I feel like my boyfriend is pressuring me to have sex. How do I deal with this? I'm 15 and a complete virgin. He'll ask me to come over to his house and ask if he's getting a blowjob. He keeps pushing himself on me; I always tell him to stop.
Original answerYou have communicated your feelings on this matter at least once. And, until you communicate something different, that once is all that is needed.I'm content to be part of the chorus of voices telling you that if you don't maintain your boundaries and respect your own feelings, that this boy – as you've described him – certainly won't. My perspective, though, is also informed by the fact that I now have a five month old daughter, and (as a father) I'm already looking suspiciously at boys. I'd like to think of myself as having been "one of the good ones" during my adolescent years and, whether or not I actually was, I can say with authority that this kid that is supposedly your boyfriend is not "one of the good ones."That doesn't necessarily make him "one of the bad ones" – but I guarantee that any pleasure you get out of sexual activity will be dwarfed by the emotional costs of losing your virginity to this creep.He's not your boyfriend. Boyfriends don't behave like he's behaving. It's appropriate and understandable that he find you attractive...but boyfriends, if they themselves feel ready (which is not a foregone conclusion), wait patiently. The that moment that he didn't take "no" for an answer is the moment that he effectively broke up with you. You should consider yourself free to walk away and find someone who'll treat you better.Quora certainly has plenty of advice on how to deal with Breaking Up.____Update after Anon's follow-up in answer wikiRemember how I said that his interest in sex doesn't necessarily make him "one of the bad ones"? The way he chose to deal with you breaking it off DOES make him one of the bad ones.I strongly suggest that you talk the matter over with your parents, orat the very least a school counselor. Or call a hotline to talk the matter over. What your ex attempted to do absolutely meets the legal threshold for attempted rape.Keeping this quiet will do nothing to serve the next girl that he is likely to pull this bullshit on. Nor him; there is a chance here to keep him from making an even more ginormously awful decision in the future. Whether or not you press charges is it's own matter, but some form of strong intervention needs to occur in this boy's life.Do not ever keep sexual assault a secret. You can call the National Sexual Assault hotline at 1.800.656.HOPE (4673) or find a local center at http://centers.rainn.org/ Get help and guidance and do NOT address this alone.
My boyfriend wants me to buy a car in my name since I have better credit & he will use the car & pay me monthly. What are the cons to this?
What are the PROs to this? If you want to make a joint commitment to each other, pool your resources and share responsibilities, it’s called MARRIAGE. You know this guy better than I do, but we both know he has lousy credit. How come he does and you don’t? Obviously we are looking at two different senses of responsibility. Can YOU make the payments on the months when he “forgets” to give you the money? For how long? And if you’re paying for a car, wouldn’t you like to drive it? Or at least know exactly where it is when you’re not?He wants you to commit your credit to a loan, buy a car and hand him the keys. He will then use or abuse the car as he sees fit. There are people in prison as you read this that are there simply because they let someone use their car. That friend went out and committed a felony. In many states you do not have to be present at a crime to be convicted of aiding and abetting or as an accessory to a crime. This means you get the same punishment. Your friend kills someone, you may be looking at life. IT HAS HAPPENED. IF IT’S IN YOUR NAME IT’S YOUR CAR!Less severe example: your boyfriend uses your car to go score or worse, sell, some drugs. He gets caught. Ever hear of civil asset forfeiture? Your car was used in a criminal act. It’s not your car anymore! It’s next stop is the police auction. You have no rights. The police do not have to prove you knew about the crime; they don’t even have to charge you. YOU have to PROVE you knew nothing. It’s hard to do when the car is in your name.Lastly,and this is a big deal, this deal puts you in an unfavorable position relationship-wise. Let’s suppose the relationship sours, or worse, becomes abusive. You’d like to end it but now you have to get the car back. He sure as hell won’t be paying for it. With luck you can get the car without having to go to court, and he won’t trash the car out of spite. Or will you avoid conflict and stay in a bad relationship because the complications deter you from doing what you know you should?Not just no. HELL NO.
