I'm jealous of my girlfriend's guy friends. Is this wrong?
Just a year back I went through almost the same situation as you are in. My girlfriend was talking to this guy who I assumed was her friend since they went to the same school and she told me it was just the new guy at her class they were just friends. Long story short I spoke to the guy and amazingly he was not the "new kid" and was infact my girl's ex who was trying to get her to break up with me. Even though I was really mad at her and wanted to break up with her for lying to me but I didn't because I knew she choose me over him anyday. Fast forward 6 months and we were still together and everything was fine except we didnt see each other as much since we both had finals and I had to focus on soccer. She was talking to 2 guys and just like last time had me convinced that they were just friends like "brothers". But I had my doubts and one day I pretended that I found out something about her from somebody she was good friends with. I told her that I knew she was cheating on me (though I knee absolutly nothing). She obviously denied ever cheating/lying to me so I was like fine then let me see your phone and after telling her I would break up with her if she didn't, she gave it to me. Ha and surprise surprise there was messages from one of the guys i shr talked aboout and the message said how beautiful and "perfect" she is anf hrle was asking her to come over. Also when I checked her snapchat story there was the guy, laying on a couch together with my girl at getty party (get together). To this day that picture is pinned in my head. As much as I loved her and STILL wanted to be with her, I knew what bad for me and I broke up with her. Moral of the story: Your girl is always going to end up with the people they told you not to worry about. I learned the hard way. If she doesn't understand how much you love her and won't stop something that you're uncomfortable with then break up with her bro because she don't deserve you. Just tell her that "I'm gold but you want silver and that's fine go get your silver."
My girlfriend was taken advantage of - should I be there for her or be angry at her?
My girlfriend of 1.5 years recently went on an annual get away with a group of 20 or so colleagues for a 4 day weekend in Malibu, California. Part of the trip was a party with open bar at their resort. With her work friends she was having fun and drinking a lot. One of the guys she works with is a total player, who had hooked up with several women at work and she had told me he always was coming on to her. He started dancing with her friends then her and at some point he got her to talk with him at a table. He kept ordering her cocktails and getting her more and more drunk. Eventually he walked her back to her room, and kept reassuring her nothing would happen...but sure enough he kept touching and kissing her. When she said no he kept telling her he wouldnt go any farther, but as soon as she let her guard down he would push a bit further. Eventually she started making out with him and after a while he took off her clothes and they had sex. When I first heard this I was shocked and furious, but my girlfriend was also very upset about it. She says she barely remembers how it happened, she was so drunk. I asked her if he forced her in any way, but she says she doesnt remember being physically forced, just being pressured into it and being so out of it she eventually gave in. I have decided to support her and be there for her, because of how bad she feels and her honesty, but in the back of my mind I am also upset with her for not seeing it coming. We have talked a lot about what happened, and she has been very open and remorseful. What bothers me most however, is that he took advantage of her most of the night, having sex with her several times...I wonder why she couldn't sober up enough at some point to realize her mistake and stop? Now she is back at work and the guy is very nonchalant like nothing happened...I guess that is for the best. So anyway, should I talk about it with her more, or try to forget it? Specifically I want to know if he was good and if she enjoyed it (since they did it several times) but I know these questions are not supportive so I have refrained from asking them. She knows I am upset, but she is also very relieved I am there for her, and there to listen. so should I put my jealousy aside?? Thanks for answering...
Is it okay for my girlfriend to go out to lunch with male co-worker alone?
When I found out they went out I played it cool because I didn't want to come off as jealous or suspicious. Would it be wrong for me to bring it up again? I just want to know how often it's happening (I feel if it's happening every day or even every week just the two of them it's kind of getting too close) and tell her that I'd be me comfortable with her going in groups - not alone.