How to deal with my insecure girlfriend?
It's not the insecurity that bothers me it's how she goes about dealing with it. Every time I follow a new girl on instagram she'll be like oh you never listen to me you just keep hurting me etc etc. I've also had to stop liking other girls pictures, talk to my female friends. All so she will be happy. But there's always something else which she gets insecure about. And I end up getting mad because I'll say well you talk to other guys, follow other guys and all that **** so it's just hypocritical. To which she'll reply well that's different because... It just annoys me how it's her insecurities and She's taking them out on me , I don't want to break up I really do love her so how can I deal with this.
How do I reassure an insecure boyfriend?
Actually i kinda have to same problem. Only that i am almost 3 years into my relationship. At the beginning of the relationship, i was the one who was always worrying and getting jealous when he was around other girls, but now the table has turned. It is because i meet a lot of 'guys' at work then he meets 'girls' at work. I totally agree with you, in that you really love him and you know that he loves you and I would never do anything to hurt my boyfriend because i'm just not that type of person, but he gets really insecure because his ex cheated on him in the past. Sometimes when i'm chatting to my girl friends on msn, he'll ask who i'm chatting to and sometimes he'll check my past messages to see if i've been chatting to guys. I understand that it can be really annoying because it is!! I think you need to keep reassuring him that he's the only one you love and you have to keep on hammering it in. I guess if you think he's worth all the effort then in the long run - you guys will be fine! good luck!
How do I stop being insecure when my best friend develops a huge circle of friends and spends little time with me and replies late to messages? She still treats me more than a best friend and tells that I'm more important than the others.
When it comes to close friends and best friends, would you want them to be happy in life and succeed or the opposite? The answer is happy and succeed right?I see exactly where you are coming from.If she is your good friend, you should be happy that she is meeting people or growing as a person. If you get insecure or upset and create drama, all that will do is break up your friendship. I have seen it happen.It is a good thing if she is telling you that you are more important than others. Same with the fact that she treats you better. She is actually showing a lot of respect and you should be happy. Basically she is making up for the fact that she gives you less attention. It's kinda hard to be insecure about it do you see?
My friend is very insecure and will feel hurt by the any perceived slight. I know it is important to respect others feelings, but I'm tired of indulging her unreasonable demands. How do I protect myself without turning into the bad guy?
“It is important to respect others feelings”, goes two ways. You have to respect your friends feelings, but she has to respect yours to !!!The answer to your question is very simple. Be as brutal as she is. When she is less brutal, you become less brutal. When she is more brutal as she should, you become more brutal as you should.Ignore her feelings as long as she ignores yours. If her feelings are hurt that easy, she should treat you better.I had (!) a friend. I have gone over to his house to help him on more than many (!) occasions with renovating his house. We bove have vacation at the same time. I will renovate my house. I did not espect his help. He knew that I had no time, because of renovationwork. He phones me with the request to drive his new bought caravan to a camping, because his driverslicence is not yet allowing that he drives. That will take two days. A day to drive his caravan to the camping and a day to bring it back to his house. He did not even ask me about my progress, let alone offering help. Zero interest in my renovation. My answer was simple: “No way !! 100% no way !!” I have not taken the time to explain a second time that I had no time because of the work and timelimits. He has lost a friend, I did not.That is the way you make people with no respect for your beeing, need to be treated to make them respect you in the future.
I’ve become really insecure and possessive when my girlfriend talks to other men or goes out to meet them. I trust her and know she won’t betray me. The problem is with me. How do I stop being insecure and possessive with my girlfriend?
