My bestfriend has been being so rude to me!?
I dont even kno if shes my friend anymore. Its the three of us and So one day i just start texting her and she just picks out every little thing about what i text her! And my second fiend just follows her around and agrees to every lil thing she says. So she was talking about going to church somewhere and she calls it Mass? Idk what that is and i said "massetchusets?!" (Spelling) And then she goes wow u really thought i was go there? She says do u even kno what mass is and my second friend says lol seriously and copys every comment and says ikr ikr! But anyways thy act like im not even there shes like "wow just wow" "whatever i gtg" or stuff like "thats dumb and go text my other friend behind my back and ik they r talking about me! But then i say u kno i was joking rite? And she says doesnt seem like u were! She responds "do u kno what it is" i say idk so? My second fiend says wow its church duh! And my friend goes "exactly u dont kno!" Shes like whatever bye and my second friend says bye! What did i do! Theres three other little things she does to me in the same day over text message! We've been bffs since 1st grade but now idk im just sick of it! Shes just been so rude and mean to me lately!!! Please help i want to be her friend still but i want her to respect me and stop! Thanx!!
Is my friend JUST SHY or RUDE?
You have to explain to those others that this friend suffers from social phobia.. so she is not being rude.. shy people can sometimes be mistaken not for being rude but for being arrongant.. I was very shy.. without suffering from social phobia when I was young.. I just didn't talk to guys.. because I was too shy.. and they thought it was arrogance... it was the opposite.. I felt tongue tied.. most of the time it's shyness and to be rude one has to make crude remarks but one can come across as being a bit arrogant when one is shy .. because some ignorant people think...''she seems to be a snob she is not talking to us,, must think she is something better.. the opposite is the case.. an arrogant person has a healthy self esteem and a very big ego.. a shy person never does... and your friend did nothing wrong.. it is ignorance on the side of the others .. you need to explain to them what social phobia means.. that is a mental problem.. and people have a very hard time to come out of their shell.. she tries her best.. she should be defended and understood .. those other people have to be made aware of this fact otherwise they remain in ignorance and sterotype this poor girl for something she definitely is not.. she is not rude at all she is very withdrawn.. that is her problem. due to social phobia .. she can't help it.. one needs to accept her as she is and try to draw her out of her shell with friendliness but not with accusations...and malicious talk.
Are my friends being rude or am I just annoying?
They are being rude, a bit. Not so much when you jumped into the conversation, but it's definitely rude to invite someone to your house and then spend your time having a private Skype session with someone else. It is possible that Abby doesn't like you and is being a drama queen by making it into an issue with Kat and Elise. It's also possible that they're enjoying having a secret and acting like drama queens about something that has nothing to do with you. But it sucks to be excluded and have to wonder if you're being talked about. Kat and Elise are not being great friends when they put you in this situation repeatedly. My advice would be to keep your distance from Abby. If she is talking about you and trying to convince Kat and Elise how annoying you are, then it'll take her off-guard if you suddenly stop showing interest in her. Her comments to Kat and Elise will seem petty and mean when it's clear to them that you aren't giving Abby any reason to hate you. In the meantime, try to find ways where you can hang out with your two friends without Abby around. If you find time to hang out separately, there is no reason you and Abby should be forced to like each other or why Kat and Elise should be forced to choose between you two. I'd also recommend trying to meet some new people. Even if these girls aren't talking about you, they have excluded you a few times and it's possible that this will get worse over time (for any number of reasons - it doesn't necessarily mean you're the person who Abby hates). Even if you don't make friends easily, take a few steps to broaden your social circle: reconnect with an old friend, invite a new acquaintance to hang out, join a club that gets you outside of your school group, etc. You might even find that if you develop new friendships, your relationships with Kat and Elise (and maybe even Abby) improve because they won't feel like you're socially dependent on them anymore. So regardless of what is really going on, I don't think you can go wrong with trying to meet some new friends. Good luck.
My friend is very rude to me and treats me like an idiot but he’s connected to a lot of my other friends. What should I do?
Let me tell you a little story.Some years ago, my husband made a new group of friends. I met them all and liked them, but one friend disliked me intensely. He was often mocking and rude to me whenever I tagged along. (They got together regularly, and I went with them every once in a while just to be nice.)Was I annoyed? Hell yes. But I made sure not to let it show.I treated him with courtesy. I ignored his gibes, or laughed politely as if I thought it was supposed to be a joke. I let it go.Fast forward to now.I’m close friends with more than half of the group and hang out with them myself, with or without my husband. The group doesn’t get together very often so I don’t join them anymore.So my advice is to maintain your dignity. Don’t stoop to his level. Treat him with basic good manners and let time take care of the rest.
Why do my friends always make me feel stupid?
Two of my best friends always make comments that make me feel stupid. I have really low self esteem (no one really knows) and they just make me feel worse about myself. If I tell the something that I thought was funny they usually say something like, "oh my god you are sooo funny" (sarcastically) or laugh but say "you aren't funny." Or if I give my opinion on something they shoot me down and act like I'm incredibly stupid for even thinking that. Or sometimes they'll look at each other and laugh after I say something and then when I ask them what they're laughing about they won't tell me. Now I've just started not saying anything around them because I hate getting made fun of..I feel like everyone has branded me as the "dumb blonde", but I make A's and B's. Why do they think it's ok to make fun of me? I'm so sick of it.
How do I tell my friend that they are really rude to me in a calm manner?
“Hey, you’re {actions_of_your_friend} is really rude.”ie.“Hey, Billy, you’re using the word ‘hey’ is really rude, hay is for horses.”just like that.
In my dreams, my best friend is always rude to me and doesn't like me, but there's no indication of that in real life. What does that mean?
Dreams are our semi-conscious mind trying to make sense of the processing of our subconscious. Feelings are translated into a symbols which we build into a kind of story, albeit a disjointed and often nonsensical one. Thus, a baby (in dreams) isn't a baby - it is a new endeavor. Our mind may connect it to familiar imagery - make it a baby we know, perhaps our cousin’s baby - but it's not about your cousin’s baby.Thus, a friend is not a friend. A friend represents aspects of our personality that we see as separate from us but that we admire or may be willing to embrace. Of course, some of this depends on how you view your friend (the general interpretation assumes you trust and respect them).If they are rejecting you, perhaps this aspect of your better personality believes you are doing something wrongly. Perhaps doing the right thing means you will need to remake who you are. Think about what behaviors and traits this person represents to you. Then ask yourself what this trait(s) requires in order to live within those principles. If that seems disconnected with your life, ask yourself what you would need to change for it to be so - maybe you should consider rearranging your life. It if you don't want to be like this, it may be a value that you feel others want for you, but that you can reject.
My mom is kind of rude to my friends (not on purpose)?
Well, I really need more info on the types of things she's saying. There are so many variables here: 1. She's angry with you, and venting her anger inappropriately. 2. She has no idea that what's she's saying is inappropriate. 3. You are feeling overly sensitive or over-reacting to something most people would perceive as all right. 4. She's jealous of you. (I hope not.) 5. She feels you've forgotten about her, and is trying to get you to pay attention to you. The best thing to do is wait until your mom can sit down with you, talk in a soft voice, and use I-messages, "I feel . . . when . . ." NOT "You . . .". That sounds accusatory. Listen and maintain eye contact when she speaks. Emphasize you want to reach an agreement that works for both of you. EDIT--There's also the possibility she doesn't like your friends or your friends have been disrespectful to her or she perceives them as disrespectful.