Tell me my future...???
I'd say not very bright if this is how you believe you will find the answers to your life. Your future is what you make it to be. Every decision you make has an outcome, a consequence, whether it be good or bad. Every decision leads to something else. YOU have to decide what those decisions will be every step of the way; whether it be to wear blue or yellow today; whether it be to go to college to be a lawyer or auto mechanic. No one can predict your future decisions. You have to put conscious thought and effort into everything you do. If you just let things happen, then you get what you ask for. You have to make your life happen the way you want it to happen. You cannot control what happens to others. I am sorry for your losses, but that is a part of life that you cannot control, and it happens to everyone sooner or later. None of us live in a world by ourselves. We all have people that we will lose sooner or later. Someday, somebody who loves you will lose you too.
I made an impulsive decision that has ruined my life and future. How do I forgive myself, its all that I ever think about. I'm scared I'll be miserable for life?
My friend, You have to understand one point. Every human being makes mistakes. That is because no one is a know all person. When you make a mistake and it has ruined your life and future, I can definitely understand your pain. But blaming yourself is not going to help you and neither it is desirable. The mistake is not your fault. You made mistakes because of your false beliefs. But you have to find what you can learn from your mistake, what you can do so that you are not repeating the mistake, what are the false beliefs because of which you made the mistake. When you do the same, definitely things will be better. Neither it is too late for you. You can forgive yourself because you are to understand that you made the mistake out of your ignorance and because of your false beliefs. Suppose you have a little child in presence of you and he says he made a mistake, how will you take care of him? Does it work if you scold him? Aren’t you to have all the gentleness, tenderness, compassion and understanding for him? The same way you can take care of yourself. If you are prepared to learn from the mistakes and find how you are not loving to yourself and change accordingly, your life won’t be miserable. Good Luck to you!
Is it true that the future lies in our hands?
There are whole books about this.Much of great literature revolves around this theme. I’m not a big enough thinker to handle this all by myself; so I googled “fate versus free will”. Waayyy too many hits to mention them all here. But these are the first two citations: Quotes About Free Will or Free Will Quotes - BrainyQuote I don’t know if this is in either of these; but this is too good to not mention: “Man plans and God laughs.” There is no definitive source for this popular saying; although it may be a more contemporary rendering of a Biblical verse, Psalms 33:10.If you want my amateur thoughts on this whole subject; I’d say yes AND no.“Life is like a game of cards. The hand you are dealt is determinism [ fate ]; the way you play it is free will.” Jawaharlal Nehru (1889–1964)The short term future is in your hands. The long term future has too many players in it and will likely be out of your control. CONSIDER: You leave your house. SHORT TERM, you lock the door and assume that you have done everything correctly to secure your property. LONG TERM, a professional thief has his eye on you and that same day comes by with a crowbar or a a set of lock picks and breaks in and steals all your stuff. The only control over that last scenario is buying insurance; but your stuff is still all gone. “Hope for the best; prepare for the worst.” Benjamin Disraeli (1804–1881)Now you make up a hypothetical . . . see how easy it is to come up with something where you do everything right and something still goes wrong. If you think about it too much you’ll go crazy. So stop worrying about it.“Take care of the little things and the big things take care of them selves.” Emily Dickenson (1830–1886).“Don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s all small stuff.” Richard Carlson (1961–2006) A motivational self-help book might apply here. I’ve never read it; but I really like the title.As for me personally, since all of this is ultimately unknowable; just work on leaving your little corner of the world a little better for your having been there to take care of it. Not the whole world. Just your corner of it.
Does anyone have the ability to see into the future?
3 card tarot for you 1st card is the past - The six of cups - this says an old lover may turn up and the answer to a question lies in a similar situation from the past. 2nd card is the present - The World ( reversed ) - Success is yet to be won. perhaps your own insecurity stands in the way. 3rd card the future - Ace of cups - The start of love, fruitfulness and happy times. A possible love affair, marriage or birth but all affairs of the heart will prosper. I really did do this reading what you take from it is your own decision. x
My girlfriend affecting my college decision? Help me!?
