How to apologize to friends for neglecting them?
Been going through a rough time emotionally, my environment isn't extremely bad, but I have a lot of negative thoughts about myself and my future and feel trapped by the way I have been conditioned to think. Anyway I've been withdrawing from friends because I feel really bad and ashamed of the person that I am and that I'm not a go-getter despite having the potential but nobody understands how I feel and I'm lacking purpose and confidence and support. Mixed together has left me feeling low. My friends are moving on and I'm getting worse, I don't reply to their messages because I hate myself and am sure I disgust them because I come across as ambitiousless. A weak point of mine is the ability to confide in people, I just want to forward a generic apology without having to go into hurtful personal detail. They have no idea I'm depressed because I'm funny and laugh a lot around them, so they must think I don't care about them but I do. I don't care about myself that much atm so it's difficult to maintain relationships when you are self concious and thinking they don't like you. Anyway I'm looking for a good way to phrase my written apology, which suggests that I've been having problems, doesn't get too personal yet doesn't appear to be a fickle excuse, I basically just don't want them to hate me because I do care about them as much as is possible when you don't love yourself. Sidetracked a bit. Thanks for any replies.
Friends Ignoring me.?
I've been in the same situation. It's hard to have friends mad at you for some reason you don't know. I'll tell you my story how it goes and their reason for doing it. These are my friends at the university. One day they've gone completely mad at me, shouting at me and not talking to me. It's made me cry since I've they've been my friends since our first year in college. We are graduating then. I cried to my bf then, and was asking myself what I did that made them so mad at me.I'm at lost then.I can't seem to find any reason for their behavior. Anyways, I didn't made any move to talk to them.I didn't sit with them. I just stood away from them. It hurts that I thought everything was great then all of a sudden they are mad at me. I tried going by myself. Doing my hw, and all. I eat alone in our canteen or my bf was there with me. It's hard. Months after, It's our graduation mass, they came to talk to me, and told me the reason why they did it. They wanted to teach me a lesson.Something that they taught I really needed to change about me.They wanted me to work on my own and realized how special they are as a friend. Although I didn't really get what they wanted, they told me that I learned something and grew to be myself a little. it was something that they didn't expect of me to learn. I don't really know if it's the same reason that your friends started to not talk to you. Why not assess your self first if there are some things that you did or didn't do that may have been the reason. If you think there is none, try to talk to them and settle everything or let it settle itself in time. If they don't want to, try to find new friends that will appreciate you more.
I've been ignoring one of my friends -- what should I do?
According to me ..with the first of the story ..he sounded like a sweet and caring guy who was totally into you ..& about being overweight ..come on , it's not a big deal ..he can go on a diet or something ! But your not intrested in him then there's no use thinking about it ..but don't block him out ..talk to him tell him instead of hurting him ..imagine how you would feel if somebody did this to you . It doesn't matter how creepy the person is ..every one has feelings :)
If I feel like I’m being neglected by a friend who is extremely important to me, and the emotions caused by that feeling of neglect are ruining my everyday life, should I end the friendship?
I am reminded of the saying:“A reason, a season, a lifetimePeople come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.-- Author Unknown”It is important to let people go when it is natural and right to do so but also accept those who have a role to play in your life in the long term. If you are feeling undervalued or neglected, you should definitely share these feelings with your friend. The trick though is not to make it personal but rather, make it about the situation. You also need to accept the outcome, be it happy or otherwise, with dignity and move on if required. There is no way to make yourself immune to the sense of loss you feel when people you value drop out of your life. The loss (and how you deal with it) does build character though and character is what will attract the next person into your life.
My friend is ignoring me?
She hasn't talked to me since the start of this term (so about a month and a half now) I don't know why, the only thing I can think of is that I was supposed to sleep over at her house on the last day of holidays to watch the world cup final, but cancelled on her because I needed to finish my homework. After that day, she hasn't spoken a word to me. And she's been annoying me because when we go to parties, and she takes photos of everyone and records videos and then uploads everything onto facebook, she tags EVERYONE except me. I mean, I don't care about being tagged, it's just the fact that she's so rude :@ She's a really arrogant person, and honestly, I don't really like her much. My other friend told me not to talk to her either, cos it's just not worth it, and she's probably right, but I just want to say something, like an IN YOUR FACE! moment something like "what you're doing is really immature and rude. You're a mean person, honestly." (yeah I know, I suck >_>) What do you think I should do? This has been going on for ages now, and she makes me sooo angry! :@
My friends have abandoned me?
