I think my boyfriend drugged me! Please help?
A couple of nights ago I was at my boyfriends house with a couple of his friends, we were just hanging around watching tv and stuff ... they were drinking quite a lot of alcohol but I only had one glass. I don't remember much of what happened as it got later, but yesterday my boyfriend showed me a video on him mobile of me giving him a bj with all his mates staring and cheering around us. I have NO memory what so ever about this, my boyfriend said that we all just got really drunk but I definitely know I only had one glass, after I drank it is when my memory went ... I know some of his mates are into drugs but I don't think my boyfriend is, they are a bit older than me as well (they are over 18 and i'm just below) I have been thinking about this a lot and imagined every possibility ... I don't want to think the worst ... but I just have this feeling at the back of my mind ... I know I don't get THAT drunk after just one glass ... and I know I wouldn't have given him a bj if I was in my right mind ... I really love my boyfriend and like I said I don't want to think the worst, but is there a possibility? I've been avoiding him ever since that night and I don't think I can ever face his mates again ... I really need some advice! :/
Was my girlfriend date raped, or it's just drunk sex?
We have been dating for almost a year now. She told me the only time she had before me was the time that she was date raped 4 years ago. She told me it was summer 2011, she was 22, in college. She went out with her friends to a bar and drank, then went to a friend's house party and drank more. She said she was drunk, and kissing this guy in kitchen, and this guy talked her into sex. She didn't say No. Then she found herself in her car with the guy, and she was driving, she didn't remember how did they get into her car. And she remembered they stopped by a gas station, where the guy went in and got condoms. Then they drove to her apt, as soon as they got in her room, he took off her clothes, and it happened. She remembered it hurt a lot, and after that she told the guy she is a virgin, and he said he wouldn't do that if he knew. Then they just went to sleep. In the morning, she sent him back to his apt. And she felt so guilty and had to call her best friend, her best friend was disappointed and said that's date rape. She told me it would never happen if she didn't drink. But at some level, she thought what if just let it happen, so she would be picked up anymore by her friends, because she was the only virgin. But she feels she was taken advantage of, because she was drunk, and it would never happen if she didn't drink. Do you think this is date rape? I recently learned drunk sex is considered non consensual in most states. What do you guys think, is this date rape?
Was my girlfriend drugged?
Last night we went to the club for a friends birthday after ONE drink my girlfriend who never complains and is typically a life of the party type girl came up to me and said she felt dizzy and asked if I could bring her home, she said if I didnt want to it was completely fine and she would just take a taxi. The thing is looked kinda concerned and sorta out of it, shes also never asks me to do anything like this so of course I drove her home. Shes normally very talkative but she just curled up in my front seat and fell asleep. When we got to her house I tried to wake her up but she couldn't stay awake, like she would open her eyes and stare at me then just close them and fall back asleep. So I carried her inside and put her on her couch. I tried to wake her up again to drink some water and all she said was "Am I dreaming?" then went back to sleep. Shes normally not like this AT ALL! She never sleeps and is never tired, I was kinda worried so I spent the night at her house. I woke her up at noon before I left for work to see if she was okay and she said she was fine her head just hurt, then she asked me if I drove her home last night. So she doesn't seem to remember anything. I told her I did and that she should just go back to bed and I would come over when I was done work. I dont know much about date rape drugs, and assumed that she was just sick or something but now it hit me that she my have been slipped something. Do you thing she was? And if yes what do you think it was so I can figer out what to do and what to tell her when I go back to her place Thank you so much!
How do I know if my girlfriend cheated on me when she got drunk and now does not remember it?
You don't, and you should:1) resign yourself to the fact that you will probably never know, and2) give your girlfriend the presumption of innocence and the benefit of the doubt, assuming she hasn't cheated on you before.Sure, you could go down to her campus and start interrogating her friends to see what happened that night. The only thing you are certain to accomplish is that you're going to convince her friends that your girlfriend is dating a total creep and jerkwad, and thus embarrass your girlfriend in front of her friends and classmates. There's a possibility that she's guilty, and there's a possibility that you might find out that she cheated. But the possibility that she cheated AND you find out by doing this? Pretty slim. Far more likely that she innocent, or she's guilty but you can't find anything to indicate this is the case.Your girlfriend is most likely being honest about not remembering that night. Alcohol-fueled blackouts are a real thing. I've experienced them. Guilt has nothing to do with it.If she's acting funny, it's probably partly because losing a portion of your memory is a freaky and somewhat scary thing. and partly because she's not stupid and knows what you're accusing her of maybe having done. That would certainly irritate me and make me act "funny." If your girlfriend has never cheated on you before, it's somewhat dickish of you to get all paranoid on her just because she drank a bit too much -- something lots of college students do.What should you do? If you really don't trust her, break up with her. If you do trust her, just let it go. Maybe encourage her (don't order her, because you don't have the right to do that -- just encourage her) not to drink quite so much next time. And do so because drinking so much is dangerous and bad for her health, not because you're afraid she'll cheat on you.
