I think my friend has an eating disorder?
I've known my friend since about fourth grade and she's always been really tall for her age and about average size and sometimes a little bit bigger. Ever since she came back to school after last summer she has been vegetarian. She exercises and plays softball. I didn't think much of it at first. But last week she mentioned to me how she had gotten her period in 3 months. She's always cold. She's mentioned yesterday how her fingernails and toenails are turning blue. I don't know this is important but recently she chopped off all of her hair suddenly. shes mentioned how she can see her rib cage and other bones and such. And recently all she's been eating is yogurt and she's been throwing away her other food.We finally convinced her to tell her mom about everything she scheduled a dr. Appt. for tomorrow. I really want to help her through this because I'm pretty sure that she has an eating disorder but I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to directly confront her about it because she doesn't think that she has an eating disorder and she's really sensitive and I don't want to lose her as a friend. But after watching tons of anorexia videos on YouTube it looks like she's in the late stages of an eating disorder. But we're not sure if the guidance counselor knows enough about this to be able to help her and so we don't know what to do now. So I was wondering if any of you guys could offer any ideas of what I could do to help her and get her to open up about what she's feeling.
MY FRIEND HAS A FAKE? EATING DISORDER?
hello! so i am in the 8th grade and recently (a couple of months ago) my friend told me "h, i havent been eating at all recently" now, first of all does that even sound right to you? people who have an eating disorder usually dont tell anyone right? well she, quite upfront i might add, just came out an told me as well as a lot of our other friends too. between now and then she's ALWAYS dropping hints on the fact she "has a serious disease, that she cant help" (these are all direct quotes i might add) i really do love her and it does worry me if she she has this, but something tells me she may just be wanting to get attention. i feel so awful for even suggesting that but i really feel like that may be the case. today she told me "h, my pulse is really weak... im at a serious risk for a heart attack" i just dont know what to say! OH! im so sorry i didnt add this right off the bat, but she isn't showing anorexic symptoms! i mean MAYBE she getting a LITTLE skinner, but its been 3 months since she was "diagnosed" so i would imagine if it was serious she would show a little more but i really have no idea. can any of you give me advice on this situation?! i dont know what to say when she talks about or how to deal! thanks [:
My friend has a eating disorder?
About 4 months ago I was at a sleepover with four girls. My two best friends and a girl that was a good friend(B). Well we where all talking and somehow it was brought up that B had a eating disorder. She said how she just thought she was fat so she tried it and now when ever she feels like she ate too much she'll just make her self throw up. I asked her what made her keep doing it "because its faster than working out and I've only done it for about a month now.." Instead of telling her how not fat she is like we had for the past hour I told her that she needs to be careful, to try to stop and that if he ever needed someone I was there. Well we hung out only a couple of times over the summer and I thought that she had stopped. When school began again and she went to high school and I'm only in the 8th grader so I stayed. I went to a football game about a month ago with some friends and saw her. I've never seen some one her age that skinny. She weighed 75 pounds and shes 14! A couple of my friends and I had another sleepover with her but I didn't want to bring it up. I'm really worried about it and on top of everything our parents started dating and we might all move into a house together. I don't mind that at all its just that I really want to help her get better. Recently she went to get a doctor checkup and they told her that if she loses anymore weight that they where going to hospitalize her and because shes missed so much school(I don't know why) she is going to get home schooled. I know she won't get professional help but I'm thinking maybe if I start talking to her that after we start to get closer I can convince her? Or at least mention it without her freaking out. So really I'm just looking for something to say to her that won't make her uncomfortable or stress her out. Please don't say "tell you school or parent or something" well my dad knows and I think her mom dose too but she doesn't understand how bad its actually gotten. I'm not telling or talking to my school or parent I just want some help on how I can talk to HER? My friends are worried too but all they say is " Its a habit and we can't do anything about it now its too late". Well its not too late and I'm not letting my friend through her whole life away just because no one will help her. Please answer I can't let anything bad happen or I'll never be able to forgive my self even if it isn't my fault! so please help.. Thanks
I think my friend has an eating disorder?