This is the basic issue: my girlfriend got into Berkeley and got rejected from UCLA and she is completely sure she is going to attend Berkeley. I got accepted to both UCLA and Berkeley and these two colleges are now my two final choices. I love this girl so much and moving away from her would really suck, but at the same time I know we could end up breaking up eventually and I do not want to end up at the wrong college because of my high school relationship. Please give me some advice. Now if you want some more background info: I had liked my girlfriend for a really long time before I finally got the courage to ask her on a date, and it took a few months and a bunch of dates until we were actually in a relationship. But this relationship has been perfect for the past 6 months. Before I had her, I remember being frequently depressed, and now I'm always ridiculously happy and I know it is because of her. I love every second I spend with her, and I really know she loves me back the same way. This relationship only began at the beginning of my senior year in high school, but this has easily been the best part of my entire life. As senior year is ending I get worried about what will happen next year because I am afraid of letting this go. I've been to UCLA and I think it is a really awesome school, and I can see myself there. I live in Southern California so UCLA would be much closer to my family than Berkeley, but moving away and being independent could be a good thing. I have never seen Berkeley but I am visiting there in two days. I think if I chose UCLA, we could manage a long distance relationship because we would see each other about 4 times a year and spend the entire summers together in our hometown. But it would be easier to live in the same place as her in Berkeley and get to have a real relationship. Guys and girls, I will gladly take any advice you have to offer from experiences or just your opinion. Keep in mind that I really love my girl and that its really hard for me to not consider her in this important decision. I am visiting both colleges in the next week, and I have to make the decision by the deadline of May 1st. This is probably the hardest decision of my life so the next month will be very stressful. Help me out here!
What is the best way to plan out your future?
Here are a few changes to adapt to shape your future and to help guide others for a promising future.For self :Read self help books now and then. They help build your character.Devote a few minutes each day for yourself. Analyse about yourself, the actions that you did that day, the way you reacted and later felt you could have done better. It does wonders!When someone is talking, do not interrupt in between, even if you don't agree with their views. Let them finish before you state your opinion. This self control helps prevent a lot of misunderstandings.Try to develop the art of being calm and composed in any situation. You will be amazed to see how hard it actually is to master this.Talk less; observe more. This helps you assess the situation and act accordingly, which takes us to the next point.Respond and never react. This works great especially during a fight. The time that you take to respond gives you clarity of thought. The reason you were fighting may seem lame to fight for when you think with clear mind.Prioritize exercise, food and sleep. The time you go to sleep everyday is as important as the duration of your sleep. Similarly, the time you have your meal everyday is of equal importance to the type of food you eat. Same is the case with exercise. More the consistency, better your health.Be truthful than trying to cover up with a lie. Be straightforward and tell the truth even if it hurts. Covering up with a lie each time is not worth it. People will loose trust in you. It's difficult to gain it back.Develop a positive attitude. This will guide you in the darkest of times and help you build confidence when you need it the most.For other's :Where ever you are, smile when you happen to look around and are met with a stranger's face. This small gesture has the power to make someone's day! And the smile you receive in response will make yours :-)Donate a portion of your salary every month for a social cause. The size of the amount doesn't matter. You would have contributed to a hungry perosn's sumptuous breakfast by saving a single rupee every day for a month !Spread your knowledge with people around you. You never know; your sharing could save a perosn's life someday.Take a couple of hours out of your weekend to teach kids in an orphanage or serve the elderly in an old age home. You will create unforgettable memories.That's all for now. I will keep updating as and when I find things that have an impact on our lives.
Should I lie about my virginity to my future husband?
I'm middle-eastern.. My family isn't particularly religious.. I've always been allowed a lot of freedom. When I was younger, I went through a phase where I just wanted to rebel against my culture.. I lost my virginity at the age of 19. Worst decision of my life.. Now that I'm in my mid-20s and all my friends are getting married, I'd like to have an arranged marriage. I've realized that middle-eastern men make much better husbands than western men. They're more family-oriented, hard-working, responsible, masculine, protective, loyal and committed. Except, middle-eastern men want virgin wives. I don't think that's unreasonable at all, I can understand, they want a woman who is just theirs, and hasn't been used by other men. I made a stupid mistake.. I really want to marry a good man from my own background, but I know that if I tell him the truth he'll think I'm a sIut even though I've only been with three men. There's no way that I can ever get married without lieing, because no middle-eastern with options would marry a woman who isn't a virgin. :( So should I lie, and put my past behind me? Or will my past come back to haunt me one day?