Hi Rohan! Firstly I appreciate the honesty with which you've accepted the weakness in your behaviour. (Few guys do that). Your problem is genuine it happens with a lot of people (trust me even girls are very possessive about their girlfriends). The good thing is you want to rectify.Now, coming to the solution. The only way you can overcome this problem is to let go of this sick possessive idea from your mind. And you can do it if you try. At first, look at the bigger picture. You trust her and you know she's not going to betray you. Don't bother yourself if she talks to other guys as long as she's being loyal to you.Secondly, look for reality. Do you really think its possible for her not to make friends with any guys around. In today's date its just not possible. Even you must be having female friends, how do you expect her not making friends with any guys?Thirdly, try to control your mind. The moment you start feeling insecure tell yourself its a mistaken idea. Try to relax yourself and take it casually. Each time try to get a little better. Confess to her that you are letting go of your fault slowly. Tell her again and again that you trust her and are trying your best. Ask her to appreciate you in this. It will really help.And lastly, value her. You already told you guys had had good fight over this issue and still you're together. It means she must have endured various blames knowing the fault is entirely yours. I personally say this, its hard to find such level- headed girls these days. If you guys have good tuning, do not waste this relation. I hope you don't want to lose her just for a sick idea.There is a fine line between protective and insecure. Try not to cross it. If you need any futher help feel free to talk.Good luck. :)
Why does it hurt so bad when your friends hang out without you?
Sometimes it can be hard to put a finger on the exact feeling. Is it abandonment? Worthlessness? Frustration? There can be a variety of causes, but it’s no surprise that it hurts.I remember overhearing bits and pieces about some sort of hangout being planned by my friends. Unassertive introvert that I am, I kept waiting for someone to ask me, but nobody did. The hangout came and went while I sat on the side just hearing about it.Even though it was a small thing on the surface, it brought out some of my deeper insecurities. Did my friends really care about me at all? Was I just some sort of hanger-on, a grudgingly accepted guest into the group? I didn’t really talk that much, anyways, or add anything to the group that I could see. Maybe they never wanted me around at all, they just were too polite to say it. I knew these thoughts were irrational, but they still hurt.I have a very strong sense of loyalty, and sometimes I have to remind myself that not everyone shares that. Just because my friends hang out without me sometimes doesn’t mean that they don’t like me, or that they don’t want to be around me. It just means that they want to hang out, and it’s all right if not everyone’s there.When your friends hang out without you, it’s easy to feel like you’ve just slipped through the cracks, like you’re not important to them, and that can hurt a lot. Maybe your friends need a reminder that this kind of thing matters to you, or maybe you just need to find reassurance that you truly do matter to them. In the meanwhile, remember that your friends are likely to think differently than you do, and that they more likely than not would consider you to be an improvement to any hangout.
My girlfriend is really insecure, thinks i will leave her?
there's a difference between being in love and being possessive; find out what she is; about you that is. there is nothing worse than getting involved with a possessive woman.
My friend didn't choose me as a bridesmaid, i feel hurt...should I not attend the wedding?
Obviously I'm less important to her then I thought. I don't want to feel like a loose tool. I thought we had a bond. Clearly I was wrong. I don't even feel like speaking to her. I'm that hurt
Ok so I'm kind of an introvert person and I have this best friend of mine. She is very caring and stuff and I like her but I get insecure.?
ok so I'm kind of an introvert person and I have this best friend of mine. She is very caring and stuff and I like her a lot but whenever I see her getting close to some other common friend of ours, I get jealous. Not that I don't want to have other friends or that I just want her to tell me all the stuff so I don't look like a goof when the issue comes up. It hurts me a lot. but then I feel like I'm being clingy or sth because it's always me who gets insecure. so what should I do so that she remains my bff and also I don't get jealous.
Bestfriend material?
my bestfriend and i have been friends for about 3 years now. we've gotten in fights before, just like all the other friendships out there, but shes been acting differently lately. - she always laughs at my insecurities. - i asked her if i should get my hair trimmed, (cause its long) and she told me to cut it all off. but she knows how long it took to grow my hair out - i go tanning, and she always says "when you get older and have wrinkly old leather skin, ill be laughing." just cause shes not aloud to go tanning. - i get my hair dyed sometimes, she always says "your hair is gonna fry, and fall out. then you wont look so pretty huh?" - she ALWAYS takes advantage of me. like if i let her borrow money, or a shirt, ill never get it back! - she theatens to tell her mom stuff that we've done that we shouldnt have...(like smoking..etc.) *underage. - she talks about me behind my back sometimes, and i catch her. she says shes just kidding. does this sound like a bestfriend to you?