My grandma's friesian?
Well, you said getting her into shape, so I'm not sure if you mean shape to ride or just in shape. I'm going to say shape enough to ride. Work on lunging her first without tack, then add a saddle, then bridle OVER the halter that your lunging her in. She will get use to the feeling of the tack and you'll have a lot less problems that way. Then try getting on her and once shes good at a walk try trotting and if she's doing really good, canter her. I would canter her on day 2 or 3 depending on how good she's doing. Good luck, Hope this helps! :)
My grandma wont feed my horse enough!?
I suggest you ask a vet to talk to her about the dangers of bad hay causing colic and also evaluate if the amount is enough for that horse's metabolism. You have to give a horse roughage (grass or hay) but not all of them need grain. They also need a salt block (cheap, like $5 for a block that lasts 6 months!) and fresh water. If she is feeding him something that will cause digestive problems then this is a worthy fight, but if she is feeding him decent quality stuff and just can't afford a lot of it, then make due with regular worming treatments, and holding them out in the yard to eat grass for an hour a day or get an income yourself to suppliment the feed bill. There are lots of possible truths to this particular situation so just contact a vet or experienced trainer about the safety of what the horse is being fed. Can you plainly see ribs? Then he is too thin. Or can you barely see them and only feel them? That is ok, horses are better off slightly underweight than overweight (and I mean like 50 lbs underweight, not 200 lbs). Can you not see or feel ribs? He may be overweight. The point is this isn't about what time or amount she is feeding, but rather the nutritional content (mineral deficiency can cause big vet bills too) and if it's enough for that horse's metabolic demands. Just make sure you have a red mineral salt block, fresh water, non-mildy hay, and a worming program (like $3 oral ivermectin paste every 2 months or so, very cheap). And in the end, she is paying, so all you can do is ask her what is her budget and try to help find something of better quality within her budget. If she only has $10 a week to spend, then get an awesome $10 bale of great hay like T&A or grass hay of whatever is in good condition (more nutrition from 2 flakes than 2 flakes of $4 two year old grass hay). If she can't afford these basics, you might consider selling the horse to a home that can (I know, that's not the preferred choice, but it's better than a sick horse. Try to work with her and help out with the cost) Good luck.
How should I ask my Grandma for money to buy a horse?
Tell her about your serious interest in horses and what your plans are for the future. Tell her you would like to get your own horse but don't have the money. Make her an offer to do miscellaneous jobs for her if she would loan you the money and you would be willing to pay her back a little at a time. Sometimes this works better than asking straight right out for the money. Shows her that you are a mature person and willing to accept responsibilities. Yes, if she does loan you the money, make sure you do start paying her something either each week or each month to show her that you are honest and not greedy or taking advantage of her. You show her you're responsible now, and if you two are really close - she might tell you to forget that loan after you have made several payments. This is a businesss proposition - NEVER take advantage of Grandma.
How do I convinve my grandma?
It's different when you're working with a horse that you own or a horse that you don't own. Training horses has a lot of dangers in it- Not saying that you shouldn't do it either. If their horse was to hurt you or the other way around one of you could get sued. Talk to your grandma about it and see what she says, If she says no then I guess there's not much you can do about it because she has more authority over you... Sorry, Hope this helps! =) -Fresh Paint-
I can relate in a way. I was never one of those people who was desperate to become a grandparent, it never crossed my mind except as something that might happen in the far distant future. The future arrived way sooner than any of us anticipated and it turned out that I love being a grandmother. It is a completely different relationship to the one I had with my children. I am much more relaxed, I have more patience and I find my granddaughter to be a constant source of amusement and entertainment. She and her mom live with us so I see her every day.However, the idea of actually being called a granny by anyone other than my granddaughter bothered me some. Every time someone else said “Granny” to me I would cringe. Then one day I realized how silly I was being and had to pull myself towards myself. I had a little chat with myself that went something along these lines - You are a grandmother so suck it up buttercup. The only reason it bothers you is because of the ridiculous notion perpetrated by society/the media/advertising that there is something wrong with being over a certain age.Perhaps your mother is really struggling with the fact that she is no longer young and being called grandma would just be proof of her advancing age. You and I know that the ship has already sailed but maybe she is still in denial. She might still come around but then again, she might not. Not everybody takes to grandparenting well.
What's wrong with my grandma?
