My best friend and I are drifting apart?
Ok, I have had this happen to me several times growning up. I had this one girl whom i considered my very best friend completely just cut me out when we were in our early 20's and i didn't understand why. I confronted her about it, and she just said nothing was wrong (of course she was lying). I never did actually find out the cause, but like you said before....sometimes people just grow apart. There could be a million and one reasons why she is doing this, but it is anybodies guess. You could talk with her about it, and there is a chance she may tell you the truth. The BEST thing you can do is MOVE ON. Show her that you are making other new friends, get out there and make something of yourself. People are attracted to others who are moving in a positive direction. If she thinks you are sulking over her, this will only push her farther away from you....trust me! Make her WANT to be near you because you are the winner, the popular girl, the one that is going places! Once she makes the move to come back to you, then maybe she will come out on her own to tell you why she went away. Don't chase her, make her want to come to you! Btw, this advice applies to guys too in case there is a guy you like and want him to chase you. Best wishes!
My Best Friend And I Are Drifting Apart.. Help?!?
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I'm drifting apart from my friends and it makes me feel very depressed...?
They are probably feeling like what interests them doesn't interest you. You are just moving into a different direction in life. I'm not sure what they are into but the fact that they don't even try to make you feel included is a major sign that something's wrong. I don't know if you did something to them or they did something to you or if there was any conflict at all. I think that you should try to talk to at least one of them to try to figure out what's wrong. If there is nothing wrong and you're still excluded, you should move away. You're feeling bad because you define who you are through them. If you decide your opinion of yourself is a priority, you'll be less sad. I mean, you didn't intentionally try to hurt any of them, right? You're a good person, right? If you were them, you wouldn't treat a friend like this, right? Give yourself credit where credit is due and find friends more like you. Change is a part of life and most everyone gets through it ok.
From the comment, it looks as though you embrace a romantic love for her. Because ‘reigniting’ is very specific to possessive love which is romantic in nature.The real question is do you want her to be happy? Or do you want yourself to be happy by being with her? Both are different. Second is romantic. The first is altruistic. If you want her to be happy, then you respect her free will.Be there for her when she requires help. Understand her. This doesn’t require constant chatter. If she is ‘romantically’ inclined towards someone else, wish them well. If she has other best friends, look out for them. These are the responses that make us better human beings. Plotting to reignite passion and seeking a relationship that has constant attraction lures us towards pretending to be someone we are not.Being jealous is a sign that we prioritise our happiness before someone else’s. No one in this world can be and should be possessed. If you care for someone, there is no need to advertise to them how much you care for her. You care. Period. Not with some ulterior motive behind it other than their happiness. There is no need for them to acknowledge it. It can be unilateral. It just depends on what we seek - our happiness or theirs.If you can associate yourself with this, you’ll at some point in your life get hurt.
If they really care about you, it'll be very hard and then the question arises why you'd want to get away.If they don't really care it'll be easy and can De done with almost no intervention from your group.Either way follow something like:In a calculated and seamless manner stop hanging out with your group, giving very boring reason. Maintain a normal attitude. Keep ignoring calls and interaction. Gradually increase this apathy. Finally a day will come when they may notice this and confront you for this behavior. Maintain ignorance and project your unawareness of this accused 'changed behavior' of yours which is entirely deliberate.At this point if the group is extremely protective they'll surely make a scene, and this is unavoidable if the nature of your group is such. But if they don't you'll know they weren't too protective about you and didn't care as much.
It's awful. You don't know what you did wrong. I mean, when you still wanted to be friends with them and didn't drift on purpose.One of my friends and I recently stopped talking very much at all. I don't know why. I mean, there were some bumps, but we'd been friends for so many years, that I didn't even think it was an issue.And then we just stopped talking. I'd smile at her and she wouldn't notice. She was always oblivious.But the thing is, you don't know why. That's the worst part. You can't help but wonder if someone said something bad to them that made them change their mind, or if they just got sick of you.My friend and I had been best friends for years. One day, we played a joke on someone over Instagram, and her parents did not take it well, saying it was “bullying” (although it was not, we knew the person well). So she was not allowed to spend time with me anymore.But what puzzles me is that we got through that. She kept talking to me and spending every free minute of the school day with me against her parents wishes, even though she never disobeys them. We got through so much, and then… we just stopped talking?It sucks to know that you are drifting apart. It sucks even more when you try to save the friendship and it doesn't work.It hurts even more when it was someone you were truly close to.
I'm worried my boyfriend and I are drifting apart..?
Okay so we have been together just over a year and we have quite a lot of trust issues. It's mostly my fault as i have cheated on him but it was a drunk night and he forgave me for it and he was away for a month at the time and i missed him (i am aware missing him does not make cheating okay, far from it and neither does alcohol). Ever since then we have both found it hard to trust each other. I always feel that every girl he talks to he might cheat on me with because i cheated on him. He tells me he won't but i just cant get it out my head. He also had text sex with a girl whilst we were in bed a few months before i cheated on him and it makes me worry even more that he is seeing somebody else. I go out of my way trying to look nice for him all the time. I buy him silly presents and he never does anything for me. Before he went away for a month I organised a nice meal and candles around the bed and bought some new sexy underwear which was really expensive and all together the evening cost me around £140 with the meal and everything. He told me he had got me a birthday present- nothing, i spent £40 on his and he told me he bought me this ring i had wanted for ages for our 1 year yet the day comes and goes and no ring. I don't mean that i want our relationship to be based on material things like presents it would just be nice to feel noticed. On his birthday he danced with other girls and never introduced me to his friends as his girlfriend. When it is just the two of us he is the most kindest, wonderful boyfriend ever. But he is quite selfish in the way he has forced me to give him a BJ before and never wants to spend time with me unless it includes getting drunk. It's really upsetting seeing someone you love so much drink all their money away (he owes me £150 and has done since April) I don't want to lose him and i have tried talking to him but all he does is moan at me for 'not trusting me' and turns everything back to my best male friend (who is also one of his best friends and i would NEVER cheat on my boy with him because he is like a brother (my best friend)) I just don't know what to do :'( I adore him and want to be with him forever and he says we will be but i can't see it happening HELP
My best friend and i are drifting?
ok so my best friend and i...friends for four years and i can tell her anything. but we keep drifting! then getting together. then drifting! and its kinda complicated so here goes... shes part of this best friend group with a girl she met in last year, and im like ok with that (i'm not part of the group, but im friends with them) and she always chases after this one girl...like yesterday she completely ditched me for her...i was really pissed of at her and i didnt talk to her the rest of the day...this happened before but we got back together and it was great!! but now its happening again...with the same girl too! and im like ok seriously? i've been here for you for like ever! so ive been looking up on these situations...and some people say that these types of people are not real bestfriends so tell me...is she a real friend? p.s. if u need more info just tell me