My girlfriend was date raped, what can i do to help her?
Be as supportive as you can, be understanding and patient and please try not to get visibly angry if she has mood swings. She may be "fine" because she doesn't remember and she's in denial. This is not good, try to urge her into counseling. She needs to work through it now otherwise it's going to come back to haunt her somehow. Be cautious physically if the two of you are sexually active. For your own safety and protection make sure to use a condom every single time no matter what and I'd hold off on oral until you're 100% sure she did not contract anything (some diseases can lie dormant for months, she should be tested every 90 days for a year). Also be cautious emotionally. Respect her boundaries. She may feel ready to have sex one minute and not be able to go through with it. Give her as much positive reinforcement as you can about it being okay if she wants to stop, make sure she KNOWS that it is ALWAYS her choice and make sure she really knows you'll stop. Be there for her when she takes that dreaded pregnancy test. Be doubly supportive if she is pregnant and no matter what she chooses to do (whether you agree with it or not) stand behind her. Rape (and especially a resulting pregnancy) are soul shattering. It's a trust violation and many times women feel they lose their dignity and self respect. Many others feel dirty or at fault even though they aren't. What you need to do as the partner of a victim is just be 100% supportive and respectful and help her rebuild what was destroyed. I don't know what to say about the whole "being drugged" thing because I was never raped while drugged but I think she may eventually remember. I've been drugged (but someone I was with realised it and got me out of there before I got raped) and a lot of it slowly came back to me over time. You need to prepare yourself and her for this possibility.
My friend is going to snitch on me? (drug related)?
Helluva experience.. Well first things first, dont ever get in your head what ur friend is saying is wrong., even though it may not be right (follow me?) Coming from a time where both you guys were loving to do the same thing and now hes telling you its bad because what he experienced should be some kind of eye opener.. I understand where he is coming from. He is a close buddy and dont want to see u hurt. He didnt tell that u were doing it with him but he claims he WILL tell if u try it again shows he really cares about your health and well being. But I also completely understand ur point of view. Its your life, these drugs or medics wont f..k you up physically just psychologically in the long run if you over use them.. Moderation on psychs is important if u ask me. But if he's considering telling your parents nd is sticking to that option i say its 2 options for you if you WANT to continue.. Either keep him at a distance so he wont know what ur doing , or just tell him you have stopped and to make sure to keep it from his sight. Because hey, its your life and his life, if u will be effected then maybe you just need to learn the hard way. I F.u.c.k.i.n.g Love Mary Jane not even my mom can stop me.. True story lol. And i also like psylocibin.. Besides if being bi polar is tha worst that can happen than aye, i had 2 bi polar girlfriends and a bi polar step mom. Its a ****** up problem but oh well they dealt with it without meds.. The ultimate decision is up to you tho.. but if u want to continue wit kush and psychs and ur bestfriend I say do it. Just keep them all in order and in their place. Good Luck Broskiii! Toke up!
Help. I walked in on my girlfriend in bed with another guy?
Really? I feel so bad. I can't live without her! Boo hoo boo hoo woe is me. Stop with the pity party. She cheated on you. End of story. Do you really want someone like that to share your life with? She is way smarter than you. You're out of the picture dude be happy she did it now. It would of been really bad if you were married had a house and your nine year old daughter said daddy who was that guy playing doctor with mommy. Just remember ...Always be a man.
My brother was drugged and raped at some party and he won't stop crying. Now im thinking its my fault.?
Me and my brother went to a party at someones house. Me and him met this girl. He 16 and she's 14. He didn't like her and she starting flirting with him. She said to him he was so cute and hansome that she wanted to have sex with him. He said no and the girl kept begging him please. Her friends agreed with her too that he should do it. He refused way too many times and she go mad. I witnessed that part. We seperated for a little while. Later on i was looking for him and i couldn't find him. He like disappeared into thin air. I looked around the house checked all the rooms and the last room i checked was i caught the girl raping him when he was drugged and her friends were watching. I yelled at all of them to get the f**k out of here and they did. He was in the hospital when he was drugged but he's ok now he's out. Yes charges were pressed against the girl and now she's in jail. I heard she got pregnant but i didn't know if they did anything about that part. The reason why im thinking its my fault is because i should of not seperated from my brother and now i regret it. So is this my fault im confused.