My dad hit me for the first time?
Your dad is an abusive father. You need to tell someone you trust about the situation so they can contact the police. Not your mother because she might feel the need to protect him. I suggest talking to your counselor at school or a teacher you trust. If you ever get any bruises from him, show them to your school nurse or a doctor and tell them what happened. You need to let people help you. He is an abusive man and he doesn't deserve to live under the same roof as you. I don't care if you love him and don't want to turn him in. You need to do what is best for yourself and not worry about him anymore. Try to get him on video being abusive so you can have more evidence on your side so you can get him out of your life as soon as possible. Stay strong. Jesus Loves You :)
My mom hit me for the first time...?
I just read everyone of your questions from the rape to now. You need to make sure that you and Lilly are ok. Your mom will be fine. She has been through a lot. First off it's ok if your mom isn't helping you. I do realize your age, but you are Lilly's mommy. God gave mommies a special ability to know what their children need. You need to take a breath and listen. I promise he will tell you. Second, Lilly can tell when you are upset. I know you have been through so much! Try to hold it together for Lilly, she needs you. If you are calm she will calm down too. Remember a babies cries because it's their only form of communication. If you have fed her, changed her, and made sure that she in not gassy, then put a pacifier in her mouth wrap her in a blanket and hold her really close to your chest. Then breath deep, really deep. Make sure she can feel your chest rise and fall with every breath. It will remind her of your tummy and calm her down. I am 25 and I was recently taught this trick by a lady from my church. It works like a charm! I know it seems like God has just turned his back on you, but please read Job. Your story reminds me so much of his. It should give you great incite and wisdom. Your mom is not helping because her life has fallen apart. Imagine how your mom must have felt to lose a daughter... you can relate. Life itself seems to stop for a while. Then to lose your dad. God gave you Lilly for a reason, remember that. She can be where you get your strength. Look down at her and know that without you her life is at a stand still. You take care of all of her needs because she cannot do it by herself. She needs you to be strong. I know you can! As for your mom, just take care of Lilly and give her space. I know that sounds so bad. You do not want to be "in her way". I hate to say that but really just make sure you and your daughter are taken care of, and God will guide everything else. I am numb, completely numb after reading your stories and in 30 minutes you have made yourself a little place in my heart. You ARE strong and brave. Be the mommy Lilly needs right now. You can do it! I promise! I have a sister your age and I just keep imagining what if this was her. Please feel free to send me a message when you feel you need to talk or have a question. I might not have the answer immediately but I will try my best to help!! You can message me through Yahoo.
My dad hit me for the first time, what should i do?
so just a few minutes ago, my mom was yelling at me. she yells at me about every little thing that i do wrong. i have a list of chores that i have to do everyday, and i couldnt do them today, because i got home late because i had to stay an extra hour for football practice. she got home before i did, and was waiting for me at home. she came up to me and was yelling and yelling at me, and then she slapped me and grabbed my face at the same time with her nails, and it scratched me. i got up and i said " f**k" under my breath, and i walked in my room. she came in and said what did you say? i told her to get out, and i kinda slammed my door. my dad then came in and he started cussing and yelling at me about how i should be respecting my mom. i said "i didnt even do anything" and then i looked away. he said "look at me when your talking to me." i looked at him and then looked away again and kind of nodded my head. he came up and punched me on my cheek and then he told me to do my chores. i just got finished with them, what should i do? im thinking that i shouldnt do anything, because he does support me and take care of me. i am 15 years old.
My Father hit me. I'm 21. What should I do?
Wait a bit and then call him. Tell him that hitting you was very wrong and that if he does it again you will charge him or that you will have to cut him out of your life. Do expect him to minimize it and to shift the blame back to you. This is not a good man. You could always frame it in a way he understands by stating "Dad, you would never let anyone hit you so please don't do it to me." I feel your pain. You did not deserve this. He walks away justifying this in his mind while you feel the pain and humilation. Write him a letter if you don't feel confident to talk to him over the phone. DEFINATELY stay away from him as much as possible. Focus on your life. Understand that you are the victim here, but do not, justify or minimize his behaviour. A good man would have sought help years ago. He is not a good man. Take care of yourself. Taking care of yourself means you do not let anyone hurt you. Set some boundaries and expect that he will not honour your boundaries but do so anyway. A father is supposed to be one of the people in this life that you can trust. You can not trust your father. Good luck.
