My Friend Is Getting Annoying. Help

My friend is being so annoying. What should I do?

First, relax! These things happen all the time and going in annoyed won't help.So, the aim is to clarify the situation with her and let them know how you are feeling, without it blowing up into an unnecessary argument. To do this, I suggest these steps:Identify clearly what is annoying you. Is it what your friend is saying? Or what she does? Pinpoint it as much as you can. It may not neccesarily be because of her actions, but how you perceive it.Think in your friends shoes. Are they really doing something wrong?Formulate a reasonable solution, something that makes sense. For example, if you dont enjoy their loud music at night, set a time for quiet hours. Telling her to be silent as a pindrop is NOT reasonable.Discuss with the friend, but go in as positive as you can. Remember the aim is to solve the annoying issue, not to fight. Be affirmative and more on the serious side, and listen to her as much as you can. Find a reasonable compromise. When you do, reward each other to positively reinforce this mutual understanding toward one other at solving an issue.Try as much as you can to understand why you find her behaviour annoying. Maybe its you, maybe its her. There are so many things we don't know, and its important to acknowledge that, so the best we can do is listen to each other and TRY understand. Remember the aim!!

My friend has anxiety, and it's really annoying. What can I do to help her?

Talk to them.Anxiety is different for different people and can manifest in many, many different ways. One of my friends has social anxiety, so she’s really nervous about talking to new people. Sometimes I offer to talk to people for her, like if we’re both lost and need to ask for directions or if we’re visiting a monument and need to ask someone to take our picture. To me, this doesn’t seem like a big deal, but for her it can trigger an anxiety attack.I can also recommend doing research, like if they have social anxiety or OCD (which is also an anxiety disorder) you can learn more about what they’re experiencing. But, the best way would be to ask them. Like I said, anxiety acts differently for different people. Some people can’t stand to be touched when they’re feeling anxious, and others need to hear some form of reassurance. The best way to know what’s good for your friend is to talk to them about what works best for them so you can be a good ally.Also, you might not want to tell them that their anxiety is “annoying” to their face. Anxiety can be very, very annoying. And to them, they are obviously very aware of their anxiety, and they can be anxious about feeling anxious (which is super, duper fun). Trying to be understanding and patient and realising that they’re experiencing things differently is a good first step.

How can I tell my best friend that she is annoying without hurting her feelings?

There's no need to tell her you find her annoying. That sounds like a personal attack. You said you like her very much, so it can't be all annoying to you (unless you're not being honest with yourself).There's nothing wrong in telling her that boy gossip doesn't interest you. If she finds it fascinating, she assumes you do too. I don't know if you've already tried changing the topic, though that can be exhausting too. What do you have in common?I understand if you find her to be clingy or taking up too much of your time. I accidentally made a fellow Kindergardener cry, because I wanted to change up who I was playing with. The teacher scolded me. I felt so guilty, but now at age 38, I realize that I had done nothing wrong. It's unfair for one person to monopolize all of your time. You decide who can be in your life and to what extent. The least painful is when things work out organically -- a gradual fade into a more comfortable frequency. Certain personalities may force you to be direct about it, though, and those are the personalities that are more likely to put you in the bind in the first place. It doesn't always end well. Other times, it's fine. "It's not you, it's me" works pretty well. You might have to explain how serious you are about your studies or that socializing in large doses exhausts you. It's perfectly fine to describe what your needs are. If the person you share them with doesn't respect that, it's their problem, not yours.Good luck!

How do I tell my friend politely that they are annoying?

This seems to be the other side of the coin of a question I just answered about being “brutally honest.”In my experience, friends like this are not intending to be malicious. While I agree with Sapphire Silver’s answer, I disagree vehemently with taking a “blunt” approach. On the contrary, you need to take considerable care and sensitivity when approaching her.If you do “love” her, as you state, and you want what’s best for not only yourself, and her, but also the relationship between you two, you will need to understand the consequences of how you approach her with this.The best approach I’ve ever known is to take things slowly in your approach. For example, a conversation might go like this:[In private, definitely not in public, and not when you are irritated or annoyed.]“[Friend], I need to talk to you about something really delicate.”Her: “Okaaaaay.”You: “It’s been hard to get up the courage to talk to you about this, because I don’t want to upset you.”At this point, she will likely be quite curious about what you have to say, but the “entry price” to learning this is that she will have to not get emotionally riled up about hearing bad news.Assuming she agrees in some fashion (e.g., “You can tell me anything,” or “I promise I won’t hold anything against you,” etc.), then you can tell her that she has some habits that make it difficult to enjoy having her around.I’d avoid words like “irritating,” “annoying,” or “inappropriate” if at all possible. I’d also avoid naming specific instances or moments, which she will want to know about. Instead, try to focus on general behavior (interruptions, non-sequitur changes in conversation, topics of conversation that may not be of interest to those around her such as the singer, etc.). If you give her specifics, she is likely to try to defend those specific actions, rather than listen to the main point you are trying to make.Remember that the purpose of such a conversation is to preserve the relationship between you, even improve it. If that is not your goal, or your desire, then you can feel free to ignore this advice and be as “blunt’ as you wish - you’ll find that you will have no shortage of people who will gladly avoid you if that becomes your modus operandi.