How do I give better advice for my friend's breakup?
While it's extremely sweet and caring of you to want to help your friend, don't feel pressured to give "perfect" advice to her. (Because really there is no "perfect" advice, we all have different opinions about topics so our advice is really our opinion.) All you can do is help her the best way you can...don't feel like as though you have to give her something really really meaningful. Say what's in your heart because really that's the most meaningful advice. I've got a friend who was with her boyfriend for awhile and they're back together now but a few months ago they weren't and she felt really miserable. I just encouraged her because I didn't know very much about her boyfriend and I tried to do little things to make her feel good. I checked up on her to see how she was too. And I let her know if she wanted to talk she could call or text me anytime. I think your friend seems very hurt from the break up and maybe she is looking for a different kind of advice because she's having trouble accepting that her boyfriend isn't the person she thought he was. It probably isn't you and what you're saying, its just something going on with her. (Like my friend had other people telling her that she didn't need him and she knew that was true but I could tell she wasn't wanting to hear that and believe it in the beginning because she was so heartbroken.) While your friend is heartbroken I don't think that makes it OK for her to ignore you and go to you later on like nothing ever happened or miserable and expecting you to not wonder why she ignored you earlier. Don't feel like you have to put up with it. Just tell her how you feel and be like, "I feel like you blow me off some days for no reason and then later on you come to me. I don't know if I've said anything to make you mad?" Or something like that. See what she says. Give things time and eventually she'll realize that what she's doing is wrong and she shouldn't push you away and then go to you when everybody is gone. Hope I helped!!
My best friend is going through a break up. How do I help her through it?
Here are 5 stages of grief that people experience post any tragedy (Not necessarily all of them, and not in any particular order):DenialAngerBargainDepressionAcceptanceIt is normal for your friend to grieve over the cessation of her romantic relationship. I ain't no expert, but here's what I did last month when my best friend went through the emotional turnmoil of separation from her beloved.Here is what you should Do :Be near. I invited her over to my place for the weekend. Longing and solitude is a bad combination.Let her begin the talk. You don't know what stage of grief she is in currently so please don't compel her to “Talk about it”. That said, let her know you're near when she does feel like talking.Provide water and tissue box. Even when you might not feel like providing a crying shoulder, it is basic courtesy to provide water and tissues to a crying person.Comfort her. My friend punched me really bad when I offered to please her like her guy would, so wear your guard. No you don't have to cuddle. Just order her favorite food and drinks. Most people don't have the power to say NO to scrumptious Biriyani.Don't fake empathy. If a friend who's been single all her life says “I know how it feels terrible” the person would have no choice but to roll their eyes in despise. Be genuine, at all times.Watch movies. I did so becuase I could no longer hear her sob. Play some animated, light-hearted flick. Restrict watching romantic films, you know why.Here is what you should NOT DO:Don't hover around. A person going through a heartback needs alone time to contemplate the changes ahead. Don't force your company.Don't bring up the “guy” in conversation. If she initiates the talk, do be the good friend that you are and lend an ear.Don't say negative things about her ex to comfort her. Eliminate these phrases:“I always knew he was a Casanova”“It's better that it ended sooner”“We all knew that this day would come”The thing is she already knows all shortcomings of her ex way better than you ever will and still chose to love him irrevocably. Now to be polite, she might agree with you, but it would make her sad deep down.4. Don't stop her from stalking his profiles 53rd time, even though she says it the last. People always do what they want to do. You can't stop anyone.Go on, help your friend. Be the friend you'd like to be by your side during tough times.Source :Stage of Grief Models: Kubler-RossBunch of friends with tragic life experiences.
I'm having a rough night and I need a friend?
My dad was found dead today and I found out my boyfriend has been sharing my nudes with everyone and laughing at me,cheated on me,and instead of him breaking up with me he had his friend message me to break up with me right after my dad was taken for an autopsy.My heart hurts.
My friend is going through a bad breakup and has lost all her confidence. How can I help her?
