How can i stop my friend from cutting herself?
i was talking to her about it and she doesnt care that she cuts herself she said its an addiction and she cant stop i really want her to stop but she wont listen to me
Help my girlfriend is hurting herself?
Okay, so I used to cut myself as well. All I wanted to know was that someone was there and that someone loved me. I was going through a really rough patch in my life and I got really depressed and the only one I wanted to be with was my boyfriend. Just let her know that you love her and tell someone you trust about this, just to get it off your chest. If you want to talk more about this, email me-bostonreds224@yahoo.com. I'm willing to talk, only because after I went through this my boyfriend went trough this and just like me, he just needed a friend.
My girlfriend said she's going to hurt herself. What should I do?
I’m sorry you’re in the position as there is no way to prepare for how you are supposed to handle something like this. In saying that here’s what handling things the wrong way numerous times has taught me which is this is not your responsibility. I’m not saying you should stop caring about her but you do need to immediately set some rigid boundaries with her. I hope she’s just crying for help or attention and not serious but you see my friend that’s not a risk you can take and it’s quite sick of her to even put this on your back instead of taking responsibility for her emotional well being. This is not ok.My advice would be to go talk with her ASAP and explain to her that you love her but that you’re not able to take the chance and have to live with her hurting herself and you knowing you could have stopped it. Tell her that the next time she says something similar to you you’re letting her know right now that you will call the authorities to come and help her as you obviously can’t. Set the expectations and then the tough part is you must follow through and stand firm otherwise her behavior will never stop. The truth is we teach others how to treat us so start treating yourself better and I believe you will in return start feeling better.
What do I do when I find out my friend cuts herself?
It’s nice to see that you want help your friend, more people like you please :-)Because she self-harm it doesn’t mean she is suicidal.I have self-harmed before and I wasn’t suicidal…I did it to get the pain away from my heart to my skin instead.It made me feel good, so I continued doing it.I didn’t wanted to kill myself, since leaving my family wasn’t something I wanted.Note: I’ve been suicidal once, because of depression.So my advice to you is; don’t tell her about your experience, not yet. Instead talk to her and ask her if she wants to talk to you about it or if you can help her in someway.You don’t know why she self-harms, so maybe it’s a start to ask if she wants to tell you. With luck she talks to you and then you can take it from there.She might be suicidal, however you need to be sure. If she is, then you need to tell someone who can take action.I don’t know how old she is, but if she’s under 18, then I would tell her parents. It can become very dangerous and she can become addicted to it, if she isn’t already.It’s very unhealthy.But before telling her parents, talk to her first and see if there is anything you can do to help her.Be there for her :-)
My best friend just told me she's been hurting herself. I just wish she'd trust me enough to tell me when she's not okay. I asked her why, she said "Don't worry." What should I do?
It depends if she’s hurting herself only emotionally or physically as well, like cutting or purging. But in both cases, you should approach the topic carefully, let her know you care about her and her well-being, and don’t try to fix her. Only she can fix her issues, because it’s within her own mind, but you can guide her to better understanding.If she’s hurting herself emotionally, just support her and help her think more optimistically and to motivate herself. Things that have helped me, for example, is making goals for myself throughout the day or changing up little things in my routine, to learn to enjoy the little victories.If she’s hurting herself physically also, then get her to seek other help besides just you alone.Also might be able to trust you enough to tell you, but she doesn’t want you or others to think she’s weaker or vulnerable when she’s not okay. She also might not want to sound like she’s complaining a lot, if she doesn’t “feel okay” a lot.
How do I break up with my girlfriend who might hurt herself?
That's a tough spot dude. Theres only two ways to break up with someone really, nip it in the bud right away or slowly distance yourself. Because you're afraid that she'll hurt herself, it's probably best to start distancing yourself so she expects it more. Encourage her to make new friends, join societies or take up a new sport etc. The more time she spends with other people, the better her other friendships will become. Start answering your phone less or be slower to text back, ignore some of the completely. She'll probably start trying more but eventually she'll get the point. Take the space you need. You guys are already kinda far apart so that shouldn't be too difficult. Don't plan stuff to do with her with specific dates and be vague. Now i'm not sure if you really want to break up with her or just want to break up with her because shese too attached. You can still stay with her but tell her to give you some space or as i said before just take it. Encouraging her to do other things will get her off your back a bit. Don't tell her to join a club all of a sudden but only if she shows interest in a certain hobby etc. next time you talk to her ask her about her other friends, get her to go watch some movies with them so she isn't as bored when your busy etc. Sometimes though, you kinda just need to break up with them and they will learn to deal with it. But if shese unstable as everyone else is suggesting, thread carefully.
I have a friend who cuts herself commonly. What do I say to her to get her to stop?
You don’t tell her to stop. Never tell her to stop. Because if you tell them to stop, and they have a moment of weakness and cut anyway, your expectations will add to their guilt.This is obviously easier said than done because I know someone who cuts and I have instinctively told them not to and after further reflection, I realized I shouldn’t.Instead talk to them. Find out what makes them cut without showing discust or fear or anything that might cause them to withdraw from the conversation. You don’t want them to feel ashamed.Then do your best to help them avoid the situations that make them want to cut. This could be a person, a place… almost anything.Any addiction or coping habit often has a trigger. When I sit down at my computer, I want to play games and drink a coke. If I want to avoid games or stop drinking coke, I have to avoid being at my computer because it is a trigger.Often avoiding the triggers are enough, so identify what those are. If you can keep them away from it long enough, eventually they may no longer crave it. Keep conversations and activities positive and try to avoid the drama that makes them cut in the first place, atleast until they are no longer cutting. Deal with one issue at a time.
I want to die but I don't want to hurt my friends?
I hate myself and my life just feels pointless, worthless and joyless. This has come on in the past year or so, but nothing's actually changed; I still have amazing friends and family, but I just can't get this weight from my shoulders. I can't bear to live anymore. I want to kill myself, and have a plan and a note ready ... the only thing stopping me is my parents and friends. They're really supportive, and they know I'm not coping well, but they don't know how close I am to just losing it. All my remaining energy/willpower goes into acting as happy as I can manage so I don't hurt them or disappoint them. I don't like getting help and I'd feel pathetic if I told them this. I just couldn't bear to hurt my mum by telling her, but I can't bear to keep on living like this. Even though their as supportive as ever, right now after reading that I'm feeling just like a burden and that they'd be better off without me, even though they'd be disappointed in the short term. I don't know what to do! I can't tell them, I don't want to hurt them by just killing myself and giving up, but I just want to be normal and be able to live without being plagued by self hatred and constant suicidal urges. Sorry if this is a bit rambly, it was really hard to write and I can't read over it. Do you think I need help?