I feel like I’m losing my little girl to her boyfriend. She’s 26 but my best friend. I don’t want her to marry or have sex anytime soon .?
No this is not a joke. She’s always been a daddy’s girl and we’ve always had a great relationship. I guess that’s why I’m not pushing her to move out as much as her mother is. ( her mother was abusive to her as a young child and they have a terrible relationship. I tell my daughter and her boyfriend marriage is hard, it’s not a fairytale but she thinks she knows everything. They’ve been together for four years but I still get saddened/ upset when I think about her getting married and leaving me. It’s always hard for a parent to truly let go of their child. I’m going to miss having a home cooked meal also because I’m used to her cooking everyday. My wife doesn’t know how to cook and after 12 hour shifts I’m way too tired to cook. I told her I could take her to her hair stylist appointment but she wanted her boyfriend to take her even though for some reason.
What does it mean when a girl says she doesn't want to rush into a relationship and wants to take things slower?
I have found that women are attracted to a great number of different things, but amongst the top are confidence and humour. Once attracted to a man, women will rationalise their attraction, rather than the other way around (rationalising which man they should be attracted to, and then falling for him).For a woman to say that she enjoys your company, but wants to take it slow, indicates that she is not sufficiently attracted to you to rationalise taking you to bed. This is on you now. You might be intelligent, well read, interesting, and interested. But if you haven't triggered her attraction circuitry, she is going to wait until you do before she commits to anything that for her could be life changing (which basically means sex). If you continue to be interesting but not attractive to her, you will eventually be relegated to the dreaded and mythical "friend-zone"!So you have to work out how to be confident, funny, slightly mysterious, slightly unavailable, fun-to-be-around-but-never-there-when-you're-having-that-fun. You have to find out what makes her want more of you, and then do that, in just the right amount. You have to get her to want to chase you, not the other way around. Good luck, this message will self-destruct in 5 sec.....
My 14 year old daughter's boyfriend is trying to have sex with her. Was told to stay away but says he won't.
Most people on here have been extremely constructive with their advice and I appreciate it more than I can say. For the 'I love my eye makeup' girl: When I spoke with my daughter about it, she said he was beginning to frighten her and was very happy I became involved. She said she was feeling like he had a choke hold on her and was scared that he was changing her mind because of the pressure. I could see where she was coming from because when he wrote to me, he made some threatening remarks and was behaving like that character from the movie 'Fear'. So, please don't tell me to 'get a life'. I am a mom and my main job in 'life' is to protect my daughter so she has the opportunity to live a productive and joyous life. She just turned 14. It's not like we're talking about a 19 year old girl. Up until this incident, I have been very polite in honoring her privacy. This, however, took it too far over the edge. For the rest of you: Thanks again for all the advice so far. It's helping a lot!
How to introduce my child to my boyfriend?
well if it leads to marriage, dont call him her dad. she'll have to adapt to that first. that will make the matter worse. just say, "insert her name here, mommy/ I (depends how old she is) wants to introduce you to a man that has been hanging out with me alot.. just say hes a good firend and as she'll get older, she'll understand what a good friend really means.
Should I ask a close friend (girl) out on valentines day?? Help please!?
Ive known this girl for many years (like 8) and we were gunna hang out this weekend. Were really close friends, I go over to her house semi regularly. The thing is, I started to have feelings for her after we started talking more recently, but we havent hung out in a while. Anyway I said we should do something this weekend, and she said sure but she told me to make the plans. So I was gunna see a movie or go to the amusement park+ beach with her and I was just gunna enjoy the "date" without asking her out. But I remembered valentines day is this weekend right now! So Im not sure what I should do...if I dont ask her on valentines day I doubt she will accept (ive asked her before) but I dont want to rush things! So should I A.) go out with her on a dif day and not ask her out. B.) Go out with her valentines and ask her out or not ask her out Or something else! Please respond.