First of all, explain her about destiny and make her believe that "Everything happens for good and for some reason".Losing of confidence while breakup happens only when you start loving other person more than yourself. First love yourself, then rest of the world will fall in line. Every problem can be handled in easy way only by thinking much more bigger problems faced by other people we are surrounded with. Explain your friend about value of life, how many wonders she can do, by coming out of that incident. Memorize her the situations, how funny and great the things are before she committed to this relation. Most important, the pain of suffering will reduce only when we accept the things as the way they are. There is no point in ignoring the things as they never happened. Ask you friend to think in this way-I had a break up....So what?...I got an excellent lesson which can help me in making much more beautiful relations in future.I had worst relation...So what?..Next time I will be careful before my commitment to any relation.“When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” ― Paulo Coelho, The AlchemistGood luck!!..
How can I cheer up my friend who had a recent breakup?
More likely than not, your friend is feeling all sorts of ways and most of the emotions s/he feels will be negative. Breakups are tough and as old as the saying goes, time heals everything.In the meantime, just be supportive of your friend as best as possible. Try not to impose your will too much onto your friend. Everyone copes with breakups differently and what you might find uplifting and fun might not help your friend.Being respectful of your friend’s personal space and privacy is important, but so is making sure they are not turning to self-destructive behavior. Breakups cause us to sometimes think irrational and do things we wouldn’t necessarily do otherwise, so being vigilant to your friend is as important as finding ways to help them regain happiness.Try to encourage them to take baby steps towards feeling better. Go out for a nice meal. Watch a movie. Let them vent. Let them cry. If they don’t want to talk, don’t force them. Just be a consistent reminder that you are readily available to be there for them during this tough time. With time, your friend will find balance, peace, and some kind of normalcy post-breakup.Chances are, your friend will appreciate you just being there the most. Remember that consistent reaffirmations of support and love sometimes outweigh constant reminders. Be steadfast in your support and loyalty and I am sure when your friend is ready to smile, you’ll be right by their side to smile back.:)
Dating and Relationships: A good friend had a tough time of unsuccessful marriage and a divorce 2 years ago. She also broke up with me a year ago and asked a mutual friend not to talk with her ever. I don't know what made her do that. I do see her getting frustrated every day. Is there any advice on what I should do ?
There is a lot of background information lacking in the question. How old was she when she got married and how long did it last? Any kids? And how long was your relationship with her. What was it that you really liked about her when you first started dating? Do you want to go back to her? Is she having any financial issues, is there anything in her life that is causing her great trouble? If so, she needs to eliminate it out of her life. This is not about you, it's about her. It's not that you're not offering her something she wants but she might be missing something in life that she hasn't been able to achieve. I don't think you did anything wrong, she's the one who has to think about what she is doing wrong. I hope I'm not over stepping the boundaries but it's possible she regrets leaving her first husband and has unresolved feelings or issues and doesn't see it working out with anyone else. I hope I didn't over analyse it. Update on how it goes.
My friend is depressed over his breakup what can I do to help?
Honestly not really. Just be by his side at all costs. It's something he will have to go through, he will most likely get super angry at you for nothing, just like a spaz at you. But don't take it personally. The only advice that I can say is, don't take anything personally from him right now, and talk to him on a regular basis, but not too much. Also, I need some help: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AsNa.u7hJDwrscBo1zSaOqPty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20110330005036AAqAUFa please answer!
Getting over a long-term relationship breakup. Advice?
I dated a guy for almost four years, from the end of high school until almost the end of college. We went to different universities, so much of our relationship was long-distance. We had a decent breakup and I understand that we don't feel ready for the next step: marriage. However, it has been really tough on me. We broke up almost 9 months ago and I don't feel like I have moved on much. Is this normal? He was my first serious relationship and love, and parts of me felt that he was the one I'd marry. Last weekend our mutual friend was married and seeing my ex at the wedding was really tough. I don't really know what I'm asking - maybe just looking for advice. I want to deal with this in a mature way, because I already found that trying to date other guys (no matter how attractive! ha) doesn't help - if anything, it just makes it worse.