My Foster Sister Is So Annoying/controlling

How can I deal with my annoying younger sister?

I told my daughter once she yelled or wined the discussion was over and I was not going to change my mind. And if at possible I would ignore her or move on to something else. Above all stay calm. Her future husband doesn’t want a woman that yells at him.She is testing the waters to see what works. So be sure to reward her when she try's something close to the method you want her to use. Even if it a bit of extra effort.She says”I want Ice cream now” You say if you ask nicely I will say yes otherwise it is No. She asks nicely and you get Ice Cream and you talk about catch-up no more flys with honey instead of vinager.Warning she may became very good at logical arguments. That is a story for another time. However, I do believe that is why my daughter just got prmotedyto manager.

What should I do if my older sister is annoying?

Did you ever consider she is paying it forward for what she tolerated as the older child?  I am the eldest child and only daughter and I was a single child for over 9 years before my first brother was born - I had the sole concentration of both parents for 9 YEARS!  I was very relieved to finally have a sibling and effectively escaping the concentrated eagle eyes of my parents some of the time.  However, being the eldest, it fell to me to help reinforce the level of parenting I had received and seemingly, my two much younger brothers were being denied...My mother vowed she would quit with three because each one got more able to "drive her crazy" so I was elected to fill in as "second" mother and I took the role seriously.  I was more strict than she and more vigilant and drove my brothers crazy with being on top of every action they did.  Maybe your sister is simply filling a void she accepts is not being handled and in her need to do well, she is over-doing it.Give her a little leeway and step back before you threaten, scream or take action.  Annoying is synonymous with sibling.  Accept your fate and inwardly smile.  Unless your sister is doing you physical or severe mental harm, it actually comes from a place of love and concern (in 99% of cases) and she just may not realize how annoying she is.  Try to talk to her in a non-threatening tone and, if need be, take the higher moral ground and be more mature than she.  If that goes awry, you should be able to talk to your parents about your feelings and again - be mature, don't whine or scream at them but rather talk quietly and honestly and try to make your point calmly and openly.  It might not work but what have you lost if you try?  Humans are born to annoy unless helped to curb the instinct so try diplomacy before declaring war or "freezing" them out.

Why do I feel annoyed by my sister whenever she talks to me?

there are several people to whom I have this reaction who do not deserve this reaction. some are related. some are not. with respect to family members, family does extract a toll, doesn’t it?here’s my theory. we gestate inside a womb. when the time comes we leave. if we stay too long we die. time to go. family then builds yet another womb around us in which we grow, this time a symbolic womb, but just like before there comes a time to go. if you don’t go you fail to thrive. so you have to break out of that one, too, to grow up and take care of yourself, so you can thrive.but even if you do that you were deeply conditioned inside of that familial womb. you don’t even realize how deeply conditioned you were. and, I think, sometimes, family tries to re-inter you, not out of hostility, but because they assume they know who you are, because they knew who you were, and they’re talking to their memory of you from their deep, deep conditioning. but you and I both know who’s talking and who they’re talking to are gone. they’re a ghost talking to a ghost. I don’t know about you, but when I sense the past whispering to me like that I resist. life is not back there. life is the other way.

How do you deal with a controlling sibling who keeps turning your family against you to get her way?

I hope things have gotten better for you by now. It sounds like you've got a lot going on in addition to your sister issue and that's making it worse.When I was younger, I had a sister that did similar things and she was the 'prize child' that could do no wrong-even when she was getting locked up and paying her lawyers with checks she stole from her grandmother-true story. And that's when I realized that I needed to look out for myself and quit giving a damn about what anyone else said or thought.Any family she turned against me was no real loss if it was that easy for them to turn against me and anything she said about me had no power unless I gave it power. I moved on with my life and it was the best thing that I could have ever done.Some people are toxic. Sometimes they are related to you by blood. Sometimes the most supportive and loving people you know are not. Don't beat yourself up over people that don't have your best interest at heart, just because they share your blood line. The world is full of people that haven't even met you yet and haven't formed one negative opinion about you-and your sister means absolutely nothing to them.