.....ok im single but i love it:P http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mHpTdsBbY...
I don't want my fiance to have a bachelor party?
Ew... Bachelor and Bachelorette parties the night before the wedding are SUCH a bad idea. When the parents of my godson got married, the groom had his bachelor party the night before... he was still drunk at the wedding. What a fiasco! I thought it was disrespectful to his bride AND his guests. Having a hung-over groom is not ideal, I'll concede that. But to tell him he can't have a bachelor party at all... well, that's not really your choice. You can discuss it with him. You can be honest and open with him and tell him how you feel, but in the end it's his choice whether or not he wants one. He's an adult and your his bride, not his mom. You don't have to trust his friends. You're not marrying his friends, you're marrying him. Men who cry 'drunk' when they cheat are just using it as an excuse. If he loves you and is really the guy you should be marrying, he wont have sex with another woman the night before the wedding, regardless of how trashed he is. Strippers (read: NOT prostitutes) are common fun at bachelor parties. It's par for the course. Strippers are women who take their clothes off for entertainment... NOT have sex with men for money. What's wrong with having a party together? Nothing. I've known couples who have parties together too... but if he wants his own bachelor party, you just have to let him do what wants to do. It's his choice. You can claim that you trust him and not his friends all you want, all he'll hear is that you don't trust him. And no, calling the last night he's single is NOT b.s. Up until you are married, you check the 'single' box on all official paperwork. This is it. This is the last time he WONT be married. I don't really think you're overreacting... I just think your reasoning is off. I think you should be less concerned with what happens at his bachelor party and MORE concerned with WHEN the bachelor party happens. Do your best to convince him to have it a week beforehand. My FH agreed to that because we both know the shenanigans his friends like to get in and it's important to HIM that we're both sober and feeling great on our wedding day too.
Don't you hate it when your parents do this?
Give you answers like "Because I said so.", "My house, my rules.", "When you start paying the bills in this house, then you can do that." These answers will shut down lines of communications fast between you and your parents, sometimes indefinitely. Then when you really need your parents, you are hesitant to approach them or to ask for their assistance or advice. The important question here is What would you like your parents to do to maintain better lines of communications with you? Preteens, Tweens & Teens- this is your chance to rant to get all of the bottled frustration out & maybe some of these answers will help to reestablish the lines of communications for a few families. Parents- listen. I know that you may never know if your son or daughter was one of the respondents to this question, but use what you learn from these kids as if it were coming from your own son or daughter if the situation is similar. I am a former law enforcement officer & I'm tired of seeing all of the news reports about teen suicide, criminal activity & teen pregnancy. Teens- we were once your age, we are not born as adult parents, not knowing what it's like being young & sometimes, although we may hate to admit it, we were in your shoes & know that what you want to do is bad. Because we've already done it. Parents- You need to sometimes go out on a limb & put forth blind faith & trust your child. Let them know if they let you down, there will be consequences, but start trusting your child that they will do what's right.
My beau wants me to wear tights or stockings 24/7 except shower time, is it possible?
What do you want to do? Do you enjoy wearing them? Are you wearing pantyhose type or garter type? I would think with the extra layer of clothing keeping you warm if you decide on pantyhose type, you should look for cottons or breathable materials and designs to guard against infections. Same with your toes - keeping them enclosed and toasty all the time can lead to toe nail fungus and athlete's foot. A careful strict hygiene ritual will need to be maintained, but again, if you aren't comfortable do you really want to give your partner this much control over you? Maybe you can find a compromise point.
My parents won't let me hug/kiss my boyfriend. How should I deal with this?
Wow. As a parent (of now grown children) this question confuses me too. The parent in me automatically responds "respect your parents damn it". Then the human side tells that side to shut up and relax. I wasn't nearly as strict as your parents, but I think good parents are always concerned for their child's well being. I'd like to think I was a good parent. Neither of my kids did drugs, got pregnant or got anyone pregnant. They did well at school and socially. They're both in their 30's now, so I proclaim success.That's not supposed to sound egotistical, although it kind of does. The point is, as parents we share are knowledge, make our "pointless" rules, do our best to keep our kids from harm, and at some point step back and pray for the best.Did I expect that my kids were going to actually follow every rule I set? Parentally yes. Realistically, of course not. I set rules so they'd have guidelines for their behavior. Since we can't monitor our kids 24/7, all we can do is try to instill good values and trust they will make good decisions. All that is to explain the reasoning behind your parents thinking. Now, my personal advice to you. You seem to have a good sense of right and wrong, otherwise you wouldn't feel guilt over breaking the rules. The human side of me would like to point out that the teen age years are the most radical changes one will find in life. Your body changes, your brain develops both physically and mentally. And your emotions run amok.You also grow socially, and that is where your question comes from. You are testing the waters, and what you are doing is perfectly normal, and expected (even though it scares us as parents, deep down we know its coming.)Take it slow, be discreet, and don't let it go overboard. My best, non parental advice is let yourself get caught. You will absolutely suffer consequences, so be prepared. But the whole scenario is a dirty little trick to make your parents realize their little girl is growing up without arguing first. Trust me, it will work.