The first thing I'd do is round up all the medications she may be taking, including over-the-counter medications and supplements, and make an appointment for her with her doctor. Bring in all the bottles. Medication conflicts and improper dosing can have a huge impact. Even a drug that has worked for someone for years can start causing a problem as they age. And make sure she has a current physical exam and blood tests. Older people often have nutritional deficits that impact their well-being. One darker note— change in personality can be an early symptom of someone struggling with memory difficulties. Or of someone struggling with substance abuse, which is increasingly common in older adults. You have a tangle of possibilities to work through. I wish you luck and admire your care for your grandmother.
My grandmother is NEGLECTING her horse!!!!!!!!!...........?
she NEVER rides him! she makes her BROTHER feed him, give him water, turn him out, and put him back in his stall! I am the only one that EVER rides him. and since i have school during the week it has to be either after school [but i have church 3 days a week and basketball thursdays] and so i ride on the weekends. i am also the only one who GROOMS him!!! it really pisses me off! she just has him so she can go around bragging about it and saying how much she loves her 'little lover boy'[in her words] it makes me so freakin mad!!! i mean seriously! why have a horse if you aren't going to do ANYTHING AT ALL with him!?!?!?!? i mean sure i can understand if she has him so she can lease him and make money from that but NO. she has him cooped up in his stall or locked in that mud bath she calls a pasture!!! i mean, it WAS grass but she thought he was getting to fatt so she bought a BUNCH of clay dirt type stuff and covered it ALL up with THAT. now its clay/mud whenever it rains which is often since we are in west michigan by the lake. and that can't be too good for his hooves, am i wrong?! her husband [i refuse to call him my grandfather because he is a jerk and got married to grandmother just a couple years ago after grandfather died. but she DIDN'T sell him!!! my mother is trying to talk her into letting us 'board' him for her [forever!] but she gets pissed whenever she brings it up! what do i DO??? i bet i could call the police or the animal cops or w/e but i don't want to do that to my own grandmother!!! please help me! i am a 12 y/o girl my grandmother is neglecting her horse i have 2 horses well one is mine and the other my sisters but she doesn't ride anymore and never goes out by him so . . . .yeah. thank youuuuuuu!!! xoxoxo <3
Help with lonely, depressed grandmother?
My grandma was very needy like this too, she sounds like she is lonley and deppressed and possibley suffering from alzheimers. You ahould defintley have a heart to heart with your mom and voice your concerns and try to get your mom to get your grandma some help, your mom may realize whats going on but is in denial herself that her mom is aging. Its very hard for a adult child to take on the parental role sometimes when it comes to there own parents. I would visit your grandma as much as possible, take her out for walks, lunch, movies whatever she enjoys. As well as help her clean up her house and get her the proper things she needs like a sofa and healthy food in the fridge. Maybe come over and help her prepare several meals for the week, but don't make it look like you are doing it because she needs the help, tell her you want to spend time with her and you think it would be fun to cook together! Talk with her about life growing up and how your mother was as a child. The elderly love to recount there lives and it will help to sharpen her mind. Also consider getting her an easy pet to take care of such as a cat, for company when you can't be there. It might give her a sense of purpose in life again, to take care of something. And you could come over and help her change the litter box or whatever. Its also a good idea to check into maybe getting her some help around the house like a cleaning lady. I think getting her involved with some activities like volunteering or senior groups would be a good idea. Cherish the time you have with her, you will miss her once she's gone! Good Luck!
Why can my grandmother talk to her sister about my grandfather’s injuries yet gets mad or pissed off when my grandfather talks to his son about his injuries?I can’t say for sure without more detailed information, but I can envision several scenarios:Perhaps your grandmother sees herself as a martyr figure and is overstating her contribution to his recovery to gain sympathy. If your grandfather is being truthful with his son, ultimately she will be caught.OrYour grandmother is understating his injuries to save the family worry and is concerned that your grandfather will be truthful and scare the daylights out of the family,Or - And I think this is most likely because it’s what my mother did - your grandmother is in denial that your grandfather is going to leave you soon and is desperately attempting to manage the inevitable by controlling the flow of information.When my father was clearly dying - and literally 48 hours from death - my mother turned to me brightly one afternoon and said, “Oh - he’s much better today! The doctor gave him a clean bill of health. He’s in remission!” It was then that I realized that my mother had crossed the line from “coping” to “beyond coping & delusional” and needed some psychiatric help - and fast. I happened to know a great doctor willing to make a house call to assess the situation for himself who prescribed a combination of tranquilizers and some fast-acting anti-depressant.I hope you will cut your grandmother some slack. This is her man, and they’ve been together a lifetime. Whatever is going on is hers to manage unless she clearly needs assistance.