I understand how you feel. I am the kind of person who has 1 really close friend and then good acquaintances. I had a really good friend for 3 years who broke away from me and then another for a year who got friends with people i didn't like, maybe whats happening to you. However, it doesn't mean you cant be friends with this girl now, i had a best friend who i didn't talk to for a year, he's now my best friend again :). First you have to try and get to know lauren, see if you like her or not. if you've done this and you like her great, if you don't like her then you must talk to your friend. Tell her exactly what you feel, don't be angry, just be honest. Explain you want to stay friends but you don't want to control her life. Tell her that you feel used and uncared for. You may just be paranoid. This may sound awful now but if it doesn't improve then find a new friend, trust me you will. After i lost my friend that i knew for 3 years i was really upset but now i have a much nicer and more caring friend. However, if you have been friends with her for so long i'm sure theres nothing to worry about, she will probably understand, reassure you and treat you better. It will turn out ok either way :)
My best friend ignoring me?
Think. What do you think you did wrong? Have you been treating him differently? Have you been unconsciously neglecting him? (Think about that one. One of my friends has been doing that and I saw her ask a question on YA about this too) If its something you've done, change and apologize to tell him that you realise what you've been doing. If its not something you've done, you can ask him. Ask him why you two haven't been speaking lately. If this guy's a friend, he'll tell you and let you to change. If you want to do it subtlely, casually tell him, "Hmm... it's been a while since we've spoken..." or something like that. Ask your other friends if they have any explanations. I don't know you personally, so I guess I can't offer you anymore advice x) Good luck =)
Why is my guy friend ignoring me?
There's this guy who I have been friends with for about a year and a half now. We see each other a lot, and he means a lot to me. Since I have known him, he's gone through three gf's -the last one also a friends of mine. since he broke up with her, he has been treating me differently- flirting, facebooking me all the time, touching me casually, and acting annoyed when I flirt with other guys. he started opening up and telling me about his life, which is big, because he's a pretty private person. last week I let it slip that I was glad he broke up with my friends because i was jealous. He seemed like he was okay with it, and we talked for another hour. since then, however, he has been ignoring me, even though I have tried to chat with him multiple times. We have always been strictly friends until he started the recent flirting, and it was only after that that I realized my feelings for him. why won't he talk to me? what should I do?
My friend is ignoring me for no reason?
So we have been friends since 6th grade (in 10th now) but have defiently gotten closer these past two years. We both cheer and hang out with the same group mostly everyday at lunch. I would consider her one of my closer friends. Anyway I have noticed that she constantly excludes me. She will whisper to my other friend when I'm standing right there because she doesn't want me to know what shes saying (even though it isn't about me) or she will come up and be like "Lauren (my other friend) can you come here for second I need to tell you something". She does that with all my other friends except me. She will tell me some things but never as much as anyone else. And she also can act like a complete b**** to me for no reason. Like today for example. Everything was perfectly fine at school and at cheer and tumbling last night but today I had asked my friend lauren to go with me to ask my teacher a question for a the first part of lunch (till 12:30) and she had wanted lauren to go with her to Spanish club at 12:40 and when Lauren told her she had to go with me till 12:30 she just rolled her eyes, said whatever and walked away. Lauren went with her after she went with me so it's not like she got ditched or anything. I have art with her after lunch and she was completely ignoring me and just talking to our other friend in that class. But anyone else she saw she would say hi to and hug or what not. I asked if she was mad and she rolled her eyes and said no in a rude way. She's done this randomly ignore me thing before and it's really starting to annoy me. I haven't done anything to her. And we were fine yesterday. I don't know what else to say or do. I really don't want to lose her as a friend but I just don't know what her issue is and how to handle it?
Why do my friends ignore me?
There could be a few reasons:—Firstly you could be Assuming that your in a state where you are being ignored by your friends…What if these thoughts are infact distancing you from your friends?Each and Every one have their own personal and professional life due to which they tend to become busy.Make Your Mind to Understand this point!!Stop Expecting that Your Friends need to be constantly in Touch with you most of the time!! Expectations hurt..(PS:I have been there).But Make Sure that you be in constant touch with your Friends irrespective of how busy you are Make Time..(PS:Stop having the question Why Should I Text First?)..Perhaps You may not be opening up too much with them.Another Reason could be your too much annoying or having high attitude problem.If your not doing much for your friends or your not too serious about the friendship then they could ignore you.Avoid being a negative thinker and always believe that only good happen..People generally hate complainers and negative people!!At times even Kind and helpful people are also ignored by many…If you fall under this category then their not worthy of having you as a friend..(Have Your Own Self Respect.)Some Friends could even be “envious” of your Success in Life and may choose to ignore you also!!Never make your friend feel Unimportant.ThankYou:)