How to deal with a possessive best friend?
Ok so my best friend (lets call her j) is kind of clingy. she's always with me and gets upset if she's not. But since September things have been getting worse. she's says I'm not allowed to talk about my friends around her, that I'm not allowed to hang out with certain people, and she gets mad when I'm "ignoring her" when I'm talking to someone else besides her. She is always asking where I am when I cannot answer her calls and she always glares at my other friends when I am talking to them. She's really stressing me out because she always wants me to be with her and I feel that she wants me to be perfect because she gets mad if I make any mistakes. Sorry that was kind of long, but I'm seriously stressed out. And talking to her face to face is not an option because she says I'm starting a fight and gets mad. Thanks :)
How to deal with a possessive friend?
So I'm kind of in a loop. I have a fake friend. She is possessive. In a way with people mostly. I've seen it many times actually. She gets close with them, is with them 24/7 and is "clingy". The reason why I don't like this is because she's doing it to my friends. So it distances me from them. My other friend just moved here a few weeks ago and Miss Possessive is being possessive. I get worried sometimes but then I remember I'm really good friends with my friend and know that nothing will come between us. But when she gets possessive she rests her head on their shoulder and gives hugs. Then if she really likes them she will poke them... and her pokes hurt, she seems to like um... abusing, people she "likes?". This happened between her and my BFF after knowing her for two days. She went through this with me when I was tiny I think. We've known eachother since birth. It was my birthday and she asked why she wasn't invited to my party. I told her it was full and we had no more room. Then she spoke more loudly, "Well I'm helping blah blah this afternoon so I can't come!" I was disturbed. So tomorrow I will be going to our weeklong camp with her and from my predictions we will be in the same cabin. How can I deal with her and should I confront her about her behavior?
How to deal with my possessive best friend?
are you sure you want to keep this friendship? i think it's gotten to the point where you have to say to her that she either chills or you can't be friends anymore a friendship is supposed to make you feel good and provide you with comfort and feelings of joy not suffocation
Why is he so possessive we are JUST friends?
So my friend who's a guy is extremely possessive of me. Like when we go out (as friends) I'm not like allowed to flirt or talk or anything with other guys or he gets weird. I've encouraged him to talk to girls and he gets defensive like "I wouldn't do that to you" but I respond saying it's okay and we are ONLY friends. He has told me he's attracted to me and all that but I don't see him in that way? Why won't he back off? I want to go out and talk to guys and stuff but I can't.
Why are some friends so possessive?
Depends on whether they have feelings for you or not.
How should I react to my friend being possessive?
Dear,Possessiveness, in most of the cases comes out of insecurities. People become possessive when they feel either they are less valued/ignored or they compare themselves with someone they feel is more important in ur life than them. Second chance of being possessive is out of their nature or past experiences where they valued someone a lot and didn't receive what expected.If it's because of nature and way too much, then it's not less than any sickness which takes a lot to be cured in simple words.However, you can't change this behavior overnight. First, understand that someone really values you so much hence possessive for you.Second, talk, try to understand the insecurities or expectations of that person causing the possessiveness. Make that person feel valued and taken care of. Make that person realize again & again that there is no comparison of that person with anyone else.Make that person feel emotionally safe & secure via prioritizing or communicating or giving more time. Giving more time, if possible is one of the best thing you can do.Try to create a boundry and stay nuetral. understand if things are getting toxic or going in a direction you don't want, then cut it off.But cut off in a way that person doesn't feel rejected because it's human nature that rejections most of the time are not accepted positively and retaliation happens from the other end.Behave smart & observe as much as you can :)Take care, LoveVinita
How to deal with possessive guy?
We aren't dating we never dated. I used to really really like him and I "think" we liked each other but I don't anymore because I like another guy now... But I feel a sense of guilt... because initially i was going to move to his state but I decided to go else where... so I told him about my plans because I just wanted to be his friend and he said too bad you aren't going to come here... then I said yea oh well... and he said yeah oh well, you never gave a sh!t about me anyway f!kk it... and then I said "well I did before" and he said "if you really loved me you wouldn't t have forgotten about me and leave me" and then I said it is called "I moved on" and than he said "ok then don't ever talk to me again and get over me" and then I said "I just wanted to be your friend" and he hasn't replied back yet what is that supposed to mean? i feel really bad now because i thought i said it as nice as possible
How do I deal with an overpossessive girl 'best friend'?
I have an over possessive girl “best friend”.What I do may not be helpful to you because since I am Introvert I almost have no friends beyond her with whom I talk as frequently…but I do at times talk to her about other girls for fun.You see,she is scare that you may stop giving her enough time if you start to spend time with someone else.She wants you to be protected at all times from the feeling of rejection and abandonment.So,the best thing to do is….talk to her openly about which nicks of her behavior you find to be overly possessive and enjoy the rest.Tell her honestly when you would like to enjoy the company of someone else and take her with you to meet new people .Let her judge along with you what and when a person is good for you.Things will move on….Additional Warning : It may seem easy with an extrovert but if she is an introvert you are possibly going to be in deep trouble if you hide why you see her worthy to be a part of everything.