My friend forgot to pay me back - do I say anything?
So my friend and I went to the movies yesterday. Since I had two movie tickets we agreed I would pay it and then she would give me cash. After she went and bought herself popcorn and an icee, we took are seats. We are best friends so I ate a little bit of her popcorn since I didn't buy any :P It didn't cross my mind until today that she forgot to pay me back for the ticket. Since we both forgot, should I mention it or would that be a b*tch move?
My friend lies about anything and everything!?
everything she lies about she doesnt even say it with emotion! like were talking about somthing funny and in the middle of the convo she sais "OH! the doctors told me i had a tumor yesterday!" still with a happy look on her face! a few weeks ago my friend and i tried to confront her about her lies and we told her to stop lying. she swore she wasnt lying. the next day my friend talked to her sister about it and her sister assured her they were all lies. i dont even know what to do anymore! im going crazy with her lies! what do i do to get her to stop lying? why cant she just say she lied and apologize and get everything back to normal!? here are SOME of her lies: -she straightened her hair and every1 told her she looked pretty so she said it was naturally straight. once she slept over my house, she took a shower and came out with curly hair. -she said she had a tumor and was hyperactive -she said some 20 yr old guys beat her up. she had absolutely no bruises. -she said her cousin cut her with a knife. i wanted her to show me but she said it was "so bad" she couldnt show me. 5 minutes later she stopped covering the place where the "cut" was. there was nothing there. -she said her sister was at the hospital. that same day i saw her sister walking in the hallway. the next day she said her other sister was in the hospital. -she says her dad is in jail and he hates her -when somebody says something about them, she replicates it making it cooler. like once i told her i got my first period when i was vacationing at disney world. she replied by saying oh! i got mine when i was at disney world on a roller coaster! so yeah..what should i do?
Something bad happened the other day, and I lied to my friends by telling another story to distract from the first one. I don't understand why I would do that? It was nothing to be ashamed about.
Hello :)Well - you have not actually written a question, so I am not quite sure what you need an answer to?Are you wondering why you did what you did? I will assume that.Not knowing the situation - not knowing the “bad thing” that happened - and not knowing the lie you told then obviously it is difficult to give a qualified answer as to why you did it.My best suggestion is this: You found your self in a situation where you unconsciously connected the situation to a prior bad experience. Either something where you were the “looser” or where one of the friends you told the lie to were implicated. It gave you some really bad “vibes” and your tongue ran faster than your conscious thoughts and made up the lie in order to stay clear of getting in to that kind of situation again. The bad situation you unconsciously remembered.It is actually very normal - I am not saying it is nice or good behavior - but still it is normal… It does come with problems though doing this.First of all a bad conscience. Especially when it was done to friends, but actually people feel bad even when they have done it to perfect strangers.Secondly lying is contagious…. If first you start to protect yourself this way there will be a sad tendency for you to take on the habit and do it more and more.The solution is easy though - not too pleasant to do but it will feel good afterward. You simply tell the friends what you did, and tell them the true story. Even if it is bad. Tell them that you have no idea why you chose to lie but that you are truly sorry and that they deserve both your apology and the truth. I dont think I know anyone who would not appreciate such a gesture very much and actually count you for being rather honorable if you do this!One love!
Is it wrong that I lie to friends a lot when they want to hang out and I don't want to go?
Listen, I know we all learn that lying is wrong but sometimes it's alright to distort the truth a little bit to avoid hurting feelings.If you are not interested in seeing a certain band/movie, a little “"im busy that day” will sometimes suffice better than “"I don't like your taste in music/movies”. Sometimes you are broke and would rather say you have to visit your grandmom than tell them of your finiacial issue.People should be able to accept those lies but if you do continue to cancel plans or get caught in the lie, don't be surprise if they distance themselves from you.
I can not stop lying to my family and friends. What should I do?
Uh … stop lying?
Do you think it is better to tell the truth and hurt someone's feelings or tell a little lie to keep from hurting the person?
Since i was a child, i was always told to be honest and tell the truth even if my life depended on it. On the other hand, I've lied a lot. I've lied to my parents, to my friends, to my colleagues, to the ones I've loved. I have lived the life of a liar. I was in my early 20's working for a Big Four Accounting firm. I was having the time of my life. I needed to take a vacation for a week but it was a busy period for the firm and i knew i wouldn't get the time off. So i lied. I took an emergency leave. It was impossible to get that week off without lying, so i did it. When i came back to work, things were different. My senior manager had a meeting with me, asked me to be honest with him and tell him what the real reason was that i needed that week off... i lied to him even though he already knew where i was courtesy of one of the firms employees who had seen me partying with a group of people in an another city. I was oblivious to the fact that he was just checking me at that time but that lie cost me that job.Over the years i have realized a lot about being honest. One thing about telling the truth is, you may hurt people in the process, sometimes scar them for life if they are emotionally unstable or weak but you should always try and be honest. Lying is easy. It is so easy that we don't even think before lying anymore, or what the long term consequences of that lie may be.People ask if they should be honest in their relationship even if being honest might break the relationship. They ask if one should be honest at work even if they might lose their job. If they should be honest to their friend about his/her negative traits or something they really dislike.The answer is yes. With the truth you will feel at peace, spiritually. Its hard, but its worth it. Try it.So my friend, be honest, you will hurt them now instead of hurting them later."Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth"-Buddha
My friend always says that he's fat...?
We're both in 8th grade, we're good buddies. Im really in shape and athletic but he's a little chubby, and he thinks that hes fat. Whenever he says "i'm fat" i don't know what to say back....I mean if I said "no you're not" that would kinda be lying straight to his face right? and i dont wanna say "yea you are fat"cuz that's flat out rude & mean. What do i say to him when he say's he's fat to boost his self esteem?