Dad cheated on my mom got another woman pregnant now his son wants to live with us?
It`s a sad situation for all involved, ( not your dad). I`m sorry that this is invading your life. But remember that it`s not your half brother`s fault your dad cheated, and created him. But your parents need to set bounderies and limitations on him as fars what he can use and where he sleeps.I have lots of experience with this situation.My father got a women pregnant when I was 20, and have a have brother who could be my son. My dad stopped seeing me, he invested his time in his " new" child. It was horrible. I also have a stepson who is adopted, that may come into the picture soon. Edit: I`ll tell you something, if I were your mother, I would have divorced him and moved on. I wouldn`t have the child in my house.It`s setting up a bad situation for your siblings and resentment on her part. How is she treating your brother?In my house, MY children come first, if my husband`s child was causing a disturbance, he`d have to go. Seeing as how he doesn`t have priority in the household to begin with. Your father should stand back, and assess everyone`s needs. I think a different living step up should be made.
How do I find out if my dad misses me and my mom as much as I know we miss him?
My dad had an affair for a year behind my mothers back, in 2008 they got divorced, in 2009 we moved to South Carolina. He stayed in New Jersey and moved in with his mistress/girlfriend. He's so far away and it's so hard to tell if her really misses me, because she has 3 boys, he always wanted boys and he's always talking about them and It kills me because he never tells me anything and I constantly wonder if he even misses his old life with us? I see them on facebook going places, visiting my grandparents, and i think about how that's my family. Not hers and her 3 boys, and I only get to see him twice a year at most. It literally kills me, sometimes i still feel like how one day he'll come back or even just admit he made a mistake by leaving us, but he never does. It's like the divorce had no toll on him and only on me, my mom and my sisters. I just want to know if he regrets it, i feel like he would because i mean we're his. They're not, they're someone else's and i don't know, everytime i say something emotional i feel stupid and like i don't know what to do. I miss him so much. I was thinking about moving back up to New Jersey this summer, but then i'd leave all my friends....I just don't know.
Have you ever hated your mom?
Unfortunately I would have to say in caps that:YES< I HATE MY MOMYou see, i was born and abused my my birth parents cuz they burnt be with cigs so i went into a foster home.…and thenA man and his wife adopted me…great right…ya not really!My mom never said she was proud of me..never came to any events i was in like running..a sport i did well at.Most days were just punishment and she was good at coming up with h diffeernt kinds of punishments that other parents didnt do..so kudos for coming up with cruel punishments, and often.I think the thing she did that made me hate her was she would walk right by me..see her husband sexually abusing me as a child and did she try to stop it.no, she didnt.and to make it even worse…she said to me these words and for this i will NEVER FORGIVE HER tho there was a time when i asked her to apologize and she refused.what did she say to make me hate so so much you ask?Well this is it:“you were a difficult child so you deserved to be sexually abused!”What..serioulsy….what the fuck..She had one job..keep me safe and she failed so im sorry to say but actually no im not sorry i fucking hate her
My parents caught my boyfriend and I sleeping together and my dad hit my boyfriend?
I'm 16. My boyfriend is 15. My mom walked into my bedroom and I was just sleeping on the bed with my boyfriend (he had his arm around my waist is all that happened). We didn't have sex. We were literally just sleeping. My mom went off and told my dad and he blew a fuse. I tried to tell him we didn't do anything (after all, everyone has sex fully clothed with their door open in a house full of people) but he didn't believe me. He got in my face and my bf's face. He called me a whore (even though I'm a virgin) and he shoved my bf. My bf is a really big guy (he's like 6'5) but he's not violent and my bf was like "Please don't touch me, sir." And so my dad was like "Oh yeah. Or what?" and he shoved him a few more times but my bf didn't do anything so my dad hit him in the face. I told my dad to stop and my dad punched me in the face and told me to shut up so my bf pulled him away from him (not violently, just to get him away from me). My bf walked away to help me up (because it was a hit to my face, not a slap, and it knocked me down) and my hit him with the broom on the back from behind repeatedly (sucker punches basically) so my bf finally just punched him. My dad was knocked out cold and he has a broken nose and a fractured jaw (he had to have his jaw wired shut). Now he wants to press charges against my bf but my bf only hit him in defensive obviously. I mean he hit my bf at least 15 times and my bf only fought back when he wouldn't stop. I really love my bf and after what happened, I just love him even more but my family is guilting me into feeling like it's my fault (like my mom said "Well if you hadn't brought him home..."). I want to be with my bf. What do I do? Was my bf in the right? I think he is.
Do I have to respect my step-father?
Talk to your dad here seriously, let him know whats going on, and see if he would be willing to let you live with him. Most states allow you to have a say in where you live once you turn 12. I have a blended family myself, and my husband knows that if he ever did half of what you are talking about, I would kick him to the curb so fast it make his head spin. Also, calling him dad or pop should be your choice based on his actions and love for you, not forced upon you, you have a dad already. We told our kids they could call my new husband by his first name if they wished, because they have a dad. They choose to call him dad, and thats fine too, they picked. The only thing being forced to do so against you will is going to do is cause hate/anger/resentment paired with his actions. Good luck to you, and I hope for your sake your dad will let you move in with him and get out of that place, you deserve so much better.