Would guys ever want to just cuddle with a female friend they were close to?
It depends on the guy and on the situation and your relationship.But as a general rule applying to me, no.I’ve done this a few times. It is uncomfortable to me on a deep level. I want sex, I enjoy sex, I have a difficult time understanding why someone who I find attractive, and who likes me, would not want to have sex with me.I like to cuddle, I spend a lot of time doing it… with my sex partners. Even if we aren’t having sex today, for whatever reason, that’s fine, we’ve done it before, we’ll do it again, and I’m comfortable with that, and I generally know why we’re not doing that just now.None of those things apply to a “just friends” partner, and I am acutely aware of that the entire time. I’m not going to be relaxed, or comfortable, or happy, although I can of course fake all of the above.I have many female friends, I always have. We do not flirt or touch or cuddle, and we hug only if they are the sort who hug everyone and I simply put up with it.I also have some male friends. Similarly, we do not flirt, touch, cuddle, and any hugging is again kept to a minimum and is uncomfortable for me.Female sex partners on the other hand, get all of the above, any time, I am completely relaxed about that and fully enjoy it.That is, I repeat, just about me. Humans all differ from each other, and you cannot really generalize about “guys” any more than you can about “girls” or “blondes” or “eskimoes” etc.If it helps, I’ll add that I’m on the autism spectrum and my reaction here could even be way outside the mainstream. But I think it’s more common than you might imagine… and I think you might be imagining that your friend is like me in this regard.
Why does my friend always hug me for?
My friend, who happens to be a girl, always feels the need to hug me hello, goodbye, or when she feels happy/comfortable. Some days she hug tackles me to the ground out of nowhere and just cuddles me warmly. People stare. Kinda embarrassing. Other times she purposely falls asleep on me like I'm a human pillow. She does it to other friends, but mostly to me a lot because we've always been real friends. On top of it all she's a eccentric and goofy, but sweet girl. I don't mind it, just weird and expecting. Are some girls just really affectionate goofballs? In the end she gets a laugh out of it and enjoys the closeness. I'm a guy btw and 18.
In love with same sex friend! Really painful! ;'( Help?
I think I'm in love with my same sex best. I have realised it since summer. She has a boyfriend and I get very jealous sometimes. I am not showing it, I keep it for myself. When we are together we hug each other, tell our jokes, speak for hours on msn, when we sleep together cuddle etc. We have said I love you, many times. I know that a piece of her, feels the same thing as I feel for her. When she is not ok, I'll always be there for her, I will never leave her alone! We hug each other, all the time, in to school, home, everywhere. I love her very much! But, I don't know what to do! I could do anything for her. I get jealous when she does thing with other, and ignore me sometimes. And she asked me if I got jealous for what she done. We are together many hours, but I wish she feels the same things about me, I know she loves me, even if she is not telling me that often. But I don't know what to do! It's the first time I feel like this! Please, help me! It's too difficult for me to say it
What are the differences between friendly cuddling and romantic cuddling?
I love this question; it's innocently sweet.Generally it depends on the friend or lover and what they prefer, as well as what's comfortable for you - and that is true whether the cuddling is friendly or romantic. Just pay attention to each other.FriendlyIf you're spooning and you're the big spoon, you can almost always put your bottom arm under your head, and the top arm can rest on your leg or your friend's leg. If they're comfortable with it, you can wrap your arm around them and keep your hand in the stomach area. Unless your friend guides you, your paws should stay on top of clothes at all times.If your friend guides your hands under their clothes, be sure to let them show you where they want your hands, and don't wander. And let them know if it makes you uncomfortable.If you're facing them, again, arms around with hands resting on their back is generally fine.Oh, and guys... if something comes up, and it sometimes happens, don't worry about it. It's a natural phenomenon. If you don't pay it too much attention, generally neither will your friend. RomanticSpooning: Arm draped over them and hand on stomach is best to start. You can also rest your hand on the front of their shoulder so that your arm crosses their chest, but be mindful of their wishes. From there, just pay attention to each other and you'll get the gist.Facing: Same as friendly, but wander mindfully.Cuddling in GeneralHonestly, the only difference between romantic and friendly cuddling is whatever you and your cuddling partner are comfortable with. There are groups these days of people who just want the comfort of being held closely or holding someone close, and then there are friends who like that same comfort; there are friends who enjoy a little more play, and there are friends who are comfortable with everything. In the same vein, you'll have lovers who sometimes just want that feeling of closeness , lovers who sometimes want to play a little, and lovers who sometimes want to be much more intimate.So cuddling is cuddling, and it's less about the type of relationship you have and more about why the two of you want to cuddle right now.
I'm in love with my best friend but we're both girls?