My dad hit me for the first time? Is this wrong or did i deserve it?
my dad has never hit me before in my entire life. When he gets mad at me he just yells at me, but never hit me. i always back talk to my parents and then as a result they get angry and just yell at me. But yesturday i back talked to my dad (not like it was the first time, although it is wrong) and he cracked it and punched me several times, until my mum came to see what happening and stopped him. Is this wrong? Or did i deserve it, (but it is not the first time i have done this), so i think may be i deserved it... but my dad has never hit me before... So are dads allowed to physically hurt us when we do something that is wrong. Because i know its common for mums to spank kids...but dads???
My dad hit me for the first time, how do I react?
Hitting is a form of abuse. It is both un-justified and quite un-nessessary. He has anger issues if that is what he had to resort to, and they need to be resolved. You did not make him do anything, he is an adult and should have control over his faculties at ALL times, no matter how bothered he is by a particular topic. He should not EVER express violent behavior towards anyone, especially not his child. That absolutely is abuse, don’t listen to anyone who says otherwise. I lived with this for years from my mother and step father, and even my father periodically, and even when I told my best friend and she heard the violent screaming, she just hung up the phone, said it made her uncomfortable to hear. It was verbal and physical abuse. How disheartening that was. How old are you? If you are a minor you should go talk to a counselor about the matter as soon as possible, and see what can be done to prevent that from happening again. If they make excuses for him, they are a sorry excuse for a counselor, look elsewhere. The school should have them, and also the state has services they offer.
My dad slapped me for the first time?
Obviously what you consider "bad taste" he does not. Ditto bad songs. It might embarrass him that you had a red mark on your face at school and people asked/noticed; you need to tell a trusted teacher or school counsellor that he hit you. Here are some general suggestions I make to younger teens in case you might get some helpful ideas from them. Ask to have a serious discussion with your parents about how they see things panning out in the coming months and years. It needs to be fairly rational, so if one of you becomes too emotional (e.g. angry) it would be best to time out and try again another time. Prepare in advance what you would like to say and ask: write a plan, even. As you reach each birthday, for example, or each new school year, what rights, freedoms and responsibilities will you have? Chores, pocket money, curfews, dating, etc. will all come into it, obviously. You can't really expect something for nothing, so think about what you can put into the family and household as part of your negotiations as to what you can get. If you are to grow into a responsible adult, it must be a gradual process: if they keep you wrapped up in cotton wool and then suddenly let you out of the box at eighteen, you won't have enough experience to know how to handle it. That said, your parent(s) is/are responsible for your safety and welfare during this time: no doubt they love you and they themselves have the experiences you don't yet. Seeing things on t.v. and hearing your friends' (exaggerated?) stories aren't quite the same. If they don't want to do this, ask them if they will please consider a plan and talk again in a week or so. All plans need to be a little flexible, as unexpected things can happen, of course. Hopefully this will show that you have a maturing attitude to your family and your life. Good Luck!
My father was angry at me and raised his hand to hit me, but I prevented it. If he does that again, even if he doesn't hit me, should I call the police?
Assault and battery is the combination of two violent crimes: assault (the threat of violence) and battery (physical violence). This legal distinction exists only in jurisdictions that distinguish assault as threatened violence rather than actual violence. Assault and battery is illegal in most US jurisdictions.Domestic violence is also illegal in most US jurisdictions.It is inappropriate for a parent to raise a hand to strike a child in the manner you have described. If you are a small child, and if the parent is preparing to strike you on the buttocks, and if the parent is not angry and upset, and if you are prepared to be struck on the buttocks, THEN it MAY be appropriate. It is NEVER appropriate for a parent for a parent to strike a child anywhere BUT the buttocks -- if even that is appropriate.It is NEVER appropriate for a parent for a parent to strike a child anywhere if the parent is angry and upset. An angry or upset parent can lose control and make bad decisions about where to spank and how hard to spank and what effects the spanking is having on the child.You may want to talk to a counselor about this and you may want to talk with your parents about this. At some point, a child becomes too old and mature for physical punishment and today, many professionals believe that all children should be punished without physical violence.If you are in actual fear of your life or your physical safety, call the police. Domestic violence causes many deaths in the USA every year.