Should you help your friends?
People will value you based on how much you value yourself.Being nice to people is good. Helping and co operating with others forms the core of our social structure. We as species have evolved and progressed so much because of our ability to work in groups. However, survival in the tough social environment made by humans is an individual affair. Living in cities, we don't have to fear about getting eaten by a tiger, but the competition among members of society for resources has to be handled by individuals only. You will have to compete. for food. for money. for companionship.When you are sacrificing your good for others, you are sending out a signal that you are less important than others in the society. You dont consider yourself to be important enough even for yourself. When you are sending the signals that you are not capable enough or important enough, the society will start to see you that particular way and thus will be less willing to spend its resources on you. Its a negative feed back loop thus. You give up your claim of scant resources first, and if you again claim up after sometimes, you will be pushed back out of the line. People will call you selfish. double standard.The solution you ask? Place yourself first. You are the priority.This sounds like being selfish. But it is really not. You are only claiming on what should be rightfully yours. Believe in yourself. Believe that you are also special and deserving. This is the self confidence the whole world talks about. Selffishness is getting everything for yourself. The right thing is equal distribution of resources. You do it for other. Give yourself the same importance here. Also, do not expect anything good to come out of doing good for others. When you do good, do it for yourself. Because it makes you feel good. Doing good for fame or recognition generates expectations which only leads to hurt. One good way to get good returns on good deeds is by doing good things to many people. Invest in a large number of people rather than a small group of close friends. Expand your circle. There are many good people out there who are happy to help. But you have to find them and than invest in them. The only way to this is by going out and meeting new people, and taking risk of helping them. There are only two things that can happen. Either they will reject you and betray you. Or you will get life long friends. No gains without pain you see.phhhh long answer! Hope this helps!
My friends are such cowards i need help?
It's a really enviable characteristic to be able to deal with those tough situations like you do. But every time that a problem arises and your friends runaway, taking care of it yourself just reinforces their behavior. They learn that you'll take care of the situation and they won't have to. An obvious problem arises: if you don't deal with the situation and they don't either, then bigger problems can develop. First, if you haven't already, you should talk to your roommates about how it's not fair for you to have to deal with all of these awful situations and that they aren't doing their fair share. If they persist in running away from every problem, then you should try offering a reward for taking care of situations. Like in the party situation, you could have told your roommates that you'll buy drinks (or whatever) for whoever gets them out of the house. While it's not ideal to bribe them for something they should already be doing, it may help, and each time they take action, it'll become easier for them to take action again next time. If none of that works and you feel strongly about this issue, then I suggest resorting to threatening to move out (but only if you really mean it). You deserve to have roommates that will shoulder some of the load.
I need help with a friend who is using tarrot cards?
My friend, I understand. I didn't realize most people thought Tarot cards and Ouiji boards were harmless. They are not. They are introductions to the occult. Didn't realize people didn't know that. I see your concern. Your friend is obviously searching for answers, as anyone without Jesus would. I would tell your friend in a gentle way that you are concerned about it, and how you feel. That way you have done all you can, and the rest is up to your friend. :)
I think my friend needs help ?
show her the grerwsome facts about annorexia, periods stopping,going blind,not being able to sit,wounds not healing up,brittle bones and this should show her why its not good to be underweight. Also there are bars you give to underweight african children and these can get you up a couple of pounds so try make her eat them
I am always there for my friends but when I need help, I realize there is no one around. Why is that?
When your friends talk about their problems, you are willing to help. You offer your help. When you are having problems, you may mention them, and no one offers to help. You may not ask for help. Most people don't think to offer help. Most people also don't think to ask for help. When people ask for help, it's ok to say no if you don't want to help. When you ask for help, understand that no one is obligated to say yes. When you help people, you are internally keeping score. You are thinking that this person now owes you. And when you need help you expect them to repay the debt. The fact is, you offer to help with no strings attached. The fact that you do have strings attached and you don't mention it makes you a really untrustworthy person. I would not want you as a friend.
I need help. I’m trying to do well in school but my friends are terrible influences. What do I do?
Hello. I live in the UK. In the UK I have really important exams called GCSEs that are coming up in 69 days. Im passionate about my education and I do want the absolute best grades possible. But my friends are horrific influences. I really want to help them because I love them and these qualifications stay with us forever but they’re not listening to me. For example, my friend got a 2 in her exam (an F). I will NEVER judge someone for getting bad grades, or has happened to me before, the only thing that maters is if you identify your mistakes and learn from them. Instead of talking about how she’s can improve, she literally was talking to the boys in or class about how much boys should masturbate in a week and about sex! And they also spend so much time talking about sex and they make really uncomfortable comments towards me. They were talking about BDSM in school and talking about whether they’re Dom’s or sub, and they said to me “ I bet (insert my name) is into BDSM, it’s those that you least expect.” And that made me feel very uncomfortable. Our exams are in 69 days! We have 11 subjects that we need to master in order to get top grades. They don’t want me to study or to improve in school, they just want me to look pretty and get a boyfriend and talk to boys. One of them stops me from studying, they’re always like “why are you spending so much time on your homework” and “why are you actually listening in class” and “why are you going to study” it’s really stressful.
I want a good friend. I need someone who can help me grow. I want a friend who acts as my teacher me as well. Does such person exist?
Well, there is a difference between a GOOD friend and a TRUE friend. I guess, we all need at least one TRUE friend. And to answer your question, yes, you can definitely find one.The TRUEst friend you will ever get is LIFE itself. You just have to keep yourself open towards failures and learn from it and fight back. It teaches you the best things in your life, just you have to stay positive and be open-minded.So even if you are all alone, don’t worry, LIFE will guide you through your good and tough times ~ Just keep holding on…
My Friend Cuts Herself.....?
You have to help your friend. If her mom isn't going to do anything, then ask your friend to talk to the school counselor or another trusted teacher. It sounds like she has some deep rooted issues that stem from more than just her boyfriend. Your friend needs professional help and it may be up to you to make sure she gets it. It won't be easy, but you'll be glad you did. Good luck.
My friend is losing his mind help!!!?
ever since my friend's girlfriend dumped him he hasnt been the same since i think he's going insane he laughs at random moments now he speaks gibberish ,sometimes he shakes his head back and forth really fast for no reason, and he calls himself a neety beety the **** is a neety beety??? what should i do to help my friend oh and he repeats things over and over again that i allready know