I'm 13 so ya I know I'm young and people are gonna say I don't know what love is, but I want to know if my bestfriend likes me back. We hang out a lot and hug eachother a lot and sometimes a kiss on the cheek. We watch movies and either I'm leaning in her shoulder or she's leaning on mine. She also puts her legs on top of mine. But just on the couch we'll lean on eachother and lay across eachother but I think I have a crush on her. I felt this for another girl when I was REALLY young, like in 1st grade, and a boy in 3rd grade. I wonder if she likes me though. Like when we touch, I get some weird feeling and It feels good. Here's the questions: 1) Does she like me? 2)How do I tell her I might like her 3) when do I tell her? Please answer them all! Thanks Oh and whenever we sleep over at my house she sleeps in the same bed as me and we also kinda cuddle like not in the bed but you know, just hanging out She's also always telling me that we don't know what we are yet, (bi, lesbian, straight) since we're young. I don't think I should try kissing on the lips yet though and I really want to tell her and not push her away. She said shed accept me no matter what, however.and she also sleeps with me even in a group sleepover & she treats me different than anyone else. She doesnt touch anyone else she only hugs me and im kinda her only friend. I think she might like me what about you? Today in school at lunch I was giving examples of stuff like saying what if I was... And I mentioned a few things until I came to "what if I was bi?" And she said, "I wouldn't care, I'd accept you no matter what" and she also grabbed onto my arm in class yesterday because I asked her something and was going back to sit down and she's like "STAYYY" I know that's a best friend thing, but that's not what she's like. Id always ask her if she liked another friend of ours, but she made it clear that she Didnt. Joking, i called her a "homophobe" and she said, "no, its just that would be disgusting to be with (insert name here)" which i think shes hinting me there. But today she kissed my hand and I know its not just a bff thing I know it. NO HATE
My best friend holds my hand, cuddles with me, and hugs me a lot but she puzzles me. help? ? more suggestions?
I think my best friend might like me. when she's around me she hugs me a lot and says im cute and calls me baby. When ever we have sleepovers or just watch a movie she always cuddles with me and even holds my hand. yesterday she hugged me and told me to hold her forever and then she made it seem like she was joking. she always makes jokes like that. i dont know what to do because i think i might have feelings for her too but i dont want to freak her out if she doesnt because she my best friend and i dont want to lose her. she does all of those things but then when shes around guys shes like this whole other person or sees a hot guys on tv or whatever. it really throws me off and makes me feel like all of those signs dont mean anything or thats just the way she is even though ive never seen act the way she is with me with anyone else. i dont know what to think or what to do. can someone please help?
My straight friend really likes to cuddle me?
so, theres this girl that i've worked with for about a year. we only started hanging out about three months ago, and since then we've been pretty close. i'm pretty sure shes straight, even though one of the first secrets shes told me about herself was that shes made out with girls, and she had a crush on a girl a few years ago. but right now, she has a crush on a guy that we work with that makes me super jealous :l but at the same time, shes joked around with me about how shed go gay for me and asked if i was asking her out. she always brushes against me and stares at me, but i think she does that with other people. but more recently, two nights ago we were watching movies at a friends house and she was nonstop cuddling me. first she had her legs over me while playing video games and kept play pushing me when i would beat her in the game, then she laid her head on my lap, then she laid on top of me with her hand under mine, then she put her arms around my neck and just cuddled me with my head against hers until my friend noticed and came over and hugged us, then she stopped. then the next night, (last night) we watched movies and she laid her legs on me the whole time and moved me closer so my head rested on her arm, put her arm around my neck for a minute. at one point her arms were crossed and it felt like she was stroking my arm with her finger but i wasnt sure. then we finally got up and i laid on the couch and her on the floor, and i told her i didnt wanna lay alone and she said i was more than welcome to lay down there with her. we eventually switched spots when she tickled my way off the couch, then had me scratch her back, and she draped her arm onto the floor over me and asked me to scratch/stroke her arm til she fell asleep (i fell asleep too). at one point that night my friend tried to kinda cuddle her and she was like, "i only cuddle boys and her." pointing to me. what should i think? what do you all think? its really confusing!
My wife is pregnant and she always wants to cuddle and she doesn let me go out with friends. ?
We are 22 years old and she is pregnant. It was a planned pregnancy. Latley all she wants to do is cuddle. Everyday when i come back from work at 3 she tells me to go on the couch or bed with her after i shower and she just likes to cuddle for hours and then sometimes we go on walks. But now she doesnt let me go hang out with people other than herself an her bestfiend. I really want to go out but i dont want to upset her because i love her so much and last time i tried going out she cried. What should i do
My boyfriend cuddles with me to much.....?
You are not well-matched. You are 14, find another boy friend. He needs somebody who is more of an earth-mother.. One of you will always be dissatisfied. You say, "It isn't you, it's me. Some people talk too much, some people are too tight with money, you need to find someone who is more suited to you when it comes to cuddling. Goodbye, Steve. Can we just be friends?"