Honestly id totally believe she has an eating disorder . my bestfriend is anorexic & bulimic && she always says shes so fat just like ur friend && even though she knows i know shes got an E.D. she still goes to the bathroom and pukes everything up everytime she eats What u needa tell her is that A.) Bulimia (which is when u force yourself to throw up) actually just makes you fatter because your body goes to its fat to get nutrients and creates more fat or something like that B.) if she doesnt stop with the anorexia/bulimia , her hair WILL start falling out in small and then large clumps after a while C.) tell her to look up pics on google of anorexic/bulimic people and tell her that its like an addiction and she WILL end up looking like that no matter how much she thinks shell be able to stop The one other thing u can do is just be there for her && remind her that shes beautiful and perfect everytime she makes herself puke just say something light like "You know , you've always been skinny and pretty , you dont need to do that" Dont push anything too hard right now but if she starts to be skin && bones like my friend became after a while you NEED to tell someone who can get her counselling otherwise she WILL DIE . I almost lost my bestfriend from it , she was in the hospital for a month because of her eating disorder . Make sure your friend knows the consequences and slowly try to persuade her to stop REALLY REALLY hope she gets better ~~Megan ~~ Our Lives End The day We Remain Silent About The Things That Matter To Us
I think that my friend may have an eating disorder. What should I do?
I think that my friend may have an eating disorder. What should I do?People with eating disorders feel like their lives are out of control in some way. People who binge mirror that out-of-control feeling with their eating, those that starve themselves try to exert extreme control over themselves and their bodies. Some people do both. There is usually an intense fear of gaining weight.People with eating disorders can be resistant to the idea that they have one. If you bring it up to talk to her about, there is a good chance she will deny it, and since this probably more than you should deal with on your own, consider expressing your concerns to her parents, a teacher, the school counselor or school nurse.If you are correct, your friend needs to see her family doctor about her eating behaviour.You can call tel:+1-888-997-3147 for specific advice on how to approach your friend.More:What To Do And SayHow to Help Someone with an Eating Disorder14 Ways To Help A Friend With An Eating Disorder
What do I do if my friend has an eating disorder and doesn't want to be helped?
It takes time to gain your friend’s trust. The last thing she would want is for someone to impose what she should do which would only make her retaliate more. Continue to be her support system. Continuously assure her that you love and care for her unconditionally.There’s a Naturopathic Doctor named Razi Berry who guested on Learn True Health. She shared her eating disorder situation on the show and how she got herself out of it. Check it out. You’ll learn some tips on how to handle your friend who has an eating disorder.Here’s the link of the episode on Youtube:
Eating Disorder?
Most likely if your friend is overweight she has an eating disorder- even if the only disorder is that she dont burn enough of the calories she takes in.
How do I tell my friend that I think she has an eating disorder?
Eating disorders are a serious mental health issue. The mortality rate (for anorexia) is higher than any other psychiatric disorder. They invariably stem from long roots that reach back to early aspects of family of origin function that gave rise to these pathological behaviours that usually only begin to manifest in the teen years of, usually, girls. Also invariably, these are complex disorders. Most psychologists, in my experience, prefer not to treat them because of the wide spread belief that these patients are difficult to treat (which is true), and expectation that one needs to be quite specialized in their training to offer highly specific interventions (which is not true).All that is to say, eating disorders are awful for those who suffer with them. There are potentially very serious health risks, including the risk of death. This type of problem absolutely justifies concern by any friend or caring family member (if they are fortunate enough to have such a family member), and recommending treatment is never to be seen as "overkill."That said, I've not met a group of patients who are more ashamed of their symptoms than those with eating disorders. When you approach your friend, just bear in mind how utterly humiliating it is likely to be to "out them" on an eating disorder. Better if you can get them to confide it in you. Think "not all in one conversation" but, rather, several over time. If I were concerned about a friend, I'd meet for a chat over coffee (ok, over a beer actually), and simply say "I've been worried about you." Then I'd stop talking, subtly or not so subtly inviting him to start talking. Open up a bit. Ok, so he's not talking. He's gonna make me say more . . . "Well, I'm concerned you haven't been doing so well. What's been going on? If you don' t mind my asking." Now, because this is a conversation, not a clinical interview, don't forget to participate--hold up your end of the conversation. Personal self disclosure invites further disclosure in conversation, so "relate" to what your friend is telling you by sharing similar experience. I think you can take it from there. And I hope that is, somehow, of help to you.