My girlfriend with kids moved to leave her ex, but now she says he can temporarily move into her place to help with the kids so she can work while in a serious relationship. We have been together 1 year. Why am I not ok with it?
Because your instinct is literally telling you something and you aren't wrong.Your girlfriend is not being 100% honest with you. An adult relationship, with children, that has already broken up and one parent or both have moved out ( the adult and right thing to do when its over ..), when one has already moved on, makes no sense to use the children as an excuse to move back in together. Their agreement is to be about the children and co-parenting. No need to live together AT ALL. Her ex can definitely move closer to her area, to share custody and even help in that way. But he will also have to work or will he simply babysit all day, every day??How do all other broken up couples with children do it without living together?? The one to move in with her should be you not her ex. She should be making her own arrangements like every other single mother in the world does!!Daycare, before and after school care, her family and friends, within her community, there is help available for those who seek. She doesn't need the ex to move back in, in order for her to work or have a life. She is being indifferent and disrespectful towards your relationship and as a person.To me, is more about testing the waters to see if things can work again between her and the father of her kids. If it doesnt, she will still have you and not be on her own.. if it does, she will either take advantage of you or leave you whenever it suits her..Do you get along with her ex? Will you be given the freedom to have a house key too to walk in whenever you wish to do so? Or can you just show up as a surprise if you feel like it? It all seems a bit too strange. I would follow my 6th sense and probably just leave her…have you tried telling her how you feel, and asking her to not do such thing as it makes you feel uncomfortable? If she chooses to have him move in as your relationship is not more important than him being there living with her, please get YOURSELF a real lady. If she doesn't put you first or before her ex? Doesn't deserve you. Take it from a single/widow mother of 1 child, who didn't hv nor ask anyone to move in to look after my 5 month old baby daughter ( back then… ) she is now 9yrs old, and still, i never got anyone to move in with me for that purpose… i managed to study, work, struggled a few times but made it pretty well.. and like me, there are thousands of honest single mums out there who did the right thing… best of luck to you.x
My girlfriend got laid off from work today?
She got laid off due to budget cuts and company downsizing, she got a letter as well informing her that "the company is offering assistance with a 4 week severance package or you can apply for unemployment benefits" I thought this wording was a bit off and made it sound like she can only choose one, Im not sure if this was some legal trickeration on their behalf to try and not be on the hook for the unemployment.
Boyfriend just got laid off.. what should i say to him? if anything at all?
The best thing to do is just be supportive and make sure he isn't alone... When you are used to getting up early and going somewhere everyday its hard to break free of that habit, so keep him occupied. Also you should go see the movie up in the air and take a pen and paper. Through out the movie they say a lot of things about getting laid off etc. So you could also get some really good tips plus its a good movie. Here is also another good article that you might like: http://comprehension.prsa.org/?p=205 Good Luck, M
My girlfriend can't find a job....what should I do? Am I being insensitive?
You probably aren't going to like this answer, but this is probably a sneak peek of the rest of your life if you choose to stay with her. You are very frustrated. I would hate for you to spend the rest of your life this frustrated. Maybe you should move on. One of two things will happen. Either you will go on, meet another woman and have a great life, or she will wake up and realize that she needs to make some drastic changes in order to be your partner. You need to decide if you want to live this way for the rest of your life. Good luck. I feel for you.
So I’m moving in with my girlfriend in May. I’ve been trying to find ways to tell my mom. Every option I think of isn’t working. How should I tell her without her yelling and screaming?
Are you over 18? If so, it’s nice you are concerned what your mother thinks but it’s your life, your relationship, your money and it isn’t her decision to make.If you are under 18, listen to your mom’s opinion. It is amazing how much I learned and should have listened to from my mom. Don’t discount her wisdom.Other than those two factors:Is she religiously opposed? If so, you know where she gets her beliefs and whether you share those beliefs or not, respect them and then decide if it’s a step you want to take.Does she dislike your GF? Mom’s for the most part can be very intuitive, consider what she is saying…she may be right.Is your mother jealous of your GF? If that’s the case. Get out now, otherwise she will never let go of you.Last bit of input: USE BIRTH CONTROL. The last thing you need to hit your mom with is a birth announcement right now.
Is my girlfriend avoiding me, or something else?
The past couple of days I've been getting the feeling that my girlfriend doesn't want me around... We live about 1 mile apart, I work nights, and she works in the day... the only time we'd have to spend together is after she gets off of work and before i have to go to work, that's just under two hours at most. But the past two days she hasn't called me, and when I call her she says something like she's tired, but then I see her online for half the night (I am on a computer at work, so I hang out online a lot at night, she also knows this)... She is generally not very affectionate, but has been even less so for the last week or so, and now not even wanting to see me has me worried... Any idea's or thoughts are welcome, but I would appreciate it if you give any reasons for your thoughts...
Girlfriend Stressing me out over dumb things.?
So I have a daughter she's graduating from high school, I just got laid off from my job so my plans to travel from texas to virginia had to be cancelled to see her graduate so i'm really upset and really stressed out. Her mother did a good job keeping me from seeing her while growing up. Not because I was a bad person just did her best to screw me all the time. So now I feel like i'm missing something I really need to be there for and because I was laid off from my job I can't afford it. She's always accusing me of stupid things. Almost on a daily basis, always makes dumb accusations to me whenever I say I have to do something. For example a friend of mine needed a ride home from work. I said i'm going to big up so and so she needs a ride, instead of a simple "okay" she says how convienent, not sure what that means. So i'm like what the hell. She always things I go out all day and at night and do all these things I don't do. I honestly really do nothing, i'll hang with my friends maybe every few weeks. Just so stressed out and she doesn't help always has some silly comment to make towards me. I've never cheated on her, never did anything. Everything I do is for her and she knows it but yet she still thinks I do all these things behind her back. So no job right now going to miss my daughters graduation and yet instead of being supportive she makes all these false accusations and silly comments when things should be simple. How do I get her to stop? Can't take it anymore. Tired of doing nothing wrong and always feel like i'm doing something wrong. Feel like i'm about to flip out i'm so stressed out.